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Why you should always try and go for a slightly older man

I never really understood why a lot of girls tend to end up with guys a bit older than them (I mean maybe a 3-6 year age gap nothing massive). I've always mainly dated guys my own age, or year older/younger. This was mainly as I was meeting them at university and everyone tends to be within the realms of 18-22 there. When I was 24 I met my now partner and he was 25. So we're only a year apart. Didn't think anything of this until recently.

We've been together almost 3 years. We'll both be 28 on our anniversary. I was just casually talking about some of my friends who are starting to settle down. I know my boyfriend does want marriage and kids but when I said that I'd like to start thinking of settling down around 30/31 he freaked out. That's basically 2 years away. He said he can't see himself getting married/kids/house until at least 35. I did remind him that if he wants kids at all it would be sensible to start trying earlier than 35 and then it dawned on us both why the guy is generally older in a relationship.

Then I looked at some of my friends who have recently got engaged/married. The guy is generally a few years older (none the same age or younger). Guys have a lot less pressure biologically and even socially to settle down. I did joke with my boyfriend that he will leave me for a 21 year old - but to be honest, was I not in the picture that would be a sensible option for him.

What are you experiences of this? Are you an exception? Do you agree men want to settle down older than girls do?*

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Reply 1
Older guys who date younger women get cucked

Tyrone, Jamal and Chad all up in dem sugar walls
Reply 2
Well I know a lot of guys in their twenties who are married with kids, so I disagree. I think it just depends on the person :smile:
I also disagree, my partners 25 and we re planning on getting married before he's 27 and kids before 30.
Reply 4
Original post by claireestelle
I also disagree, my partners 25 and we re planning on getting married before he's 27 and kids before 30.


you are lucky to be in this position. I only graduated at 25 so spent the last 2 years trying to work my way up. My partner started a business last year and is still working to get that going. We both want to travel and buy a house before we think about kids. In my head 31 was realistic but he thinks it's not.*
ooohhhh OP shot down for just using the anecdotal observation that in her circle women have settled with slightly older men. Pointless thread. FWIW though OP is right, but for the wrong reasons (can't really draw conclusions off 5 people she knows or w/e).
See here:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

/thread fools
Original post by Anonymous
I never really understood why a lot of girls tend to end up with guys a bit older than them (I mean maybe a 3-6 year age gap nothing massive). I've always mainly dated guys my own age, or year older/younger. This was mainly as I was meeting them at university and everyone tends to be within the realms of 18-22 there. When I was 24 I met my now partner and he was 25. So we're only a year apart. Didn't think anything of this until recently.

We've been together almost 3 years. We'll both be 28 on our anniversary. I was just casually talking about some of my friends who are starting to settle down. I know my boyfriend does want marriage and kids but when I said that I'd like to start thinking of settling down around 30/31 he freaked out. That's basically 2 years away. He said he can't see himself getting married/kids/house until at least 35. I did remind him that if he wants kids at all it would be sensible to start trying earlier than 35 and then it dawned on us both why the guy is generally older in a relationship.

Then I looked at some of my friends who have recently got engaged/married. The guy is generally a few years older (none the same age or younger). Guys have a lot less pressure biologically and even socially to settle down. I did joke with my boyfriend that he will leave me for a 21 year old - but to be honest, was I not in the picture that would be a sensible option for him.

What are you experiences of this? Are you an exception? Do you agree men want to settle down older than girls do?*

*
*Many women have kids in their thirties, having gained financial independence and all. So they have a back up option, in case their relationship doesn't work out, they will be able to support the kids.
Reply 7
Original post by fermat1324
ooohhhh OP shot down for just using the anecdotal observation that in her circle women have settled with slightly older men. Pointless thread. FWIW though OP is right, but for the wrong reasons (can't really draw conclusions off 5 people she knows or w/e).
See here:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships

/thread fools


If you look at celebrities or anyone it's usually the same. I think I read average age for men and women is different (men being older). Not saying it's the same for everyone was just an observation I never said I did scientific research on the subject 😂*
Original post by Jeff Seid
LOL, strong cope being a beta male

I'm an Alpha male.

And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?

And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls.
When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.

And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my dick, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.

not really relevant to the thread and it's a copypaste.

poor troll
Reply 9
Original post by fermat1324
not really relevant to the thread and it's a copypaste.

poor troll


http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/search.php?do=finduser&u=2727549&starteronly=1

time to lay down and rot, boyo
Original post by Jeff Seid
LOL, strong cope being a beta male

I'm an Alpha male.

And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?

And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls.
When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.

And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my dick, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.


Wtf?


cool story

out of interest how many girls have YOU ****ed while they wore buttplugs, how attractive were they, and what did they do for a living?
Original post by fermat1324
cool story

out of interest how many girls have YOU ****ed while they wore buttplugs, how attractive were they, and what did they do for a living?


don't feed the troll!
Original post by Jeff Seid
LOL, strong cope being a beta male

I'm an Alpha male.

And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?

And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls.
When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.

And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my dick, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.


this post absolutely savage
i feel sorry for you man @fermat1324
Original post by theBranicAc
this post absolutely savage
i feel sorry for you man @fermat1324


thanks mate :smile:

(you are on my side right?)

