How to get the girl ive wanted for so long
so to start off im a 19 year old who is not the best looking. this girl that i seen is very different to me she is good looking and has everything for a personality. during college we talked and i found her to be very comfortable to be around with. i stopped taking to her though and just stuck to my circle of friends and never really socialised with her or anyone again in my sixth form again. the girl is good looking and has a great personality and i believe i have no chance with her. its like my situation is that of a college movie or high school movie where the nerd tries so hard to get the popular girl. dont get me wrong im not like nerdy i just dont socialise much and may be due to the way i look and my insecurities. now things are even more difficult since we broke up from sixth form and went our separate ways however we will be attending unis which are quite close to each other and there will be oppourtunites for me to meet her due to mutual friends so i wanted to know in simple terms how can a guy who doesn't have much friends, not very popular,not good looking and doesn't go out much or socialise because of this get a girl who does exact opposite and is the most popular, also i just wanted to say she is apparently not ll that good looking in the opinions of my friends and other but for some reason i find her attractive. in simple terms how can i get a girl who is way out of my league?
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ps:sorry for the long post
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Original post by theunkownsingh
so to start off im a 19 year old who is not the best looking. this girl that i seen is very different to me she is good looking and has everything for a personality. during college we talked and i found her to be very comfortable to be around with. i stopped taking to her though and just stuck to my circle of friends and never really socialised with her or anyone again in my sixth form again. the girl is good looking and has a great personality and i believe i have no chance with her. its like my situation is that of a college movie or high school movie where the nerd tries so hard to get the popular girl. dont get me wrong im not like nerdy i just dont socialise much and may be due to the way i look and my insecurities. now things are even more difficult since we broke up from sixth form and went our separate ways however we will be attending unis which are quite close to each other and there will be oppourtunites for me to meet her due to mutual friends so i wanted to know in simple terms how can a guy who doesn't have much friends, not very popular,not good looking and doesn't go out much or socialise because of this get a girl who does exact opposite and is the most popular, also i just wanted to say she is apparently not ll that good looking in the opinions of my friends and other but for some reason i find her attractive. in simple terms how can i get a girl who is way out of my league?
ps:sorry for the long post
ps:sorry for the long post
make at least a million pounds
buy a McLaren or another very fast car (a helicopter is even better)
buy a nice gold watch by a major swiss brand (Rolex, Audemars Piguet or Patek Philippe but a Cartier, Breitling or tag Heuer is passable)
buy a lot of nice diamond pieces
splash out on some designer clothes
and that should do it
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If it was possible,don't you think everyone would do it? And if all the pretty girls are engaged with the non goodlooking guys, how could the non goodlooking girls have boyfriends?
Original post by dnan
Fs ignore those comments, just talk to her outside of sixth form by meeting up with her and a few other friends, then text and stuff. Eventually ask if she'll meet up individually.
then prepare for disappointment and delusion
Increase your price tag i.e, date other girls and become a charmer. Women want what other women want more.
Original post by Foo.mp3
Work on yourself, socialise, and build up for your self-confidence. Here's a good place to start re: self-worth
9 times out of 10 the 'out of your league' thing doesn't, in essence, apply - it's a matter of patiently, diligently, exhaustively, applying, and believing, in yourself. Just look at all the average looking blokes wandering around with hotties, FYR
9 times out of 10 the 'out of your league' thing doesn't, in essence, apply - it's a matter of patiently, diligently, exhaustively, applying, and believing, in yourself. Just look at all the average looking blokes wandering around with hotties, FYR
That sounds like a training slogan advert. We all have our limitations and 'leagues' exist in all aspects of life,including attraction and dating. Society is not altruistic nor good nor fair.
(edited 7 years ago)
Increase your own attractiveness:1) Go the gym2) Wear good clothes
3) Be sociable
4) Be playful and fun to be around
5) Have ambitions, hobbies, travel
Do something, as stated, go to the gym, drink lots of water, eat 5 fruits of veg a day, have good posture. To get this girl, you have to be unique and offer something different, possibly in terms of intellect, charm, being an interesting person, being good at sports.
