i dont know how to react!

so i was dating this girl for a month and a a few weeks but we started speaking in January and she ended things in April. she went out a few days after she called things off and kissed another guy that i know of and now i don't know if i should be angry or hurt that she moved on that quick! i just need help

Reply 1

Davide_online

What help are you wanting at this time?

Instead of what you 'should' be feeling how do you actually feel?

How would you like to feel, given the facts as you know them?

Reply 2

jackson34

Well i was hurt because i was more into it than she was so after i had found out i text her to which she didnt respond which i understand may have been the wrong thing to do. However i now feel anger towards her but i feel that i may be reacting in the wrong way

Reply 3

lNurl

Original post by jackson34

Go kiss another girl that she knows?? :biggrin:

move on, it's been just over a months for you, think positively. IF you expect yourself and your dates feel deep emotional attachments for months for the relationship that didn't even last for 2 months, then it will give you huge heart ache in the future, emotionally consume you/

Reply 4

jackson34

Original post by lNurl

Go kiss another girl that she knows?? :biggrin:

Straight after she ended it i was angry with her but now feel that may have been the wrong way to react.

Reply 5

fatima1998

just move on...and look for another one :cute:

ignore her... :h:

you won't gain anything from your past except getting hurt :yep:

move on....move on.....move on :console:

Reply 6

jackson34

Original post by fatima1998

just move on...and look for another one :cute:

ignore her... :h:

you won't gain anything from your past except getting hurt :yep:

move on....move on.....move on :console:

i am moving on but i fall for people quickly so it takes time, but now looking back she was single when she done it even though it was a couple days after, and i feel like i reacted wrong. :argh:

Reply 7

fatima1998

Original post by jackson34

i am moving on but i fall for people quickly so it takes time, but now looking back she was single when she done it even though it was a couple days after, and i feel like i reacted wrong. :argh:

she must've not taken the relationship seriously like you did so that would deffo hurts :sad:

just dont go where you are more likely to see her... or just ignore her... it will take time :yep:

Reply 8

jackson34

Original post by fatima1998

she must've not taken the relationship seriously like you did so that would deffo hurts :sad:

just dont go where you are more likely to see her... or just ignore her... it will take time :yep:

Thankyou for your advice, last question though.. i know i already said this but do you think she actually done anything wrong because she was single?

Reply 9

fatima1998

Original post by jackson34

Thankyou for your advice, last question though.. i know i already said this but do you think she actually done anything wrong because she was single?

well... its her own life, she can have as many BFs as she desire :h:

if you were in a relationship with her and if she was cheating on you then it would be wrong but as you guys aren't together, she can have another BF, doesnt matter if its 30 seconds later or few days later... she may still not interested in that guy - maybe she is time passing :dontknow:

you dont have to worry about her anymore... let her do whatever she wants to do :yep:

and you should move on :top:

it'll take time but you'll see good results :hugs:

Reply 10

jackson34

Original post by fatima1998

well... its her own life, she can have as many BFs as she desire :h:

you dont have to worry about her anymore... let her do whatever she wants to do :yep:

and you should move on :top:

it'll take time but you'll see good results :hugs:

Thankyou very much i feel like this helped give me the last bit of closure i needed!! :h:

Reply 11

Alexion

So? She's not with you any more, you shouldn't care about what she does or who she sees. She has no obligation to you to wait before finding someone new, and no you really shouldn't feel anything other than indifference about the fact she's moved on.

Sorry to sound harsh :cute:

Reply 12

jackson34

Original post by Alexion

No i understand but it was not the best feeling considering that 2 days before she kissed him i was still with her, i just thought it was very quick!

Reply 13

Alexion

Original post by jackson34

No i understand but it was not the best feeling considering that 2 days before she kissed him i was still with her, i just thought it was very quick!

That is quite quick... but you two weren't really together for that long, and the fact she ended it implies she'd lost feelings before the day you broke up.

I'd just write her off and look forward to finding someone who cares :cute:

Reply 14

Alexion