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She has to choose.
Reply 21
Original post by theBranicAc
your completely brainwashed, keep on going out with then you weak ass person


Man are you serious. You obviously havnt got a clue.
Original post by Kinkajou93
I try my best to, but i dont earn much atm.


is she paying off debts or have something hanging over her? Even if she got a minimum wage job surely that would be enough to get by with for now?*
Does she get student grants like everyone else?
Plenty of otgher students just get a p/t job and live on less.
If she has that option then its a choice for her.

You can talk to her about it, but it is her choice. Accept it or leave the relationship.
Reply 24
Original post by LavenderBlueSky88
is she paying off debts or have something hanging over her? Even if she got a minimum wage job surely that would be enough to get by with for now?*


Yea she has a few debts, plus shes an international student so she doesnt get as much financial support. I dont think she would hack a normal job, she has issues that would probably hold her back.
Original post by Kinkajou93
Man are you serious. You obviously havnt got a clue.


you haven't got a clue how stupid you look right now
Personally you should leave her tbh!
op confirmed troll
Reply 28
You think im maling this up??? Really???
If he was on this forum, John Whittingdale might be able to offer some advice about feelings. He ended the relationship he was in when he found out.
Original post by Kinkajou93
Yea, i often think about that. Even myself, I cant kiss her properly, knowijg where her mouth has been etc. Its even at the point wher I cant even see porn anymore, becuasr it reminds me of what she is doing. Any references to prostitution or such make me breakdown.

Its such a sad situation I find myself in, I feel like there is no escape from it, and whatever decision I make will be miserable.


You wont be miserable once you get out of it. Save yourself
I was all ready to say that a relationship should be enjoyed and not coped with.

Having read your op, you clearly care about your gf very much.

I don't know what to advise because adult work can be an appealing option for some people when economic survival depends on it. Equally I can see why it is upsetting for you.

I don't know what to advise. I guess you need to weigh up whether to walk away, accept things as they are or negotiate possible changes with her. A lot of this will come down to what you mean to each other.
Reply 32
Original post by beautifulbigmacs
I was all ready to say that a relationship should be enjoyed and not coped with.

Having read your op, you clearly care about your gf very much.

I don't know what to advise because adult work can be an appealing option for some people when economic survival depends on it. Equally I can see why it is upsetting for you.

I don't know what to advise. I guess you need to weigh up whether to walk away, accept things as they are or negotiate possible changes with her. A lot of this will come down to what you mean to each other.



Thanks. Yea I very much enjoy our relationship when I'm with her. However, when shes away from me for days on end working up and down the country my mind wanders and I fall into episodes of depression, i go crazy. Men are naturally territorial, and to know that numerous men are basically queing up to have sex with her makes me crumble.
You state ity as though seh has no choice. She seems to wnat the money more than accepting less money and working in McFonalds. notwithstanding it might be unpleasant, not everyone in the sex industry hates it, some of them find it dull, but it pays well.

If you have talked to her and she wnats to stay in then you have to decide if you wnat to stay with her and if so you need to be supportive and not thinking its all about you.
Original post by Kinkajou93
Yea she has a few debts, plus shes an international student so she doesnt get as much financial support. I dont think she would hack a normal job, she has issues that would probably hold her back.


what sort of issues? She can't escort forever. If she can meet strange men for sex she can work on a till in tescos*
Reply 35
Original post by 999tigger
You state ity as though seh has no choice. She seems to wnat the money more than accepting less money and working in McFonalds. notwithstanding it might be unpleasant, not everyone in the sex industry hates it, some of them find it dull, but it pays well.

If you have talked to her and she wnats to stay in then you have to decide if you wnat to stay with her and if so you need to be supportive and not thinking its all about you.



Im very supportive to her. The fact is, as an escort, she gets tons of support from the sex work community. But what support do I get... none. There is no community of sex workers boyfriends/husbands to turn to. I cant speak to friends or family about it, I cant afford to see a therapist. Yet when I post on foruma for help somehow its all about me.
Original post by Kinkajou93
Im very supportive to her. The fact is, as an escort, she gets tons of support from the sex work community. But what support do I get... none. There is no community of sex workers boyfriends/husbands to turn to. I cant speak to friends or family about it, I cant afford to see a therapist. Yet when I post on foruma for help somehow its all about me.


You seem very stressed. I'd be surpised if that doesn't end up stressing her out as well.

You choose to remain in the relationship. Go and see your GP and get some counseling if you cant cope or deicde if being in the relationship is worth it. Youve had plenty of advice on this thread.

Both of you choise to be in this relationship. Either of you can opt out.
Seems like she prefers the money v the downsides.

Its your choice convince her to stop.
Deal with it.
Leave.
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If you're not trolling then I am sorry to say this OP but you are a real life example of a cuckold.
Be a man and get rid of her. There are so many red flags but yet you stay. You are needy af. Get a better girl, and all that 'true love' is just ********. Grow a pair
I truly do feel sorry for you. I know it must hurt that all these people are calling you stupid and telling you for being with her but I fully understand where you are coming from. You love her so much you see past all the negatives of it as I would do the same with my boyfriend. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself this question, am I happy being with her? If yes, then continue being in the relationship however if the answer is no then you know what to do. It's very natural for you to be territorial and possessive as I'm sure 99% of people in relationships are too, especially in this case. But also I would advise you to sit down a have a chat asking her how much do YOU mean to her, does she see you guys spending the rest of your lives together and what is more important her job or being with you. I completely understand finances are important to her but she could get another job and also she will get student finance so its not like she completely will have 0 money for herself. Yes she will have less money as you said but at least your girlfriend will be 100% yours. At the end of the day if I was in this situation I would quit the job for my boyfriend in a heart beat and if she truly does love you and if she sees a future together she would do the exact same.
Original post by Ethics Maniac
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If you're not trolling then I am sorry to say this OP but you are a real life example of a cuckold.
Be a man and get rid of her. There are so many red flags but yet you stay. You are needy af. Get a better girl, and all that 'true love' is just ********. Grow a pair


Love makes you do crazy things so don't jump down his throat. He will find his way whether that is leaving her or not.