Is confidence gained?

I can guarantee you 100% she will not reject you. If she is as shy as you, it will be fine but quite awkward at the start if you do get into a relationship. And yeah, you do gain confidence as you get older.

Considering how happy I am with myself it's fair to say I possess this 'true confidence'

I don't need some stranger on anon telling me what I am and what I am not, thank you very much. I am the expert on myself, after all

Completely agree. Be yourself as faking it may seem okay to start but you would need to keep faking it to appear as you first came across to her. Plus I think that since she is shy too, then she may be put off by your sudden confidence, idk.

Good luck anyway.

I really hate picking sides, but I will act as I normally do. The main logic behind this is that she must already know that I'm not very confident, however (assuming she does like me) she isn't put off by this.

Shy girls like confident people. Its a myth that shy girls dont like confidence you are a mythologist.

Shy girls like confident people. Its a myth that shy girls dont like confidence you are a mythologist.

I dont know you but its not that if you arent shy you are confident. True confidence comes from within and your mindset about how life works really. Thats why some people are born confident and some arent. With you that might have happened along with self reassurance but if you just do public speaking for example when you are shy that wont purely work.

You are standing on the 'be yourself' side of the argument, but are telling me that shy girls don't like confidence. In other words I'm screwed.

Where on Earth has your logic come from. Everyone has preferences whether it be the same as other people like you or not.

Dude just go up to her say i like you then grab her butt or something.



In general people want to be around someone who believes in themselves or why would other people believe in them. Its just a rule of life.

I could make this a lot more descriptive, but I have coursework due tomorrow

I'm a shy guy in love with a shy girl, who is almost definitely interested in me. We look at each-other a lot. However this is all that happens, nothing more, and I really want to know this girl. The summer holiday is approaching too fast and I have to talk to her by then.

I know exactly what I need to do, but I really do lack self-confidence, is there a quick way to achieve confidence?

The fact is everyone is born confident. When you are a child you dont say oh what will they think if I say this or that or will i get rejected if I talk to this person that person etc. Unconfidence is influenced by enviornment. When you are born you dont doubt yourself of your moves which is what confidence really is. After you grow up you start to doubt yourself. You see a true confident person would always belief in himself if he thinks he is right and that means they dont find public speaking or anything intimidating

Confidence is gained but it requires months and a willingness to jump in to begin with.

At age 17 i was a nervy virgin who when i started to meet girls regularly would only try kiss a girl at the end.

By age 19 i was ****ing women within half an hour of meeting them.

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Moral of the story OP, go for it. Focus on what is good about you and believe it will be her loss if she rejects you. Make a move and seize what you desire.

Dont listen to any of these guys. Confidence cannot be faked or you will fall flat on your face. You really have to ask yourself.... if you cannot simply appraoch the girl how will you maintain a relationship with her if you're scared to approach her? So faking it wont do anything because it isnt over after you ask her out, you have to maintain a relationship. Being confidence is a mindset. Ask yourself why you are unconfident/care about other's opinion... then come back here and reply.



Dont listen to the guy above

Dont listen to any of these guys. Confidence cannot be faked or you will fall flat on your face. You really have to ask yourself.... if you cannot simply appraoch the girl how will you maintain a relationship with her if you're scared to approach her? So faking it wont do anything because it isnt over after you ask her out, you have to maintain a relationship. Being confidence is a mindset. Ask yourself why you are unconfident/care about other's opinion... then come back here and reply.

Dont listen to the guy above