How do I tell my parents I self-harm?

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you need to involve someone else you trust because this behaviour is illegal :console:

dont self-harm :no:

its not good, maybe talk to your parents and tell them to not abuse you verbally :cute:

hope everything will be fine soon :hugs:

xx

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TheFlowerQueen

OP

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Original post by ODES_PDES

Start by explaining why do people self harm.

They know why people self harm.

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100% write it in a form of a letter or note, make sure you get all of your feelings out. I've done the exact same thing over the years seriously and their parenting has changed dramatically. They now understand me completely and I don't self harm nearly as much as I used to. I m completely in understanding of you. Best of luck, much love and I'm 200% sure they love you too

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ODES_PDES

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Original post by TheFlowerQueen

They know why people self harm.

You ask them that

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TheFlowerQueen

OP

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Original post by fatima1998

OMG

you need to involve someone else you trust because this behaviour is illegal :console:

dont self-harm :no:

its not good, maybe talk to your parents and tell them to not abuse you verbally :cute:

hope everything will be fine soon :hugs:

xx

How is it illegal?

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Original post by TheFlowerQueen

How is it illegal?

Because its causing you to self harm... and the behaviour parents are doing with you is unacceptable :sad:

I dunno if it is or not :unsure:

it must be as i am doing A level health and social care :unsure:

Reply 8

acupofgreentea

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Honestly, you shouldn't feel you have to tell your parents you self-harm to get them to stop being verbally abusive toward you and "sometimes" loving you isn't enough - parenting isn't a part time job.

If your parents are verbally abusive toward you to the extent its causing you to self-harm, I'd say it might be best to go to someone or an organisation about this. You shouldn't have to be in a situation that is making you feel like that and, moreso, you shouldn't have to be dealing with this alone. Regardless, I'd definitely recommend seeking professional help for the self-harming itself. :hugs:

Do you think they'll listen if you tell them about your self-harm?

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Original post by fatima1998

Because its causing you to self harm... and the behaviour parents are doing with you is unacceptable :sad:

I dunno if it is or not :unsure:

it must be as i am doing A level health and social care :unsure:

Self harm is most definitely not illegal 😂 Councillors teachers doctors and other professions don't say anything like that. It's a choice not a crime.

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Original post by Kajsajbas

Self harm is most definitely not illegal 😂 Councillors teachers doctors and other professions don't say anything like that. It's a choice not a crime.

I am saying verbal abuse is not acceptable :rolleyes:

and i dont know why people would love to self harm themselves :mute:

i dont think its a choice, something cause them to self harm :dontknow:

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Abstract_Prism

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Original post by Kajsajbas

You are so dumb. It's an escapism, a mental health issue, the urge to harm yourself to experience a sense of bliss. Why don't you study that in school?

I know that Fatima's English is difficult to decipher, but what she's saying is that the parents' behaviour is illegal (I don't know if it is or not), that OP should get help for self-harming, and that self-harming is not a choice that people voluntarily make, but something that people do because they are forced into it.

Because of her dodgy English, it can come across the wrong way.

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Original post by Abstract_Prism

I know that Fatima's English is difficult to decipher, but what she's saying is that the parents' behaviour is illegal (I don't know if it is or not), that OP should get help for self-harming, and that self-harming is not a choice that people voluntarily make, but something that people do because they are forced into it.

Because of her dodgy English, it can come across the wrong way.

Thanks for translating I guess. I simply do not like her attitude that self harm is stupid. She put it across in a way that is clear that she does not understand it yet is willing to tell us what she learns in school about this matter

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Original post by Kajsajbas

Thanks for translating I guess. I simply do not like her attitude that self harm is stupid. She put it across in a way that is clear that she does not understand it yet is willing to tell us what she learns in school about this matter

excuse me! i never said self- harm is stupid, you need to re-read what i have said... self-harm is the cause of something! her parents are abusing her verbally which is causing her to self-harm which is wrong. Her parents shouldn't abuse her in any way, there are legislation/policies out there that raise awareness about this matter!

Original post by Abstract_Prism

I know that Fatima's English is difficult to decipher, but what she's saying is that the parents' behaviour is illegal (I don't know if it is or not), that OP should get help for self-harming, and that self-harming is not a choice that people voluntarily make, but something that people do because they are forced into it.

Because of her dodgy English, it can come across the wrong way.

i was making it clear but she decided not to get my point! Thanks for explaining her :h:

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chocochip_

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Original post by Kajsajbas

Thanks for translating I guess. I simply do not like her attitude that self harm is stupid. She put it across in a way that is clear that she does not understand it yet is willing to tell us what she learns in school about this matter

She never said self harm was stupid, all she said was her parents shouldn't have triggered her to self harm in the first place

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Original post by noor.m

She never said self harm was stupid, all she said was her parents shouldn't have triggered her to self harm in the first place

'I don't understand why people love to harm themselves'

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