Shut up you're being so rude. Some people have anxiety going out - so why won't they admire someone who can go out without difficulty, or someone who has pushed themselves to go out.

Reply 126

StrawbAri

17

Proud of all the people that are capable of putting up with me and haven't given up on me (yet)
It's not easy

Reply 127

RobML

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Original post by SinsNotTragedies

Shut up you're being so rude. Some people have anxiety going out - so why won't they admire someone who can go out without difficulty, or someone who has pushed themselves to go out.

I've suffered with anxiety (barely went to secondary school because of it and dropped out of 6th form for the same reason) and so do many many people close to me. None of us require such patronsing words. I'm not comfortable with adults suffering from mental health problems being juvenilised.

Original post by Salamandastron

Yes but a lot of people take it for granted :redface:

physically i would be able to go out but i'm too shy and self conscious to do so really, and i mean things other than wandering about in the woods where no-one can see you. I mean stuff like wearing a coat in the middle of summer because you are conscious about your figure or going out at night so people cant see you properly, so stuff like walking into a coffee shop (if that is what it is, never been) is very admirable for me because i would be too awkward to do so :redface:

She's also an adult though, you're not.
(On a side note I'mstill uncomfortable about wearing short sleeves around anyone but my parents)

Reply 128

SinsNotTragedies

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Original post by RobML

I've suffered with anxiety (barely went to secondary school because of it and dropped out of 6th form for the same reason) and so do many many people close to me. None of us require such patronsing words. I'm not comfortable with adults suffering from mental health problems being juvenilised.

She's also an adult though, you're not.
(On a side note I'mstill uncomfortable about wearing short sleeves around anyone but my parents)

Where did @Salamandastron patronise or juvenilise adults with MH problems? She didn't. She was only making a point of how she admired the user and aspires to be like said user.

Reply 129

RobML

6

Original post by SinsNotTragedies

Where did @Salamandastron patronise or juvenilise adults with MH problems? She didn't. She was only making a point of how she admired the user and aspires to be like said user.

Being admired for going to Starbucks is pretty patronising. Let's not argue any further though.

Reply 130

RobML

6

Original post by Salamandastron

But that's my point :redface:

i aspire to be like her and admire her because of the fact she can do all these things when i can't and neither am i pretty, nice, have a good job etc all things which she has hence why i admire her :redface:

Just why her in particular though?

Reply 131

toonervoustotalk

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Original post by junayd1998

G Eazyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!

Dont tell me what to do
and dont tell me what to say
please, when i go out with you
dont put me on display
im young and i love to be young
im free and i love to be free
to live my life the way i want
to say and do whatever i please :colondollar:

i prefer the original 1960s version :colonhash:

the rap destroyed the beautiful song

anyways i am proud of @ravioliyears

Reply 132

username2224711

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Original post by toonervoustotalk

Dont tell me what to do
and dont tell me what to say
please, when i go out with you
dont put me on display
im young and i love to be young
im free and i love to be free
to live my life the way i want
to say and do whatever i please :colondollar:

i prefer the original 1960s version :colonhash:

the rap destroyed the beautiful song

anyways i am proud of @ravioliyears

Thank you

Reply 133

SinsNotTragedies

3

Original post by RobML

Being admired for going to Starbucks is pretty patronising. Let's not argue any further though.

It isn't really patronising though, because it is something that some people struggle with and can't do easily. Therefore it is natural to admire/look up to those who perform seemingly simple tasks - those very tasks would cause distress and anxiety in another person. I think the point that you're missing here is that - sure, you suffered from anxiety too, but the intricacies of your own anxiety are not identical to anyone else's.

Let's not argue any further though.

Reply 134

Deyesy

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Original post by Salamandastron

Would agree with this :yes:

also more than that like she is a proper person like she just does what she wants like goes outside just randomly without having to notify anyone and goes out to places like starbuck's and like idk why but that is really inspiring because i want the freedom to do that someday :smile:

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Well idk if i have the right to be 'proud' of anyone on here as imho you can only be proud of something you have put work into, however i certainly do admire the following individuals...

Spoiler

Thank you so much for this :hugs:

Being a support team member can actually be really rewarding - especially when you get random acts of kindness like this ^^

Reply 135

RobML

6

Original post by Salamandastron

but not all of them listen to you at 5am or help you out over things like that or are so pretty, have a nice job, are generally successful and a nice person :redface:

the end

Me mum?

Ex-anxiety sufferer now helping young people with anxiety and other issues...

Reply 136

WhimsicalSloth

2

I'm proud of anyone who goes out of their way to genuinely help other people on here, because they don't necessarily have to do that, but they choose to anyway.

Reply 137

ServantOfMorgoth

5

Original post by RobML

I've suffered with anxiety (barely went to secondary school because of it and dropped out of 6th form for the same reason) and so do many many people close to me. None of us require such patronsing words. I'm not comfortable with adults suffering from mental health problems being juvenilised.

She's also an adult though, you're not.
(On a side note I'mstill uncomfortable about wearing short sleeves around anyone but my parents)