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Would you date a girl who doesn't drink alcohol/rarely drinks?

So I don't drink, I don't smoke and I regularly spend my weekends either cuddling with my dogs or hanging out with my friends. When I go clubbing, I never go beyond half a glass of wine or I just end up drinking fizzy soft drinks/water. I was genuinely wondering though, since I'm going to university soon and there's a huge pressure to drink, would guys find it a turn off if a girl doesn't drink alcohol? I don't touch the stuff as regularly as my friends do because waking up with hangovers has never appealed to me and all that.

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Hell yes.

The best sorts of girls.

For me, anyway.

But hey ho, I'm the best sort of guy anyway. Ha.

The broader response is simple though. Guys that don't enjoy drinking culture will enjoy women and other friends that don't enjoy drinking culture. Guys that enjoy drinking culture will enjoy women and other friends that enjoy drinking culture. Same applies to weed.

That said my current gf binge drinks and smokes weed (infrequently I must add) and I don't mind. That said I don't go out drinking with her lul.

She can go out and grind up to some other guy in a club but ultimately she knows who is going to be grinding into her on and possibly off the bed when she has those hangover blues the next morning.

To be totally honest though I'd definitely prefer it if she was tee-total and had absolutely mirrored recreational interests to me but let's face it, that's hard to find; it is hard enough finding someone one can hold a conversation with for a long time multiple times a week without getting bored.
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If a guy doesn't want to date me just because I don't do something that costs a lot of money then I couldn't care less about him.
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Of course I would! it Not drinking wouldn't even be something I'd give a second thought at. It wouldn't even be an issue, it's such a nothing thing. In fact...

I think id like it.
I don't know a single guy that exclusively dates alchoholics... what on earth are you on about? It's not an attractive characteristic - drinking a lot. People can do whatever they want but nobody would be less attracted to you because you're not an alchoholic... I guess there's a false correlation between maybe confidence and drinking, or something, but no.
Sounds like my type of person, especially the dogs bit :love:
most guys would probably prefer it tbh, gives them less to worry about
Original post by ComputerMaths97
I don't know a single guy that exclusively dates alchoholics... what on earth are you on about? It's not an attractive characteristic - drinking a lot. People can do whatever they want but nobody would be less attracted to you because you're not an alchoholic... I guess there's a false correlation between maybe confidence and drinking, or something, but no.


I think she's more concerned about her apparent lack of desire for clubbing and that sort of culture. Which at univeristy is admittedly very prevalent. At least here in Leeds anyway...

She should be concerned about that in one sense as most males will probably not enjoy her lack of 'partying'. On the other hand a significant proportion will and that proportion likely will enjoy similar recreational activities to her. So...
Original post by silverfox44
most guys would probably prefer it tbh, gives them less to worry about


They dont seem to prefere it im 30 rarely drink trained for athletics all my life and never get interest nor had a serious bf lol
Original post by Anonymous
They dont seem to prefere it im 30 rarely drink trained for athletics all my life and never get interest nor had a serious bf lol


Approach guys first then.

And/or lower your standards.
Original post by Anonymous
They dont seem to prefere it im 30 rarely drink trained for athletics all my life and never get interest nor had a serious bf lol


i doubt you not drinking is the reason for this, i mean it might be the reason you haven't be able to socialise with guys but i doubt guys aren't taking interest in you because you don't drink
Absolutely fine if you like them enough. Dont feel too pressured into drinking if you dont want to. Smiling and learning to say no will help.
Original post by TorpidPhil
Approach guys first then.

And/or lower your standards.


I really dont have many standards, just that he keeps himself fairly fit like me and has a nice personality, almost any face, height, job will do lol. I should approach more though as im very quiet/shy and i guess often come across as ignorant.
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I wouldn't want a gf who was disapproving of alcohol, but moderate social drinking is pretty sensible. Plus I imagine there are guys who don't drink too.
Original post by silverfox44
i doubt you not drinking is the reason for this, i mean it might be the reason you haven't be able to socialise with guys but i doubt guys aren't taking interest in you because you don't drink


True, its probably more that i dont really socialise much, in fact this is the main reason why i dont drink lol.
Original post by Anonymous
I really dont have many standards, just that he keeps himself fairly fit like me and has a nice personality, almost any face, height, job will do lol. I should approach more though as im very quiet/shy and i guess often come across as ignorant.


That's probably is then tbh :smile:

Myself I never put myself in an environment where I would meet anyone, so I didn't. Even though really I'm special. Even as far as humans go. The moment I did that the whole world was at my door-steps, of course, it does help to be attractive, but...

Honestly, just try dating apps/online dating and then just go ****ing all out with the dates lol. And by that I mean be open and honest and confident. As much as you can. Just let the real you shine through. Yes the first few dates are statistically likely to fail. But it's a fantastic way to get a really good relationship, or a **** one if that would do, lol.

I swear, to not use dating apps is like trying to cut the grass with scissors instead of a lawnmower - you're just gonna end up spending way more time 'finishing the job' than necessary.
Original post by TorpidPhil
I think she's more concerned about her apparent lack of desire for clubbing and that sort of culture. Which at univeristy is admittedly very prevalent. At least here in Leeds anyway...

She should be concerned about that in one sense as most males will probably not enjoy her lack of 'partying'. On the other hand a significant proportion will and that proportion likely will enjoy similar recreational activities to her. So...


It's not so much the partying. I love parties. Just not the huge loads of alcohol though.
Original post by Anonymous
It's not so much the partying. I love parties. Just not the huge loads of alcohol though.


You'll have literally no problems at all then as you'll get pretty much the best of both worlds.
I mean I'll take a girl who doesn't smoke/drink whatever because I don't base my attraction on girls who do smoke/drink...it's neither a qualifier nor disqualifier.
Original post by TorpidPhil
That's probably is then tbh :smile:

Myself I never put myself in an environment where I would meet anyone, so I didn't. Even though really I'm special. Even as far as humans go. The moment I did that the whole world was at my door-steps, of course, it does help to be attractive, but...

Honestly, just try dating apps/online dating and then just go ****ing all out with the dates lol. And by that I mean be open and honest and confident. As much as you can. Just let the real you shine through. Yes the first few dates are statistically likely to fail. But it's a fantastic way to get a really good relationship, or a **** one if that would do, lol.

I swear, to not use dating apps is like trying to cut the grass with scissors instead of a lawnmower - you're just gonna end up spending way more time 'finishing the job' than necessary.


Yea Ive never put myself on dating sites or anything as ive always thought most people on there are just after casual sex etc. Id rather meet someone in person but maybe i should give online a try. Im glad things are different for you since you opened up a bit more ha.

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