When will life get better?

I am seriously so fed up. I am simply venting here and not necessarily looking for advice.

I have never hated my job so much, but lately it has become unbearable. I spent a good 15 minutes sitting in the toilet thinking of 101 ways I could escape work. I work hard and it goes unnoticed, my managers have their own little system (long story) and it annoys the crap out of me. I am looking for something new but it has been a struggle so far since I lack experience.

My '' friends'' have totally dropped me out. My '' best friend'' latched onto my college friend and Co and now they hang out all the time. They have gone out so many times and they haven't invited me. When they have invited me I have clearly been the after thought (they post their plans on fb and I happen to see it). This really Pisses me off,however I feel like in a situation like this addressing the topic will kill the vibe. Plus it would be like I'm forcing people to hang out with me and honestly if they don't want to, then I have to accept that.

Now I basically have no one to go out with for my birthday. One of my friends says I can go out with him and his friends instead - I don't want to rely on him. Right now he's like my go to person because I realise no one else actually cares which is kinda sad.

My love life is a shambles. I have met quite a few guys this year. One guy admitted he only wanted sex months down the line although I asked him in the beginning, another dude couldn't get his head around the fact I'm celibate and backed off right after I told him, then another guy acted interested and then stopped replying to me after going out of his way to approach me and spend time getting to know me. I have no idea what happened. In between I have met creeps and flakes. Maybe there is something wrong with me tbh.

I seriously just want to disappear somewhere for a while. Instead I am just crying into my pillow when I should be asleep cos I have work in the morning 😢😢

I am seriously so fed up. I am simply venting here and not necessarily looking for advice.

I have never hated my job so much, but lately it has become unbearable. I spent a good 15 minutes sitting in the toilet thinking of 101 ways I could escape work. I work hard and it goes unnoticed, my managers have their own little system (long story) and it annoys the crap out of me. I am looking for something new but it has been a struggle so far since I lack experience.

My '' friends'' have totally dropped me out. My '' best friend'' latched onto my college friend and Co and now they hang out all the time. They have gone out so many times and they haven't invited me. When they have invited me I have clearly been the after thought (they post their plans on fb and I happen to see it). This really Pisses me off,however I feel like in a situation like this addressing the topic will kill the vibe. Plus it would be like I'm forcing people to hang out with me and honestly if they don't want to, then I have to accept that.

Now I basically have no one to go out with for my birthday. One of my friends says I can go out with him and his friends instead - I don't want to rely on him. Right now he's like my go to person because I realise no one else actually cares which is kinda sad.

My love life is a shambles. I have met quite a few guys this year. One guy admitted he only wanted sex months down the line although I asked him in the beginning, another dude couldn't get his head around the fact I'm celibate and backed off right after I told him, then another guy acted interested and then stopped replying to me after going out of his way to approach me and spend time getting to know me. I have no idea what happened. In between I have met creeps and flakes. Maybe there is something wrong with me tbh.

I seriously just want to disappear somewhere for a while. Instead I am just crying into my pillow when I should be asleep cos I have work in the morning 😢😢

I am seriously so fed up. I am simply venting here and not necessarily looking for advice.

I have never hated my job so much, but lately it has become unbearable. I spent a good 15 minutes sitting in the toilet thinking of 101 ways I could escape work. I work hard and it goes unnoticed, my managers have their own little system (long story) and it annoys the crap out of me. I am looking for something new but it has been a struggle so far since I lack experience.

My '' friends'' have totally dropped me out. My '' best friend'' latched onto my college friend and Co and now they hang out all the time. They have gone out so many times and they haven't invited me. When they have invited me I have clearly been the after thought (they post their plans on fb and I happen to see it). This really Pisses me off,however I feel like in a situation like this addressing the topic will kill the vibe. Plus it would be like I'm forcing people to hang out with me and honestly if they don't want to, then I have to accept that.

Now I basically have no one to go out with for my birthday. One of my friends says I can go out with him and his friends instead - I don't want to rely on him. Right now he's like my go to person because I realise no one else actually cares which is kinda sad.

