Is this Autism or not?

Last year i moved house and my neighbor has some form of 'mental' disability. I know he is 28 years old currently, i know he's not allowed to drink energy drinks or have caffeine, he's not allowed to eat pork but is not religious.

He has a weird obsession with baseball caps and WILL NOT leave the house without one but his mum has now banned him from wearing them. He is in his garden 90% of the time and 'plays pretend' which he apparently takes medication for, he pretends he is a builder, he has an imaginary fiance, imaginary flat, imaginary job and 3 imaginary cats....

but he knows, admits and is proud of the fact they are imaginary and openly talks about them.

I find it really awkward because he keeps asking me to play with his cats and i obviously can't see them, he asked me if he could have some dinner with me so i agreed and he asked me to plate some up for his imaginary fiance. He invited his imaginary friends to a BBQ of mine and got upset that i wasn't talking to them or wasn't replying or replying with the wrong answers or if i didn't answer (because they aren't asking anything, because they aren't there).

Rain, sun or shine- whenever i open my side door or front door he calls me and starts talking to me, literally every time, or even a window. When we do talk he repeats himself, doesn't talk to me, more at me. He keeps talking about his dads death but then says he hates talking about it. Everything he eats he throws it back up and for the last 12 months we have had the exact same repeated conversation again and again and again.

Sometimes i'll go outside and he'll be sat in my garden playing imaginary football games because apparently he doesn't have enough room in his, he keeps breaking things and moving things.

He is obsessing over me sitting in my garden with him, always invites himself over for tea, keeps asking for alcohol (he's only allowed one can of mild beer- i do not drink alcohol), but he is allowed it,

he watches me through the gaps in the fence for as long as 4 hours at a time- ignores me if i speak to him and even sometimes gives a running commentary of what i'm doing- talking to himself eg....

'***** look she's gardening, now she's walking over there. What is she doing, oh she's bending over, look she's tying her hair up' which obviously makes me uncomfortable. and if i'm in the front garden he leans over the hedges, extremely obviously, to watch me. The last time he was over, he came at around 10am whilst i was doing some gardening, he asked if he could sit with me so i said i could sit with him for one hour, after 3 hours he then said he was going to stay until 11pm then he had to go to bed, i said i had to go in and then he sat in my garden waiting for me to come back out until 11pm, i told him numerous amounts i wasn't coming back out and he simply replied 'Oh, i'll just wait here for you...until you come back out' but he says it really kindly,not aggressively, like he's abit slow. I don't have any more information but i would like to know what he has so i am able to talk to him less uncomfortably because his mum pretty much just lets him walk into my house.

It sounds horrid but i haven't left the house for days because i just know he's there, i can't wear a bikini or invite friends over because he literally talks 100 mile an hour none stop, talks over everybody and raises his voice over their's. He doesn't let anybody respond to him, it's like he is reciting a book at full volume from 10am-11pm, whether anyone is there or listening or not. He will not leave unless he wants to and he stands out in the pouring down rain,sleet and snow. His mum just ignores the situation.I know the last neighbor got fed up of him following her to the shops and down town so she gave him a bottle of vodka and then he wasn't allowed to go back, his mum banned him. I've spoke to her and she says to send him back to home but he doesn't listen. she then replied 'well i can't just cage him up', he climbs over my locked 8ft side gate..... it's like having a stalker but he can't help it and the police won't get involved because of his disability. I'm angry and upset at the same time.

Last year i moved house and my neighbor has some form of 'mental' disability. I know he is 28 years old currently, i know he's not allowed to drink energy drinks or have caffeine, he's not allowed to eat pork but is not religious.

He has a weird obsession with baseball caps and WILL NOT leave the house without one but his mum has now banned him from wearing them. He is in his garden 90% of the time and 'plays pretend' which he apparently takes medication for, he pretends he is a builder, he has an imaginary fiance, imaginary flat, imaginary job and 3 imaginary cats....

but he knows, admits and is proud of the fact they are imaginary and openly talks about them.

