Family verse Relationship

If they're responding to you telling them that you're going through a tricky phase, then possibly, they believe that they are being supportive.

You're at the age when you need to be selective about what you share, as otherwise you're left dealing with the original relationship issue AND your family member's response to it.

youre 21 so you can choose your own path, as long as youre getting decent grades thats ok, but you can see their worry if your marks are not reflecting what you could be getting

You're 21 you can do what you want.

I know, but they don't understand that. :|

They probably can't accept that you're growing up.

Well, I think that's really silly. I feel sorry for you.

Tell me about it...

Sounds to me like they cannot accept you are grown up now.

Mhm, sucks when they try and control your happiness.. all I asked from them was advice.. oh well.

Only thing you can do is don't let it affect your relationship, obviously it becomes a real problem though if they try and stop you seeing your boyfriend.

Yeah, I will try. But, their underlining tone is for me to leave him and focus on myself and that i'm trapping him because I love too deeply :/

Ignore it I know it may put a wedge between you and your family but your happiness is important.

hm :/ I'll try. they already think I'm distant already

I know trouble is if I was ever in that situation I would rebel more etc

so, it's more about share less and work things out on my own? I know they're being supportive but all I've been given is negativity and as if it's all my fault and I'm not serious.