My love life is a shambles. I have met quite a few guys this year. One guy admitted he only wanted sex months down the line although I asked him in the beginning, another dude couldn't get his head around the fact I'm celibate and backed off right after I told him, then another guy acted interested and then stopped replying to me after going out of his way to approach me and spend time getting to know me. I have no idea what happened. In between I have met creeps and flakes. Maybe there is something wrong with me tbh.

I seriously just want to disappear somewhere for a while. Instead I am just crying into my pillow when I should be asleep cos I have work in the morning 😢😢

If you hate your job, leave? And get a new one?
Your life is miserable because you make it miserable. If you feel like you're being left out, how about you make plans with them instead? Invite them over to your house or invite them to the movies. Or even better, leave them and make new friends.

So someone is actually offering for you to hang out with them, why don't you? You don't need to always hang out with your other friends. Try something new and you might like hanging out with this person who is offering. Also, would you rather stay stuck in the house doing nothing or go out with someone at least?

Life isn't all about love. Just be yourself and wait for the right person. Take up a new hobby or something.

Good luck.

It's not that easy though is it? Most people can't just quit a job they don't like, can't just suddenly find someone they like, things do not just fall into place like that, you are likely writing from a position of relative weakness yourself, no offense, but unless you're a millionaire with a hot loyal boyfriend i'll maintain that position.

It may never get better, that's the truth, the only thing you can do is take every oppurtunity to make it so.

It's not that easy though is it? Most people can't just quit a job they don't like, can't just suddenly find someone they like, things do not just fall into place like that, you are likely writing from a position of relative weakness yourself, no offense, but unless you're a millionaire with a hot loyal boyfriend i'll maintain that position.

It may never get better, that's the truth, the only thing you can do is take every oppurtunity to make it so.

I get your point, maybe you're right. But I don't agree it won't get better. It will, this person seems like she's trying at least, and wants it to change. Maybe flat out quitting is a bad idea, but see what other jobs are available, and apply if it interests her.

If she keeps talking to people, she'll find someone she clicks with eventually. Just got to put yourself out there and take some leaps. If it doesn't come off then try again. It will get better eventually.

But I agree above, don't wait for people to invite you out all time. Organise something yourself. Even ask people you wouldn't normally hang out with but you like, if they say no fine.

I feel the same. Questionning my entire ruddy existence. Why do i exist? I'm full of bad luck. Nothing has ever worked out for me, no matter how hard i flipping try.

I lack consistency.
I hate myself - i rather just wither away and die.

Have you considered returning to education?

I'm here if you need a chat. I might not be the most exciting guy to talk to, but I assure you, I tell some pretty bad jokes on the side.

If you hate your job, leave? And get a new one?
Your life is miserable because you make it miserable. If you feel like you're being left out, how about you make plans with them instead? Invite them over to your house or invite them to the movies. Or even better, leave them and make new friends.

So someone is actually offering for you to hang out with them, why don't you? You don't need to always hang out with your other friends. Try something new and you might like hanging out with this person who is offering. Also, would you rather stay stuck in the house doing nothing or go out with someone at least?

Life isn't all about love. Just be yourself and wait for the right person. Take up a new hobby or something.

Good luck.

Sorry you feel that way. That sucks, I can relate to some of what you're saying. Not a nice feeling when it happens. Things will improve eventually, tons of people go through these spells. Circumstances change often, it will improve. If you really hate your job, quit. Sounds drastic, but why not? The only aim in life is to be happy, everything else is just a means of a way to get yourself to happiness. So if you aren't happy then change it.

If the guy is offering to go out with you on his birthday, take him up on it. You make it sound like he's genuine. I'm sure he'd be more than happy to if he knew you were upset about your situation and needed him. I understand the feeling of what if he's just saying it, it feels like you're just annoying him by making him hang out with you but I'm sure that's not true. Meet up with him, I'm sure he's happy to. Also make new friends if you're current ones are blocking you out. Join something to meet other people, invite them all out. It's easy for me to say all this, different actually doing it but you shouldn't be going through life feeling like that. Hope it improves soon!