I find it really awkward because he keeps asking me to play with his cats and i obviously can't see them, he asked me if he could have some dinner with me so i agreed and he asked me to plate some up for his imaginary fiance. He invited his imaginary friends to a BBQ of mine and got upset that i wasn't talking to them or wasn't replying or replying with the wrong answers or if i didn't answer (because they aren't asking anything, because they aren't there).

Rain, sun or shine- whenever i open my side door or front door he calls me and starts talking to me, literally every time, or even a window. When we do talk he repeats himself, doesn't talk to me, more at me. He keeps talking about his dads death but then says he hates talking about it. Everything he eats he throws it back up and for the last 12 months we have had the exact same repeated conversation again and again and again.

Sometimes i'll go outside and he'll be sat in my garden playing imaginary football games because apparently he doesn't have enough room in his, he keeps breaking things and moving things.

He is obsessing over me sitting in my garden with him, always invites himself over for tea, keeps asking for alcohol (he's only allowed one can of mild beer- i do not drink alcohol), but he is allowed it,

he watches me through the gaps in the fence for as long as 4 hours at a time- ignores me if i speak to him and even sometimes gives a running commentary of what i'm doing- talking to himself eg....

'***** look she's gardening, now she's walking over there. What is she doing, oh she's bending over, look she's tying her hair up' which obviously makes me uncomfortable. and if i'm in the front garden he leans over the hedges, extremely obviously, to watch me. The last time he was over, he came at around 10am whilst i was doing some gardening, he asked if he could sit with me so i said i could sit with him for one hour, after 3 hours he then said he was going to stay until 11pm then he had to go to bed, i said i had to go in and then he sat in my garden waiting for me to come back out until 11pm, i told him numerous amounts i wasn't coming back out and he simply replied 'Oh, i'll just wait here for you...until you come back out' but he says it really kindly,not aggressively, like he's abit slow. I don't have any more information but i would like to know what he has so i am able to talk to him less uncomfortably because his mum pretty much just lets him walk into my house.

It sounds horrid but i haven't left the house for days because i just know he's there, i can't wear a bikini or invite friends over because he literally talks 100 mile an hour none stop, talks over everybody and raises his voice over their's. He doesn't let anybody respond to him, it's like he is reciting a book at full volume from 10am-11pm, whether anyone is there or listening or not. He will not leave unless he wants to and he stands out in the pouring down rain,sleet and snow. His mum just ignores the situation.I know the last neighbor got fed up of him following her to the shops and down town so she gave him a bottle of vodka and then he wasn't allowed to go back, his mum banned him. I've spoke to her and she says to send him back to home but he doesn't listen. she then replied 'well i can't just cage him up', he climbs over my locked 8ft side gate..... it's like having a stalker but he can't help it and the police won't get involved because of his disability. I'm angry and upset at the same time.

if it's a spectrum disorder then it's obviously mismanaged or not managed at all, a 28 year old shouldn't still be acting like a 12 year old

Another thing to add: I think his mother has a lot to answer for why he is 28 and still acting this way. Where have the social services been all this time? If she couldn't spot the weird behaviours when he was young then why weren't they spotted at all throughout his education?

That's what i'm hoping to find out, as his mother is elderly, i very rarely see her so haven't had time to discuss it with her other than a few occasions when she's been very ill or tired.

I just guessed at autism after a comment made to me at university.

Well that's the thing, he doesn't talk to me, not really at me, he just likes to talk in my presence if that makes sense, in my garden or in my house- he does shout and swear alot in his garden when playing pretend football matches but other than that he's quiet as a mouse.

I could never do that, he's so lovely but it really has been every day for just over a year. I can't even understand how he can memorize the conversation, that's what i meant when i said it was like he was reciting a book- its exact word for word every time, he doesn't need an answer sometimes, he just talks. My mum once started crying in my garden and it made him cry which i thought was odd, then he ran off and he didn't speak to me for a month- that's why i only classed it as 1 year because i didn't see him then.

That's so creepy, yet I feel guilty for saying that because it's not his fault. Few doors down we have an autistic guy in his mid-20's and he does some of the things you mention too. How does he just let himself into your house though?

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