Getting over a break up?

Hey,

So me and my girlfriend have just broken up, it was over her being friends with her ex and I guess I just wasn't comfortable with it so to not control her I said I'll leave and it kind of got in a big argument leading to her saying some nasty things like calling me a "****" and other stuff, she seemed pretty done with me.

I'm feeling kind of, sick, I keep replaying the memories of when we first started dating and we first hugged and stuff, and it makes me miss her but then I remember she basically chose her ex over my feelings so then it snaps me back into a doubtful mood, doubting she ever cared about me or loved me like she said

She suffers with panic attacks and depressive episodes, she used to tell me I was the only one who knew how to help her but she also admitted just that her ex helped her overcome them whilst she was at a party with him. I have been there for her throughout everything, been her rock and build her back up when she was in pieces, yeah I messed up and upset her at times by saying the wrong thing or whatever, but I never turned my back on her.

I love her but I can't be with her with the whole ex thing, she's not going to change it she wants to be friends with him, my emotions are conflicting now, I spoke to her everyday for almost a year, we were together 11 months, I feel there's something missing from me even though we only just broke up like ten minutes ago

I mean we've had little break ups before but this time it seems genuinely over for good

TL;DR
• she wants to be friends with ex I'm not comfortable with it but it's either I like it or lump it
• says her ex helps her with her after telling me only I could
• I love her but I'm not comfortable being with her with this whole ex thing
• I miss her but I can't so anyhing about it

(edited 7 years ago)

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username47781

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Original post by Anonymous

Hey,

So me and my girlfriend have just broken up, it was over her being friends with her ex and I guess I just wasn't comfortable with it so to not control her I said I'll leave and it kind of got in a big argument leading to her saying some nasty things like calling me a "****" and other stuff, she seemed pretty done with me.

I'm feeling kind of, sick, I keep replaying the memories of when we first started dating and we first hugged and stuff, and it makes me miss her but then I remember she basically chose her ex over my feelings so then it snaps me back into a doubtful mood, doubting she ever cared about me or loved me like she said

She suffers with panic attacks and depressive episodes, she used to tell me I was the only one who knew how to help her but she also admitted just that her ex helped her overcome them whilst she was at a party with him. I have been there for her throughout everything, been her rock and build her back up when she was in pieces, yeah I messed up and upset her at times by saying the wrong thing or whatever, but I never turned my back on her.

I love her but I can't be with her with the whole ex thing, she's not going to change it she wants to be friends with him, my emotions are conflicting now, I spoke to her everyday for almost a year, we were together 11 months, I feel there's something missing from me even though we only just broke up like ten minutes ago

I mean we've had little break ups before but this time it seems genuinely over for good

TL;DR
• she wants to be friends with ex I'm not comfortable with it but it's either I like it or lump it
• says her ex helps her with her after telling me only I could
• I love her but I'm not comfortable being with her with this whole ex thing
• I miss her but I can't so anyhing about it

You can't stop her being friends with an ex but yes at the same time I would not be comfortable with it either. And the fact she called you a nasty time shows what sort of person she is. Time is a healer but I would block her out completely and not contact her.