Anyway it's a copy paste that's been making rounds on the internet for years. Probably invented by some weirdo who's been watching far too much porn.
Sure some of that goes on, but you get a skewed idea of how much if you constantly watch porn.
Reply 15
Original post by Jeff Seid
LOL, strong cope being a beta male

I'm an Alpha male.

And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?

And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls.
When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.

And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my dick, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.


Do you think anybody will read this?
Original post by Jeff Seid
LOL, strong cope being a beta male

I'm an Alpha male.

And girls want to **** alpha males. Let it piss you off as much as you want, but you know it's completely true. That girl you like who is kinda cute in a weird way, but is totally sweet and you have the biggest crush on? The one who keeps going back to guys who treat her wrong for reasnos you don't understand? The one who calls you up at 1 am to cry about how her boyfriend hasn't called her in 3 days, and no matter how long you listen to her, she'll never think of you as anything other than asexual? The one who will curl up next to you on the couch, hug you close, kiss you on the cheek, and never let you ****ing touch her beyond that?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her.

The hot girl who won't even look at you when you nod at them and smile? The one who laughs when you trip in the hallway and drop your stuff? The one who comes up and coyly aks for your help with her homework, and then pretends you don't exist once you finish?

Yeah, I'm ****ing her too, even harder.

The geeky girl you think might be enough like you that you have a chance with her? She plays warcraft on your server, and watches anime, and reads comics? She's so incredible and you just love her so much but you still haven't worked up the courage to tell her how you feel about her?

Guess who just sucked me off and told me they'll always love me?

And what's more? I laugh at guys like you. When you cry about how much girls treat you bad, and wonder why they can't just see that you're a nice guy who would always treat them right? I nod and tell you to hang in there, you'll find someone right for you someday, don't give up hope man. But inside? I'm laughing my ass off at you you pathetic ****. Every girl you set your sights on, who isn't a disgusting pig-monster, I'm going to **** 6 ways from sunday before you even tell her you think she's cute. I won't bother trying when you finally settle for that 350 pound girl who works at hardees, you can have that. Anything else I'm going to *** on her face before you get those lips near it.

And the biggest reason I laugh? It's not me doing all this. It's the girls.
When you cry about how lonely you are? Or talk about how you just want to curl up and dissapear, and all that emo bull****? You're triggering her "Don't ****" instinct something feirce. You're a miserable weak coward, why would she want your genes? Feel free to buy her a new computer and help her decorate her apartment, you're great for that. But her baby-maker is barking orders at her, telling her to wrap her legs around me and hold on for as long as she can. She needs it, on a primal level you'll never get to see first hand, even if you do get a chance to **** her. Sooner or later one of them will lay back and spread their legs, but you won't see any hunger in their eyes. They won't beg you to love them forever and make them yours. You won't know what it's like to see her animal side needing you as much as she needs to eat and breath.

And she's cheating on you, I promise that. When she sits around quiet and uncomfortable, acting irritable and irrational towards you, wanting you to just back away and leave her alone, it's not her period. It's because I haven't called her for a day or two and her instincts are telling her to go find me. The primitive section of her brain doesn't want to risk smelling like another man when she gives herself to me, she wants me to know she's completely mine. We do things together she tells you she never would. Her pooper? Mine. I want to give her a facial? of course. I want her to suck the *** out of my dick, even though I just finished pumping away at her ass? she's never going to tell me no. She doesn't WNAT to tell me no. She wants me to know she'll do anything it takes to keep me. She'll rim my ass while she's down there sucking me off if it means pleasing me. She'll drink my *** from a shotglass. She'll wear a buttplug when we go out to dinner. She'll sleep handcuffed to my headboard. Anything.

And then she'll go home to you and tell you she's not in the mood today.

I'd say you should become an hero, but you being around makes her want a real man all the more, so keep ***ging it up, I'll keep that pussy warm while you're crying in the corner.


also this post completely degrades women and objectify them


weird you have gone all quiet after my last question. I assumed you'd been banned but no.

Can we assume that the answer to my question is that you haven't ****ed ANY girls in buttplugs? (as if that's something to strive for in life anyway...)
Original post by Anonymous
you are lucky to be in this position. I only graduated at 25 so spent the last 2 years trying to work my way up. My partner started a business last year and is still working to get that going. We both want to travel and buy a house before we think about kids. In my head 31 was realistic but he thinks it's not.*


My partner graduated at 24, we live up north so will get a house once we re married,but we don't want to be at the top of our careers before getting married just want a budget wedding with family really.
I think you should perhaps explain in a simple way that having children becomes more difficult as you get older and if he wants you to wait that long can he accept the risk of you struggling to get pregnant. my mum really struggled to have my sister at 39 so it's always been a thing for me to have all my kids before my mid 30s so hopefully have an easier time throughout pregnancy.
fermat1324

weird you have gone all quiet after my last question. I assumed you'd been banned but no.

Can we assume that the answer to my question is that you haven't ****ed ANY girls in buttplugs? (as if that's something to strive for in life anyway...)


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