Fake friends or no friends at all?

He's probably wondering why dafaq you're so quiet and never start a conversation with him, or never bother talking to his friends

Not everyone's good with picking up microscopic clues on body language, you know. Some people are very good at it, some are downright terrible, but that doesn't make them bad people. Friendship is a two way street, why is it always him who has to come up to you first?

Definitely a male troll.

That's not true. I understand I didn't make it very clear because I only focused on the negatives in my post, but you can't jump to that conclusion. I admit I used to be shy and this boy in particular probably initiated things first - and he + my other friends are way more outgoing and social than me. I do leave my comfort zone and make conversation with lots of people. But I'd rather talk about meaningful things when I have time and I am not busy with schoolwork.

Look at it from his point of view:

-> Tries to make conversation. You get mad at him
-> Tries to give you some space while you're revising and talks to other people. You still get mad at him.

He can't win!

We all value our personal time, but friendship is a two way street. I don't care about gossip, or relationships or celebrities, but I'll still make conversation with my friends about them if it makes them happy. In return, they have to sit through my explanation of the last neuroscientific theory I just read about. The world cannot revolve around your feelings alone, it's hard for people to connect with you if you have such a rigid timetable as to when people can (and should) and cannot speak to you.

When he talks to you, you don't like it. When he doesn't talk, you don't like it. Maybe the problem is your own self?

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If what I said wasn't true, I think you're reading too much into it. Why don't you try initiating a conversation next time and see what happens?

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If you had a poll then id go with none.

If they arent like that every day, then only you cna make the decisions whether the pros oitweigh the cons. It is unlikely you will see them once you leave school.

You might want to consider how much they cramp your style and whether there will be much fuss if you ditch.

Thank you. This has definietly been the most helpful because you're right.

Perhaps I won't ditch them as such but rather limit contact if that makes sense.

It seems to me like they are friends of convenience. they are ok, but you havent got each others backs and in a few years time you will have lost touch completely. Its not all bad, so if you do stay instead of isolating yourself, then you are just going to have to accept that is how they are.

It wont be long before you are off to Uni or out in the wider world. Sounds to me like the distracting one isnt really academic, so he isnt going to see your way of studying and is more interested in the here and now. If he isnt gifted academically then he might end up going to do an apprenticeship etc, whilst you go to Uni.

You can slowly drop them or alternatively why not build on times when its good i.e is it in school or when you go out and do something that things are a lot better?