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Is it wrong for a 19 yr old to have sex with a 16 yr old?

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no it's not wrong

In terms of the law - Its fine.
Socially - It depends on the people in question. Yes we could assume the 16 year old is too naive and immature to be engaging in something pretty adult like and the 19 year old is mature etc. However this might not be the case at all.
So depends on the people in question.

Reply 22

yoda123

Depends on their maturity level

Reply 23

BirdIsWord

16 year old boy and 19 year old girl - No problem in the eyes of the media
16 year old girl and 19 year old boy - HES A PEDO RAPIST ARREST HIM

Reply 24

jamesthehustler

one part of me says no as i had relationships with that sort of age gap at that age another part of me says it is rather a question of maturity as for my age as the aspergers made it easy to learn stuff and not have emotions about my environment so i acted like i was a good 3-5 years older than i was most of the time so i just fitted it and it was only when people found out my age that it was a surprise

Reply 25

RobML

Original post by SeanFM

I would say so. Someone at 16 could just be finishing GCSEs, someone at 19 could be finishing second year of uni. Huge difference in maturity. Where's the guy finding 16 year olds anyway? :s-smilie:

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Aren't gal usually more mature for their age than lads?

Reply 26

Kevin De Bruyne

Original post by RobML

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Aren't gal usually more mature for their age than lads?

Yeah, I think you're right there. Anyway, I wouldn't go out of my way to stop anyone or slag them off :redface:

sometimes what people have can be real and you have to look at it at a case by case basis, I guess. :redface:

Reply 27

bikiniikilll

Im16 and like to go for older guys.I was doing a thing with a 20 year old guy and tbh he was way mature then guys my age and We could have good meaningful conversations so yeah it deffo shouldn't be a problem

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Reply 28

eden3

^^ I wonder what a 16 yr old & a 19/20 yr old have conversations about... O_o

nah

Legally? It's fine. Socially? It's pretty rapey in my opinion.

I'd put it on the same level as my friend who used to go to clubs, buy girls drinks, stay sober himself, then try to pick up drunk girls to sleep with. Legally? It's fine. Socially? It's pretty rapey in my opinion.

It's haram.

as long as u bust a nut its kl

Reply 33

the bear

teenagers are very vulnerable; their brains and emotional equipment take a long time to bed down:

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/the-teen-brain-still-under-construction/index.shtml

imho the age of 16 does not reflect this vulnerability.

Reply 34

intelligent con

if its legal I see no issue, 19 is barely an adult anyway

Reply 35

gavin_1980

Half your age plus 7 is the lower limit rule, so I say just ok

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Reply 36

RobML

Original post by Elivercury

That's actually rape.

Reply 37

erodedsoul

I'm 16 and my boyfriend's 19- we're both quite mature though, if our maturity levels were different then I imagine the age gap would be a problem.

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Reply 38

eden3

Original post by Elivercury

How are you comparing actual rape to consensual sex?

You're implying 16 year olds are complete retards who aren't ready for sex. Some are, some aren't.

Reply 39

Elivercury

Original post by RobML

That's actually rape.

No it isn't. If sleeping with drunk girls was rape, we'd be convicting most of the country. Same for drunk men actually.

If they're passed out drunk and unable consent then this is obviously rape. If they're conscious and able to consent, but with lowered inhibitions/common sense, this is perfectly legal, if distasteful and dodgy.

Lets not pretend here that we all would make the same wonderful choices we make while drunk if we were sober.