I dislike my brother in law

I've already tried that I did it about 18 months ago and she just didn't listen. It hurts so much that she's my older sister and I can't go to her for help.

I know this will sound silly but try recording what he says then send it to your sister as evidence since she doesn't believe you? Also, can you give me examples of things what he says to you that is inappropriate..

Oh wow okay, I hope you can sort things out! Good luck

Wow...that is awful! It would be great if you could get that recorded but it would probably be impossible to have everything cued up at just the right moment to catch him. But, I imagine you're not the only one he's treating like that. Imagine being married to him!!! Ugh - your poor sister! Karma will come
back to him in some form...it always does. Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Can
talk to them in general? If so, go and talk to them when you are not feeling emotional about this issue and calmly explain to them what is going on and be prepared to tell them specifics. They may not be able to make him stop but they need to be on your side and hear what you're saying and help you
come up with a way to respond when he acts out but remember they have their own relationship that
they have to maintain with your brother in law as he is married to your sister. If you can't talk to them then go to a counselor at school or speak to someone if you have a religious organization. I hope you can resolve this and work things out..

Well, it's worth talking to your parents again. I think people tend to not listen if the person
complaining
is all emotional and caught up in the moment. Approach them when it is a calm time and tell
them that you'd like to talk to them then share with them what your experiences have been. If you
have a close relationship with them then they definitely won't think you're being stupid if you are
calm and prepared with what you want to say. Tell them you're concerned about what they will
think about you. Again,
sadly, they may not be able to stop it but at least it would be helpful if you felt they understand what
is happening.
As you are 21 it might be helpful for you to seek out professional counseling who can advise you on
how to respond.... or not respond. You need to get some good advice, better than what you'll find
here. In the meantime I'd steer clear of your brother in law and just ignore him at family get-
togethers.

Why would you move out? He should move out if he is living with your family... If he insults you, you should insult him back... I am not for these petty arguments but sometimes you need to stand up for yourself. Be like before I get married I want to have my house so I don't have my wife's family that should do the trick.... Really you need to take control of your own relationships. What I personally do is if I don't like a family member is ignore them. Ignore them and if they say anything disrespectful I fight my corner. Every time they end up sorting their attitude out and if they don't well there are many more people in the world. The most important thing you can give someone is your time.

He doesn't live with us but the way he is being with me and the fact that my parents feel like I'm being stupid makes me want to move out. As for standing up for myself I'm not one who likes conflict but in the times that I have stood up for myself everyone has always gone against me even though he's the one that started it. So I feel as though even when I do fight my corner I've got no one there with me. That's why I feel alone.

IDK maybe my advice isn't good depends on your situation. See a counselor maybe?

My sister met her husband 5 years ago and they where married 2 years later. At first me and him got on great he was like the big brother I never had but since they got married he has been horrible to me. He always finds opportunities to put me down and make me feel crap about myself and I'm starting to get sick of it, I'm actually surprised I've made it this long without snapping. I have told my parents and other family members about it in the past and everyone thinks I'm being stupid except for my grandma who is also starting to dislike him because of the way he is.

Anyway me, my parents, my two sisters and him recently went on holiday together and because of the way he was with me he made my holiday completely un-enjoyable. My little sister also noticed the way he was with me and she's on my side saying she's starting to dislike him but my parents think I'm being stupid. This holiday had been planned for over a year and I was really looking forward to it but it was completely ruined by him. I feel like he's tried to drive a wedge between me and my family and he's succeeded.

I feel completely alone. What should I do?

My sister met her husband 5 years ago and they where married 2 years later. At first me and him got on great he was like the big brother I never had but since they got married he has been horrible to me. He always finds opportunities to put me down and make me feel crap about myself and I'm starting to get sick of it, I'm actually surprised I've made it this long without snapping. I have told my parents and other family members about it in the past and everyone thinks I'm being stupid except for my grandma who is also starting to dislike him because of the way he is.

Anyway me, my parents, my two sisters and him recently went on holiday together and because of the way he was with me he made my holiday completely un-enjoyable. My little sister also noticed the way he was with me and she's on my side saying she's starting to dislike him but my parents think I'm being stupid. This holiday had been planned for over a year and I was really looking forward to it but it was completely ruined by him. I feel like he's tried to drive a wedge between me and my family and he's succeeded.

I feel completely alone. What should I do?