Never, ever be a wimp or be weak, stand tall, talk with a deep voice (not a low, confident voice). Simply don't care about what she or other girls think.
I wish you the best of luck.
3) Be sociable
4) Be playful and fun to be around
5) Have ambitions, hobbies, travel
Do something, as stated, go to the gym, drink lots of water, eat 5 fruits of veg a day, have good posture. To get this girl, you have to be unique and offer something different, possibly in terms of intellect, charm, being an interesting person, being good at sports.
Never, ever be a wimp or be weak, stand tall, talk with a deep voice (not a low, confident voice). Simply don't care about what she or other girls think.
I wish you the best of luck.
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by theunkownsingh
so to start off im a 19 year old who is not the best looking. this girl that i seen is very different to me she is good looking and has everything for a personality. during college we talked and i found her to be very comfortable to be around with. i stopped taking to her though and just stuck to my circle of friends and never really socialised with her or anyone again in my sixth form again. the girl is good looking and has a great personality and i believe i have no chance with her. its like my situation is that of a college movie or high school movie where the nerd tries so hard to get the popular girl. dont get me wrong im not like nerdy i just dont socialise much and may be due to the way i look and my insecurities. now things are even more difficult since we broke up from sixth form and went our separate ways however we will be attending unis which are quite close to each other and there will be oppourtunites for me to meet her due to mutual friends so i wanted to know in simple terms how can a guy who doesn't have much friends, not very popular,not good looking and doesn't go out much or socialise because of this get a girl who does exact opposite and is the most popular, also i just wanted to say she is apparently not ll that good looking in the opinions of my friends and other but for some reason i find her attractive. in simple terms how can i get a girl who is way out of my league?
ps:sorry for the long post
ps:sorry for the long post
Mate, before you think about going for girls, think about yourself first? How can you be that negative and excpect to get a good looking girl?
Original post by Foo.mp3
Yup, but it's not as simple as folks being lumped in immovable/inescapable aesthetic leagues, was my point. Male/female attraction are distinct
looks matter the most. There's no point denying that. Society is shallow and selfish,also notice the hypocrisy of wanting a better looking girl and not allowing ugly girls to do the same . Then why isn't he interested in ugly girls who 'try to move their league'?
Original post by Foo.mp3
Female attraction is much more nuanced than that, trust me, I'm a dating professional. This is my area! 
See the thread I linked you to. Plenty of elucidation therein
See the thread I linked you to. Plenty of elucidation therein
I think you're a professional bla bla bla. There's no need for your delucidations. Common sense is enough to know that girls also like attractive guys since the world exists. Also the oldest job in the world is prostitution which is a billion dollar business worldwide for one simple reason. Some men have to pay for what they can't get for free.
Original post by Foo.mp3
Consider what constitutes 'attractive', you'll find it comprises more than mere aesthetics, particularly where females are concerned
we're all about the same guys and girls, no point making a delusional alternative reality. The point is competition, of course a moronic guy who is goodlooking could be penalised but there are tons of goodlooking guys who chase the pretty girls. No way to beat them and why should it be. Then a guy should do the same and date ugly girls.
Watch one of these "high school movies" and half way through point at the nerd and say subtly, 'that's me' - proceed to point at the super hot girl, 'that's you' etc...
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Original post by RoyalMarine
then prepare for disappointment and delusion
Not guaranteeing anything but you have to take chances and risks in life. No point thinking I have no chance and not doing anything as then you do have no chance
Original post by RoyalMarine
(edited 7 years ago)
You really should have made more of an effort at sixth form to get closer to her because you both will be at different uni's so won't see each other unless it's through mutual friends plus she might meet someone else and there are many many guys to choose from at uni.*
Think you missed an opportunity as it's easier at sixth form not many boys there and usually it's the same people you have known since you were in year 7.*
Good luck though hope it works out if I were her I would rather meet new people.
Think you missed an opportunity as it's easier at sixth form not many boys there and usually it's the same people you have known since you were in year 7.*
Good luck though hope it works out if I were her I would rather meet new people.
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