Anyone else hate parties?

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I went to a few parties, and universally hated them. So now I don't go to them - or I don't go to the late-night, loud music, heavy drinking variety anyway.

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Reply 22

Platopus

Original post by loveleest

What year are you in? Yeah, peer pressure can be annoying. I only went because my friends forced me to and I hated it.

I just left school but I was in year 13 until a few weeks ago! I worry that the same peer pressure will continue at unit resits, particularly because going to parties during freshens will be the way to make friends. What year are you in?

Reply 23

loveleest

Original post by Platopus

oh cool, have fun at your prom :tongue:

. And year 13 :smile:

... well I just left year 13

Reply 24

Gnat

If you don't like loud parties then just don't go, OP? No point attending something you hate. :tongue:

Reply 25

Platopus

Original post by loveleest

oh cool, have fun at your prom :tongue:

. And year 13 :smile:

... well I just left year 13

I won't haha. But thanks for the thought. Your school not having a prom?

Original post by Gnat

If you don't like loud parties then just don't go, OP? No point attending something you hate. :tongue:

I just don't want my friends to hate me :frown:

Reply 26

saladays

I've never been to a party that isn't just me and close friends doing our own thing because I just don't find them fun, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I hate crowded rooms, loud (usually pretty *****y) music, people screaming over each other, the expectation to get bladdered or shagged or whatever, the whole thing mostly just an opportunity for people to take a gazillion pictures to post on Facebook the next day... no, not my thing.

Reply 27

Gnat

Original post by Platopus

I won't haha. But thanks for the thought. Your school not having a prom?

I just don't want my friends to hate me :frown:

If your friends care about you they won't hate you for having a different idea of fun. You can just explain to them what it is about parties you don't like eg noise, and say you just want to hang out at small group meet ups. Tell them you prefer small group meet ups cos that way you can hold a conversation with them, and you really like just chatting and chilling with them in a relaxed setting cos they're awesome company. Me and my friends all have different interests and ideas of fun but we're still friends. Some of my friends love partying and getting drunk and others hate that stuff, but we all appreciate that we're different and still enjoy spending time together just chatting about random stuff.

Reply 28

loveleest

Original post by Platopus

I won't haha. But thanks for the thought. Your school not having a prom?

We had a year 13 prom, in may :/ it's just that most of my friends did't go so I wasn't forced :smile:

and I heard it wasn't all that good anyway lol.

Reply 29

Hugs31

I'm okay with them, I'm quite a calm and reserved guy so it makes me a useful antidote for parties that have too many alpha males and extroverts who try and dominate and photobomb every picture and interrupt every conversation I prefer parties held in the day because they are often more relaxed (which suits me really well) whereas parties that precede a night out don't as much unless there's a room where you can sit and chat to people with limited disturbance.

Reply 30

shawn_o1

Same, I don't like that type of "socialising" in which getting drunk appears to be an obligation

Oh, and OP, if you're looking for freshers advice - I didn't attend any events, just went straight into studying. Got a first at the end. But then again I probably spent too much time studying or procrastinating, and never enough time planning for after I graduate, hence I didn't get a job for 7 months

(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 31

fefssdf

I actually didn't turn up to my best mates 18th party because I was so scared about the whole prospect of drinking and people dancing as I'd never been to a ' party ' before so just bottled it ..

Reply 32

Lkathryn08

I personally enjoy them! Especially since going to uni! When you're around people you enjoy spending time with it can be fun socialising with them, dancing and just letting your hair down. I don't get so drunk I don't know what's happening but just enough so I'm more relaxed and I can talk more even with people I don't know that well as I lose a bit of my anxiety.
I can understand how it might not be other people's idea of fun, especially when alcohol is involved and people may not drink.

Reply 33

Platopus

Original post by Gnat

I know you're right and they would understand. I'm probably being silly but I still feel it's a duty to them somehow, especially as most of the time when we meet up it isn't for house parties and things like that - it is just to chat, shop, go to a cafe etc.

Original post by loveleest

We had a year 13 prom, in may :/ it's just that most of my friends did't go so I wasn't forced :smile:

and I heard it wasn't all that good anyway lol.

Ah I wish that were the case for me too. We have an "after party" after prom too where everyone over 18 (which unfortunately includes me and all but one of my friends) go clubbing. So, I will have to endure two parties in one night.

Original post by shawn_o1

Did you manage to make many friends during freshers anyway?

Reply 34

Platopus

Original post by fefssdf

I actually didn't turn up to my best mates 18th party because I was so scared about the whole prospect of drinking and people dancing as I'd never been to a ' party ' before so just bottled it ..

It was one of my best friend's 18th birthday party last night and she was so excited about it I felt that I really had to go. I actually ended up leaving early I was having such a bad time.

Reply 35

shawn_o1

Original post by Platopus

Did you manage to make many friends during freshers anyway?

I didn't make a friend until third year :lol:

(and we drifted apart). Apart from that, I did talk to those that I was put in groups with for assignment purposes

Reply 36

Grumpyteen

I don't mind parties. I occasionally find myself at parties going mad on the dance floor.
But sometimes I just prefer a nice glass of wine and good music at home with nothing but my own thoughts.