15th June: Can you ever have too many friends?
Katie Thistleton sits in for Gemma on The Surgery this week alongside Dr Radha to talk friendship.
Can you ever have too many friends? What makes someone your ‘best friend’? Have you ever had a ‘frenemy’?
Share your stories of making friends, losing friends and staying friends, and tune in on Wednesday 15th June at 9pm on BBC Radio 1 for some advice on what to do if you’re having friend trouble.
Please note: You can post on this forum anonymously.
Can you ever have too many friends? What makes someone your ‘best friend’? Have you ever had a ‘frenemy’?
Share your stories of making friends, losing friends and staying friends, and tune in on Wednesday 15th June at 9pm on BBC Radio 1 for some advice on what to do if you’re having friend trouble.
Please note: You can post on this forum anonymously.
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not friends, not enemies, just some strangers with some memories <3
Friendships have always been an area I tried to avoid. I was a loner for a really long time, and I convinced myself that I was happier that way- that I didn't need anyone. The ones I did make friends with when I was 10 eventually turned against me, and it was really hard being alone. I was that weird kid no one wanted to speak to, and I can pretend it didn't hurt an inch- but I'd just be lying.
I've recently left Year 11 now, as someone's who's made quite a few friends in school, but I'll have to start again. The friends I have right now weren't made until Year 9, so I'm really worried about sixth form. I'm terrible at maintaining conversations, I don't want to approach anyone and I am socially inept- even queuing at the cinema is incredibly stressful. I can't handle crowds or too many people, and even the bus can sometimes be a problem - where I'm willing to get off if it gets too much. I'm sorry if this seems petty, but this is something I've been thinking about a lot. I'm just not sure if anyone there would actually want to be in my company, and when the time comes to start sixth form, I'm worried it'll just start off bad again. I've been to several primary schools in two cities and it's all the same.
Please help me out here, because I don't everything to fall apart come September.
Thanks for reading,
I've recently left Year 11 now, as someone's who's made quite a few friends in school, but I'll have to start again. The friends I have right now weren't made until Year 9, so I'm really worried about sixth form. I'm terrible at maintaining conversations, I don't want to approach anyone and I am socially inept- even queuing at the cinema is incredibly stressful. I can't handle crowds or too many people, and even the bus can sometimes be a problem - where I'm willing to get off if it gets too much. I'm sorry if this seems petty, but this is something I've been thinking about a lot. I'm just not sure if anyone there would actually want to be in my company, and when the time comes to start sixth form, I'm worried it'll just start off bad again. I've been to several primary schools in two cities and it's all the same.
Please help me out here, because I don't everything to fall apart come September.
Thanks for reading,
u can never have too many friends
come at me!! come here!! all those people that like me!! a bundle of puppies
(note: those people don't exist)
i would love even 1/2 a friend, let alone 5
come at me!! come here!! all those people that like me!! a bundle of puppies
(note: those people don't exist)
i would love even 1/2 a friend, let alone 5
It depends how close you are to them in my opinion.
I don't think anyone can have too many friends but you can have too many close friends since it'll just be tiring to maintain all the friendships.
I've had a few best friends in life and I'd say a best friend is something that develops over a long period of time.
Frenemy
- don't think I've ever had one
I don't think anyone can have too many friends but you can have too many close friends since it'll just be tiring to maintain all the friendships.
I've had a few best friends in life and I'd say a best friend is something that develops over a long period of time.
Frenemy
- don't think I've ever had oneI had a very close group of friends during primary school, there were 4 of us. We stayed friends in high school and other people started to join our little group, until there was about 10-15 of us. The group stayed fairly constant throughout high school with a couple more people joining in around year 9. Eventually the group split into two, which was a bit awkward for me because I got on well with certain members of both groups, so I was torn as to which group to hang out with.
In year 11 though, I noticed that the people in both groups gradually began to ignore me. I had problems going on at home with my family though, so I didn't think too much of it as I had more important things to worry about.
At the start of sixth form, the two groups joined up again somewhat, although there were fewer of us as some of the members made other friends and stayed with them instead. I didn't make any new friends in any of my classes, so I decided to stick with the 'friends' I had from high school. At first they sort of included me, but by about halfway through the first year, they stopped acknowledging me altogether, and wouldn't even let me into the circle that they stood in at break time. I put up with it for a while, but eventually I'd had enough and decided to just abandon them, they clearly didn't care whether I was with them or not.
I then went through the rest of college alone. I did have my best friend though who stuck with me since primary school and is still my best friend now, which made things bearable, although it still upset me!
