So to put you all in perspective, me and my girlfriend have been together for 18 months and there's nothing wrong with how her family treat me when we're together at one another's houses other than the odd occasions where they'll intervene asking about revision/hwk and whether we should put that first. It's a tad difficult as we're both in our last year of A-Levels, both work and so we get to see each other between once and three times a week generally.
However, the issue is not like the above but more other events which take place. For instance, it's her younger sisters birthday meal soon and I haven't been invited. I haven't ever been invited to any of their family meals except one (this is all within the 18 month time span). Yet she has been invited to all of my family's meals as well as those including grandparents and the like.
Going on from that, by no means do I expect it but they're going on holiday in the Summer and didn't ask whether I'd like to go with them or not. It particularly bugs me because my family treat her in the complete opposite, asking whether she'd like to come on holidays with us and to meals etc and her parents know this yet don't reciprocate that to me.
Do any of you have any ways in which I can try and bridge this gap as I am always polite to them and treat their house as though it was my own, with a lot of respect and sometimes they can get on with me really well, however on other occasions they just shut me out.....I honestly don't know what to do and I love my girlfriend but her family is starting to bug me as it feels as though I am putting in a lot of effort for not a great lot in return.
Sorry for the long message too but let's see where I can get with this
Thanks in advanced