Parents wont let me move out.. what excuse shall i use?

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Reply 20

TeenRose29

Original post by 0to100

I'll try but I just got a stupid ****in grade and went off on my profssor
**** life.

Try hard den haha :tongue:

Reply 21

Bang Outta Order

Original post by Reachin4TheStars

Try hard den haha :tongue:

I did try hard wtf. Honestly don't say that again I do my damndest.

Reply 22

retro_turtles

Original post by Reue

Terrible advice. All you're doing then is letting them continue to have their unreasonable control.

Better to let them know you're an adult, will be making your own decisions and they have to accept it.

That being said in Asian families a simple 'i'm and adult' won't do the trick, like OP said she doesn't really want to do anything to hurt them.

Reply 23

Reue

Original post by retro_turtles

That being said in Asian families a simple 'i'm and adult' won't do the trick,

Exactly, all the more reason to show them that you'll be making your own decisions.

Reply 24

Anonymous #2

Original post by Reue

You obviously don't know what Asian families are like.
We actually care and respect our parents, and listen to what they say because we love them, instead of being rude and completely dis regarding what they say and their reasoning.

Reply 25

Reue

Original post by Anonymous

Controlling another adult is not care and respect. Those things should go both ways.

It's funny, because you try to portray strict Asian families as more loving and caring and yet in the past decade I've been on here the overwhelming majority of people complaining or asking advice about their parent's unreasonable demands have been from Asian families.

Reply 26

HuzaifahN

Show your parents your responsible,trustworthy and that you can take care of yourself.
Im sure they'll rethink it. Im a guy and my parents are willing to let me go abroad but I think for a girl its harder for parents to let go.

Reply 27

Anonymous #2

Original post by Reue

Again, glad I'm from an Asian family since I don't believe that care and respect go both ways bs

This isn't even an unreasonable demand smh. They have their reasons.
But yeah some parents do, but obviously you're not gonna get a thread on kind loving parents are you?

Reply 28

retro_turtles

Original post by Reue

Exactly, all the more reason to show them that you'll be making your own decisions.

yeah that won't end well.. trust me

Reply 29

Reue

Original post by Anonymous

Again, glad I'm from an Asian family since I don't believe that care and respect go both ways

Unbelievable.

Original post by Anonymous

This isn't even an unreasonable demand smh.

Demanding your adult child no move out is unreasonable?

Original post by Anonymous

They have their reasons

Fortunately their reasons are outweighed by the desires of the adult.

Reply 30

Reue

Original post by retro_turtles

yeah that won't end well.. trust me

I disagree :smile:

Reply 31

beautifulbigmacs

Parents can be abusive and manipulative. It can be hard to give the situation the contempt it deserves because there will always be emotions attached even if your parents are being bang out of order.

Reply 32

retro_turtles

Original post by Reue

I disagree :smile:

fair enough

Reply 33

Reue

Original post by Anonymous

No it isn't unreasonable. There's a lot of s*** that happens at uni including drinking, sex, drugs etc which her parents want her to stay away from and with good reason.

There's alot of s**** that happens within controlling households typically of certain cultural backgrounds...

Original post by Anonymous

No offense and I'm not trying to be racist but

That's ok, because I just made the same sweeping generalisations above.

Original post by Anonymous

how much respect we have for our parents

I think you misunderstand respect for obedience

Original post by Anonymous

That's one of the things I love about our culture so I'm not fearful of the fact when I grow old I get kicked into a care home.

Oh dear

Reply 34

Hann95

Original post by Anonymous

No it isn't unreasonable. There's a lot of s*** that happens at uni including drinking, sex, drugs etc which her parents want her to stay away from and with good reason.
No offense and I'm not trying to be racist but I genuinely don't believe white people will EVER understand an Asians mind set and how much respect we have for our parents and how it's a MASSIVE thing to listen to what they say even if they turn old!
That's one of the things I love about our culture so I'm not fearful of the fact when I grow old I get kicked into a care home.

"Not trying to be racist but..."

Don't turn this into a race war. That has nothing to do with the question posed by OP. She simply wanted to know the best way to talk to and convince her parents to allow her to move to university and causing them as little upset as possible.

I don't need to understand the dynamics and inner workings of an Asian family to understand that this girls parents clearly care for her and are being protective, even if it may seem as though as an adult she is being restricted.

It is not a race thing. Pipe down.

Reply 35

Anonymous #2

Original post by Hann95

lol wtf I'm trying to have a nice discussion, so pipe down yourself

Reply 36

Hann95

Original post by Anonymous

lol wtf I'm trying to have a nice discussion, so pipe down yourself

You immediately made it about race and basically implied that white people dont respect their parents.

Reply 37

Anonymous #2

Original post by Reue

There's alot of s**** that happens within controlling households typically of certain cultural backgrounds...

That's ok, because I just made the same sweeping generalisations above.

I think you misunderstand respect for obedience

Oh dear

Nope respect and obedience go hand in hand

Lol compare the amount of care homes in England to the ones in south Asia.
To say south asian people don't ever put their parents in care homes would be stupid of me but you will notice the majority of people are white there

Reply 38

Reue

Original post by Anonymous

Nope respect and obedience go hand in hand

They can, true, but that is over-ruled by the go both ways.

Original post by Anonymous

Lol compare the amount of care homes in England to the ones in south Asia.
To say south asian people don't ever put their parents in care homes would be stupid of me but you will notice the majority of people are white there

I suspect it's a big financial thing also.

Nevermind though, if you're happy to promote fully grown adults being controlled by their parents for the possibility that you'll get to stay in an ill-equipped family home come senile retirement.. go right ahead.