im a 17 year old female who is dating a 31 year old female

i have been seeing this 31 year old woman now for about 2 and half months. We've met twice and we just really click, we are honest with each other, give each other advice and just make each other smile. Ive been open about it all to my mum and she really doesnt support this due to the age gap which me and the woman ive been dating do understand as this was a problem for the woman! My mum wants me to not see her anymore and really doesnt agree with this. What should i do? is it really that wrong that im happy and can see past the age? please chuck any advice towards this way.. good or bad.

thanks

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Reply 1

ivybridge

I think the age gap is too big personally. Just be careful.

Reply 2

shawtyb

she'd have been 14 when you was born. let that sink in for a bit...

Reply 3

1682795

You'll probably dump her in few years, if not months. That's what people usually do with such a big age gap.

So its up to you whether you want to carry on.

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Reply 4

Fullofsurprises

Original post by Anonymous

Older people often fancy much younger people (sometimes harmfully so) and you have to consider that. Much older people aren't always completely honest about their motives when that's going on. She is much more experienced than you and will find it easy (without wishing to sound mean about it) to trick you into thinking it's an equal, friendly, honest relationship, when it might not be.

We don't know her, or you, but it's wise to be cautious. I'm hetero and when much older men are interested in me, I feel a little flattered and impressed and can look up to them, which is all very nice, but also I've found in the past that men like that sometimes want to just use me. It can be the same (I've heard from gay friends) with lesbian relationships.

Reply 5

celloel

I personally find it weird, but as I would say to anybody - you do you, just be careful.

Reply 6

Namita Gurung

That's like me dating a 5 year old :s-smilie:

Reply 7

inhuman

Original post by bomber321

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How does your mind work?

Reply 8

unprinted

What are your expectations of the relationship?

Reply 9

meme373267

Original post by Anonymous

you should do whatever you want you are above the age of consent do what makes you happy

Reply 10

lolakirk

Original post by shawtyb

she'd have been 14 when you was born. let that sink in for a bit...

And your point is? My dad was 18 when my mom was born, they have been happily married for 22 years and the world hasn't fallen apart.

OP, don't care about the naysayers, you are only a few months short of being a legal adult anyway, it's not a big deal. Well, it might be for other people, but you are the one in this relationship so others' opinions shouldn't matter. Age doesn't matter if you love each other. And you are over 16 so it's all legal anyway. I don't see a problem here. Just have fun with your GF and see how things go. If you find that the age gap is too big/you have different priorities, etc, that's not the end of the world either, at least you will have gained experience and move on :smile:

Or you may be married to her with 5 kids a decade on, who knows. You never know until you try. :h:

Reply 11

Little Popcorns

Original post by Namita Gurung

That's like me dating a 5 year old :s-smilie:

not quite love... (not at all)

Reply 12

lolakirk

Pedophilia = sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children, aka those under the age of 13. Last time I checked OP was gonna be a legal adult in a few months time.

Reply 13

alberoise

Original post by Anonymous

no mate, if the gine is top quality then carry on. ignore your mum they dont know anything anyway, mongs.

Reply 14

XxKingSniprxX

Original post by shawtyb

she'd have been 14 when you was born. let that sink in for a bit...

I read that sentence looked and your profile picture and :laugh:

10/10!

basically rape

Original post by celloel

I personally find it weird, but as I would say to anybody - you do you, just be careful.

This

Reply 17

idrathernotsay

Original post by Anonymous

not trying to be mean or anything but if you spend your life with this women, well shes... going to reach the average human age for death 14 years before you do. You never know when you are going to die but they are going to be some very lonely years.

Reply 18

Tootles

Original post by Fullofsurprises

This. Younger people are innocent and trusting and naive, and it's easy to take advantage of, even unintentionally (not that I think I have). People who actually have rum motives are everywhere and to a younger person it's flattering and sweet and makes you feel ohh so special.

But that man who offered you a sweet on the park when you were ten also seemed nice, didn't he?