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Is using Escorts cheating on my girlfriend?

Basically I love my girlfriend. I want to marry her and start a family together. But she's not that good looking. She's alright, don't get me wrong, she can still turn me on if she dresses really dirty but most of the time I'm actually thinking go other women when making love to her.

So I have started using escorts. Like 1-2 a week. Its OK they are high class and its all safe fun. I have no emotional attachment to them, I just **** them.

So my question is - would you consider this as technically cheating?

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What? Are you being serious. Im guessing this is a troll. No of course its not cheating why would it be your only having sex with other people and like you said no attachment.
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Original post by Kholmes1
What? Are you being serious. Im guessing this is a troll. No of course its not cheating why would it be your only having sex with other people and like you said no attachment.


I don't get our answer. I know its trying to be sarcastic but then its kinda making the opposite point - my point - that there is no emotional attachment whatsoever. I see the woman, have sex, we joke around and I pay her and then she leaves. That is it. So I'm not breaking my girlfriend's trust - I do not love another person.
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Basically I love my girlfriend. I want to marry her and start a family together. But she's not that good looking. She's alright, don't get me wrong, she can still turn me on if she dresses really dirty but most of the time I'm actually thinking go other women when making love to her.

So I have started using escorts. Like 1-2 a week. Its OK they are high class and its all safe fun. I have no emotional attachment to them, I just **** them.

So my question is - would you consider this as technically cheating?



Oh jesus, It's not even 12am yet. I'm not ready for this. Yes it's ****ing cheating, no technicalities about it. I seriously feel sorry for her, being in a relationship with someone who is as *****y as you, OP.
Original post by Anonymous
Basically I love my girlfriend. I want to marry her and start a family together. But she's not that good looking. She's alright, don't get me wrong, she can still turn me on if she dresses really dirty but most of the time I'm actually thinking go other women when making love to her.

So I have started using escorts. Like 1-2 a week. Its OK they are high class and its all safe fun. I have no emotional attachment to them, I just **** them.

So my question is - would you consider this as technically cheating?


You dont really love your gf or you wouldnt be sleeping with others.

Is it cheating? 100% yes.

She should dump you. You arent good for her.
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Its not cheating. Excorts are professionals in having sex and your gf doesnt sound a professional so why not let a professional handle your business
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Original post by 34908seikj
Oh jesus, It's not even 12am yet. I'm not ready for this. Yes it's ****ing cheating, no technicalities about it. I seriously feel sorry for her, being in a relationship with someone who is as *****y as you, OP.


Please explain to me how it is actually CHEATING.

Yes I am having sex but the emotion isn't there. The commitment isn't there to these other girls - they are nothing to me.

I love my girlfriend, I would do anything for her.
If you think she would be pissed if she found out then, yes, its cheating.
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Original post by Sternumator
If you think she would be pissed if she found out then, yes, its cheating.


Well I wouldn't tell her because then I would be insulting her looks and love-making skills.
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You're cheating on her and I feel sorry for her now that you've gone on TSR to ask whether it's ok and she doesn't know about any of those :/
top definition here suggests you are cheating by definition.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Cheating

so /thread in terms of answering your question.

Anyway, if this isn't a troll I think you should stop doing this to your girlfriend, or if she's super liberal and alright with that sort of thing just tell her. You never know, she might be thinking you're ugly too and be waiting for the excuse to use an escort herself.
Original post by Anonymous
Please explain to me how it is actually CHEATING.

Yes I am having sex but the emotion isn't there. The commitment isn't there to these other girls - they are nothing to me.

I love my girlfriend, I would do anything for her.


I'm not going to have a philosophical debate with someone who is clearly mentally challenged


You say you want to spend the rest of your life together with her yet you're being being unfaithful to her.
Of course it's not cheating. Your girlfriend will in fact be so happy that you are having sex with other women. In fact, I say you should tell your girlfriend you are hiring escorts and she will personally bring you even more escorts to shag. Don't worry, you aren't doing anything wrong at all in my opinion.
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Well I wouldn't tell her because then I would be insulting her looks and love-making skills.


A relationship is an agreement, implied or otherwise, not to sleep with other women. Unless, she has agreed to you sleeping with other women, then you are breaching that agreement. That is cheating.
Original post by sameehaiqbal
Of course it's not cheating. Your girlfriend will in fact be so happy that you are having sex with other women. In fact, I say you should tell your girlfriend you are hiring escorts and she will personally bring you even more escorts to shag. Don't worry, you aren't doing anything wrong at all in my opinion.


:rofl:
Yes.
Original post by fermat1324
top definition here suggests you are cheating by definition.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Cheating

so /thread in terms of answering your question.

Anyway, if this isn't a troll I think you should stop doing this to your girlfriend, or if she's super liberal and alright with that sort of thing just tell her. You never know, she might be thinking you're ugly too and be waiting for the excuse to use an escort herself.


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I WOUDNT MIND THIS AT ALL

Thats the thing. Why should our relationship only be defined by who we have sex with. I love her and she loves me.

The physical act of love making doesn't mean anything about our relationship.
That is for your girl to decide, not you.

To some girls porn is cheating.

To other girls having a giant orgies is okay so long as she gives consent!
Original post by Anonymous
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I WOUDNT MIND THIS AT ALL

Thats the thing. Why should our relationship only be defined by who we have sex with. I love her and she loves me.

The physical act of love making doesn't mean anything about our relationship.


Well that sounds alright. I don't know how you could move forward tbh. Do you get the impression she'd be alright with you cheating, particularly if you let her use escorts in the relationship?
Original post by Anonymous
Well I wouldn't tell her because then I would be insulting her looks and love-making skills.


If she doesn't make you happy then why can't you dump her? :s-smilie:

I understand why older/married people cheat, they have too much invested to leave mortgages, children etc. but why young people with no ties cheat is beyond me. LEAVE HER AND BE WITH SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU HAPPY ffs. For both your sakes.

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