In year 11 though, I noticed that the people in both groups gradually began to ignore me. I had problems going on at home with my family though, so I didn't think too much of it as I had more important things to worry about.
At the start of sixth form, the two groups joined up again somewhat, although there were fewer of us as some of the members made other friends and stayed with them instead. I didn't make any new friends in any of my classes, so I decided to stick with the 'friends' I had from high school. At first they sort of included me, but by about halfway through the first year, they stopped acknowledging me altogether, and wouldn't even let me into the circle that they stood in at break time. I put up with it for a while, but eventually I'd had enough and decided to just abandon them, they clearly didn't care whether I was with them or not.
I then went through the rest of college alone. I did have my best friend though who stuck with me since primary school and is still my best friend now, which made things bearable, although it still upset me!
I've got several frenemies... on Wordament.
I prefer to keep my circle small. Having too many friends is great if you want no time to yourself due to (what I would consider) excess socialising.
I prefer to keep my circle small. Having too many friends is great if you want no time to yourself due to (what I would consider) excess socialising.
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Katie Thistleton sits in for Gemma on The Surgery this week alongside Dr Radha to talk friendship.
Can you ever have too many friends? What makes someone your ‘best friend’? Have you ever had a ‘frenemy’?
Share your stories of making friends, losing friends and staying friends, and tune in on Wednesday 15th June at 9pm on BBC Radio 1 for some advice on what to do if you’re having friend trouble.
Please note: You can post on this forum anonymously.
Can you ever have too many friends? What makes someone your ‘best friend’? Have you ever had a ‘frenemy’?
Share your stories of making friends, losing friends and staying friends, and tune in on Wednesday 15th June at 9pm on BBC Radio 1 for some advice on what to do if you’re having friend trouble.
Please note: You can post on this forum anonymously.
No way! You can have as many friends as you want/can have! its normal, just make sure you make the 'correct friends'. but it depends, on media nope, but in person like at work/school definitely
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Original post by Anonymous
u can never have too many friends
come at me!! come here!! all those people that like me!! a bundle of puppies
(note: those people don't exist)
i would love even 1/2 a friend, let alone 5
come at me!! come here!! all those people that like me!! a bundle of puppies
(note: those people don't exist)
i would love even 1/2 a friend, let alone 5
lmao but how can that help. yes i suggest that you are saying and encouraging to make friends but think of it on a social media way, like on facebook, Lots of stuff go down.
Psychological research has actually shown you can. Apparently you are limited to around 150 (Dunbar's number which is the most established piece of research into friend limitation). that's atleast the amount the brain is limited to being able to keep up with. However, research into this area does range from 50-250 but around 150 is the most common result that is found.
Original post by GoingForIt
Psychological research has actually shown you can. Apparently you are limited to around 150 (Dunbar's number which is the most established piece of research into friend limitation). that's atleast the amount the brain is limited to being able to keep up with. However, research into this area does range from 50-250 but around 150 is the most common result that is found.
Precisely.
You can never have too many friends, only too little time to spend with them all.
A best friend is someone who you can be your total self around and won't judge you in any way.
I had a sort of 'frenemy' a few years ago and they were just someone I couldn't make up my mind about whether I liked them or hated them
A best friend is someone who you can be your total self around and won't judge you in any way.
I had a sort of 'frenemy' a few years ago and they were just someone I couldn't make up my mind about whether I liked them or hated them
I totally agree with keeping the friendship group small. I've got 5 real, close friends who I can share anything with. I must have over 200 acquaintances from work and uni haha.
My best friend is also my enemy in a way - we have that type of relationship where we take piss out of each other and sometimes hurt one another; but we can't live without one another. For instance, I absolutely pmsl when she fell down the stairs at school, bless her. <3
My best friend is also my enemy in a way - we have that type of relationship where we take piss out of each other and sometimes hurt one another; but we can't live without one another. For instance, I absolutely pmsl when she fell down the stairs at school, bless her. <3
How much is too much though? From experience I prefer a friendship group rather than only having 1 close friend. There's more stuff to do, more stuff to talk about and also there's more freedom.
I'm not popular but I've always been in a friendship group where there is more than 3 people. In my friendship group currently there are like 6+ of us. 3 who I've known since primary school, 3 from secondary school and 1 from college.
I'm not popular but I've always been in a friendship group where there is more than 3 people. In my friendship group currently there are like 6+ of us. 3 who I've known since primary school, 3 from secondary school and 1 from college.
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