Family threatening to disown me, says I lack respect?

Oh no, I don't really drink, or like clubbing. I do go out partying/to pubs/bars etc, mix with the opposite & drinkers though. Don't see anything wrong with it, I'm causing no harm to anyone.

I'm 24, Muslim background. Looking to move out, I didn't earlier as I was trying to respect their wishes, & also was saving up but now I might not have a choice

Oh no, I don't really drink, or like clubbing. I do go out partying/to pubs/bars etc, mix with the opposite sex & drinkers though. Don't see anything wrong with it, I'm causing no harm to anyone.

So you're like me then! Fab! Cant stand those lot. You're in the middle of the spectrum. With regards to your family, they wouldn't disown you..Its just blank threats out of fear of losing you/ going astray. They just want the best for you- believe it or not...It took me a long time to figure that one out. They wouldn't force you to marry someone but in the end, trust me they do know best. My brother made a mistake that ruined his life. My parents are very liberal but they did warn him to not marry a girl because out of experience they could tell what a nasty piece of work she was. Trust me. Parents know what they're talking about.

Selfish immoral parents will be selfish.

That's what religion does to people.

I hate traditional Muslim families like this, forcing their beliefs on their children. Most of the time they are acting this way be they don't want to be shamed by family members and their community, they can't separate religion from culture. Their children's happiness and health should be their priority. I advise you to stay under the radar until your old enough and financially stable to do what you want. Once you've moved away your parents won't be able to follow your actions as closely.i must mention, at the end of the day they still are your parents, don't do or say anything that will offend them or break your relationship, sometimes it's impossible to change people's mindsets, esp when they are so traditional and ridgid.

Selfish immoral parents will be selfish.

That's what religion does to people.

They say you lack respect, but threaten to disown you? Wow, they sound very hypocritical to me

It's only disrespect when I'm not adhering to their values

That sucks man they should understand that you're an adult and live your own life, you don't live with them anymore and are a completely independent person. Just tell them that in the nicest way possible, that's my only advice

I tried to but they still don't understand. Even when I said that I'd be happy to move out they were like "After all we've done for you", "family will always be there, friends wont". Well if they're trying to control my life then I think it's better if I left, it's a shame but I honestly think it's probably for the best.

Families won't always be there, especially if they're threatening to disown you!! Just do what you feel is best - if that's to leave, do that. Good luck with the future, I hope everything turns out ok in the end

I've said this too and my mum looked like she wanted to cry and asked me why I would want to shame her like that, after all that she has done for me.

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I tried to but they still don't understand. Even when I said that I'd be happy to move out they were like "After all we've done for you", "family will always be there, friends wont". Well if they're trying to control my life then I think it's better if I left, it's a shame but I honestly think it's probably for the best.

So you're like me then! Fab! Cant stand those lot. You're in the middle of the spectrum. With regards to your family, they wouldn't disown you..Its just blank threats out of fear of losing you/ going astray. They just want the best for you- believe it or not...It took me a long time to figure that one out. They wouldn't force you to marry someone but in the end, trust me they do know best. My brother made a mistake that ruined his life. My parents are very liberal but they did warn him to not marry a girl because out of experience they could tell what a nasty piece of work she was. Trust me. Parents know what they're talking about.

Oh I don't know, it's definitely not unheard of for parents to disown their children for being apostates. Unfortunately it seems in some cultures they conflate "respect" with "obedience".