I can't be friends with people with mental issues?

Not discriminating but I find them hard to get on with or date. Is this my fault or theirs

The last guy I dated had bipolar, and he was impossible I tried to be understanding but he was selfish and a downer. I also made a few close friends at uni most of who turned out to have depression, and it was a toxic group, I am a happy person but they were really rude and negative.

I know a hipster girl who claims to have OCD, borderline, depression and is always showing me the pills she takes and posting them on FB. I find her hard to deal with because she's either boasting showing off or moaning about how hard life is and she wants to die, and Im single but she flirts with everyone's boyfriends

Am I being too picky or have I just met the wrong people

You've picked the wrong people

True friends are there no matter what as everyone has their own problems
even if you look perfectly fine & healthy.

----> You ain't loyal enough to deserve friends.

You've picked the wrong people

True friends are there no matter what as everyone has their own problems
even if you look perfectly fine & healthy.

----> You ain't loyal enough to deserve friends.

or maybe they use their mental health problems as an excuse to be a dick around others. no ****, they live in the same world as everyone else so they gotta show respect

don't worry OP, there do exist someone with "difficulties" who accept and cope with it

Possibly. The guy I dated I didn't even realise was bipolar though. I met his dad who took me to the side and told me. He was a dick in general.

Possibly. The guy I dated I didn't even realise was bipolar though. I met his dad who took me to the side and told me. He was a dick in general.

Yeah Im sure loads arent like that

would you date someone who suffered from or is still suffering from an eating disorder? Do you count that as a mental illness?
I find it easier to relate to people who suffer from this kind of illness because I used to suffer from it too.*

Curious what did you think about his behaviour when you didn't know, that he was just an insensitive jerk or something? What sort of stuff did he use to do?

Im similar to you as in I can't and dont want to be friends with people who consistently exhibit signs of emotional instability, I can understand if they are a long standing friend and its out of character but not if it's a regular thing. Who on earth has the time or energy to deal with downers who drain the life out of you and bring nothing but drama in to your life, no thanks, id rather have fewer friends and spend more time doing things that make me happy.

or maybe they use their mental health problems as an excuse to be a dick around others. no ****, they live in the same world as everyone else so they gotta show respect

don't worry OP, there do exist someone with "difficulties" who accept and cope with it

I've never had an ED or other mental illness, but I might date someone who used to suffer from one though.



Stuff like make rude remarks about me working too hard at my part time job when I needed the money to live off, or be really friendly with other girls (to the point of discussing which female celebs they found hot!) but when I was talking to other guys normally he'd always come and interrupt the conversation and be a dick to them. His friends said he was eccentric but I think he was nasty. He was rude to them too sometimes, a lot of them were negative people though. I wasn't sure if he was just stressed because he was in medical school

Yeah, I've worked hard to get a decent job after uni, etc. I don't like people who are passive aggressive at me all the time like my uni friends were.

It's a lot of hard work, and if they are constantly like that, how can you connect or have fun?

I'd probably try to avoid anyone who seemed emotionally unstable too,
on the other hand, it's not fair to immediately judge someone as undesirable as soon as they tell you they're dealing with some mental issues.

I've met people like this. Apparently, having mental health issues is an excuse to be a dick and it can't possibly be their fault at all, ever.

I found out they had MH issues after we started being friends/dating Unfortunately it seems to correlate with emotional instability. It cant be easy having that but its not easy being friends with someone like that too



The girl I mentioned above is like that. I'm not even one of her closest mates but every time she meets me she complains about how hard her life is, but shes also boasting about how she's partying all the time etc. (her boyfriend supports her as she doesn't have a job) So I don't know if she wants sympathy or

sounds exactly like someone i knew, also a medical studnt, maybe its the same guy o.O which uni was it?

was he a well liked person in general or did many people think he was a ****?
(sorry, veering a bit off topic here)

There are many different types of mental disorders, and guess what, there are many people who suffer from mental disorders yet they keep this to themselves (I am one of these people). I have come across many people who treat others like **** and blame it on their disorder, which is just unacceptable. If they are able to function adequately on a day to day basis then they can't just blame all of their actions on the disorder. I have also come across people who use mental disorders as a way to seek attention (even though they have not went to see a doctor and be diagnosed with the disorder, they just claim to have all the symptoms). Are people who go around, telling everyone they want to die, really suicidal? From my own experience I have noticed that those who are truly suicidal, keep it to themselves, as they do not want to be helped. Those who tell everyone they want to die mainly do it for attention. I've came across many people like that, ones who would even fake the fact that they are missing, pretend someone found their phone and text their friends as if they were someone else, to get attention. When the truth comes out they throw a tantrum. People who suffer from mental disorders, and are aware of it, tend to get help. This way, even though the disorder still affects them, they have no need to blame every single one of their actions on the disorder. I'd say you have just ended up with the wrong group of people, people who want attention and tend to guilt trip others.