Going to uni and being in a relationship

Anyone going to this September and is currently in a relationship??? Like does your partner worry about it?

Sometimes it works out but a lot of the time it Dosent. Some people I know we're so close and whipped in college and then 3 weeks into uni had split up. Enjoy the summer before you go is my top advice because people change and whilst she might be scared of you changing, it could easily be that she is the one to change. Just don't attach yourself too much and you will be fine. Lots of nice girls at uni anyway

I think it totally depends on what kind of person you're with and what the relationship is like.

For example, my boyfriend doesn't make much effort to travel 6 miles to see me and is s*** at texting back and is also really worried about going to uni and has commitment issues because of it! We're going to different unis

As you can see, I can tell that this won't work out at uni, he can be a good friend to me at times but won't want to put the effort in at uni, he's just not committed enough.

If he would show more commitment, I would be fine about going to uni and staying in a relationship, but he's done things to make me question his trust in the past and I doubt he can change that much in 2 months!

If you're in a strong and healthy relationship then I would say it's fine being in a relationship and going to uni. If you're in a more casual (see casual as s***) relationship like mine then I would say no.

I think I'm a quite bad example lol

It's not university itself which is a challenge, it's just the fact that an incredibly high proportion of relationships when you're aged 18 aren't going to last. There's no need to get tied down so young really.*

It's not university itself which is a challenge, it's just the fact that an incredibly high proportion of relationships when you're aged 18 aren't going to last. There's no need to get tied down so young really.*

That is true but if you really love each other it should work right regardless of your age?

That is true but if you really love each other it should work right regardless of your age?

that's very naive*

How do you know thats very niave. Im sorry but everybody is different, and being so judgemental because you believe young relationships wont last and we shouldnt get tied down isnt really helping OPs situation.

The truth is anything is possible, just as much as there is a chance that things could break down things can also work. I know numerous people who have been together since 18/19 which are still together 15/20/25/30 years on, it depends on the couple and the circumstances.

I have no idea what experience you have here, but you have no right to tell anyone they are naive.

but it is naive to think simply 'being in love' at 18 is enough for it to be a successful long term relationship. Yes there are exceptions but the vast vast majority of relationships at that age aren't particularly serious (despite how you feel at the time).*

I respect everyone's opinion, thank you all

I've just graduated university, it was long distance the whole time as I moved house part way through to return to the same house later on.

He did have his concerns, but we made sure we communicated and facetimed regularly and we're stronger than ever *

I'm so glad it worked out between you two! Mutual communication seems the key factor



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