How to deal with an extremely controlling parent?

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Woahhhh. Not even a Student Loan?? If I was in the exact same situation as you I would actually separate myself from my parents and live by myself (or with friends). You should leave when the chance arises. You don't want to hit 30 and still be treated like that.

Anyway read this article if you are still thinking of going to uni (it explains everything you should do to apply for a student loan even if your parents are refusing to support you).

Hi thanks for the reply!! And yeah, a student loan is completely out of the question. And yes, I will be going to uni - pray to god I get the grades, as I'll never hear the end of it from my mum. My parents (dad, reluctantly) will be paying for university for me ... effectively controlling everything again.

That's terrible. What would happen if you stayed over at a friend's house? The police can't exactly arrest an 18 year old and bring you back after all.

Are you an international student?

Just tell that ***** to shut the f**k up. ***** slap her right around the face, then take your belt off and give her a warning. If your dad says anything, ask him if he wants some.
Don't let other people tell you how to live. I would never let anyone control my life other than me. Put your foot down mate. Make a stand.
That was a joke. But seriously man you can't let people control you.

No offence but your mum sounds like a complete ****

Haha this has made my day! Sometimes, when I'm just so goddamn p*ssed at her, I completely feel like just telling her just to shut the f*ck up, however she is my mother after all. My dad would probably approve though tbh, as she controls him excessively as well.

I know I can't let her treat me like this, however I have no money, and have never been able to get a job (during school time, there was "no time to work". during the summer, I always go with my mum to Belarus (again, this is forced). And I do not know the language well enough to work there. When I go to uni, there will be "no time to work" again, because I'm going to be studying pretty much all the time, well according to my mum again). I'm pretty much dependant on my parents; I don't think there'll be a way to escape the trap tbh :/

You really need to disobey them and prove them wrong. Come back after and be like "see, I'm not dead"

Because of a med condition my parents were quite restrictive, but I ignored them and then they just got used to it, because I always came back.

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Don't worry, she is.

I feel bad about saying it about my own mother, but I've just about had enough.

It kind of comes down to if you want to keep your mum happy and maintain a relationship. One thing I will tell you is that you only have a limited amount of time on this planet and it's a shame to waste it

Man that's the same exact thing as me, down to the phone calls and that. I wasn't even allowed to apply for Unis out of London because my mum and dad don't trust me living away from home. I'm going to get a degree I'm not going to get pregnant and become a drug addict!It helps to get your mum to get to know your friend's parents so that she feels okay with them. Maybe get your dad to back you since he seems alright? You maybe need to sit with her and explain everything in that original post. You try your best to do well in school, you're dedicated to your future, and you haven't done a bad thing in your life that would make her worry about you. Maybe emphasise your Christian morals, tell her that you'd never compromise those. Maybe tell her that if she lets you go, you promise that you'd call her once and a while to show her that you're safe (I know it'sannoying, but if you really want to sleep over at your mate's house, then you have to just accept it). Bottom line, she does it because she's worried about you. 18 years old, she thinks you're impressionable and likely to get up to all sorts. But I guess making it known that you appreciate her love and that you will always be grateful and this will help her realise that she's not misunderstood. But make her know that you've missed opportunities to really grow socially because of it. I just hope that this upset doesn't become resentment for your mum. And I also hope that you can get the freedom you want.Good luck man.