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How do people manage to go on so many dates?

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Original post by Andy98
Plantagenet Crown?


Sorry to tell you mate, I've never been on a date myself. But it seems to be a mixture of picking a place with alcohol and making a move quick

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What about him?

Aw da,n I'm sorry to hear that!
But I don't drink so that's gonna be tricky!
But I've not got the confidence to do that!
I'm screwed!
I guess the girl has gotta want to get to know you when you talk, and if you're boring from the beginning then she certainly wouldn't want to endure a couple of hours having to deal with the awkward silences in real life. The honest truth, sadly. Looks do certainly play a part in this too, but if you're a smooth talker and you're not borderline creepy, then you have a shot at it with a girl too.

When speaking to a girl, ask her out for a drink. Or even ask her out to dinner and say you'll pay, so she'll definitely come because she'll know she doesn't have to take money out of her wallet for a date that could potentially go lopsided. Am I right @somemightsay888???
Original post by FireFreezer77
Ah I see!
Well there's no telling where it would be!


Im not talking about where it physically will be, sigh..
Original post by FireFreezer77
There are some guys out there that manage to go on dates everyday! And then theres me whos never been on one!
Its depressing thay all these guys are good looking too (no hate please or you will be reported)

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But seriously how the hell is it possible for people to go on so many dates!
Ive tried to get to know girls but they just arent interested, none of them!
One even lead me on but thats another story!
So how do you guys get to go on so many dates and have 4000 girlfriends by the time your 20?
I mean i only want to have 1 in my life, someone i can be with forever!
Thanks!


I think it depends on your personality a lot of the times its not even about looks its the way you approach girls and talk to them. Most girls like confident out going males(not all of them). So what kind of person are you?
Original post by Emily.97
Im not talking about where it physically will be, sigh..


Ah I'm no good at this stuff (I'm half asleep too so that doesn't help!)
Apologies!
Original post by thecatwithnohat


When speaking to a girl, ask her out for a drink. Or even ask her out to dinner and say you'll pay, so she'll definitely come because she'll know she doesn't have to take money out of her wallet for a date that could potentially go lopsided. Am I right @somemightsay888???


I agree OP also make sure to take out an ISA and tell her your credit rating to further solidify the date, whip out your black card and seductively shape your facial hair with it in a display of wealth
To be honest mate you're your own worst enemy.

You're far too negative and give up far too fast, and trust me it shows. You end up coming across as far too eager and overbearing.

Just slow it down a bit and go easy on yourself, or you'll never get out of this rut. And the only thing you'd be able to blame would be your attitude.
Original post by SophieSmall
You're far too negative and give up far too fast, and trust me it shows. You end up coming across as far too eager and overbearing.


Hmm. I try to talk to girls online and in real life and they blank me, and that's me just trying to be friends with them.

Original post by SophieSmall
You'll never get out of this rut.


Well you're right there.
Well whoever has the answer to this question feel free to quote me because ive only been on one which was a massive fail. Lmao.
Original post by FireFreezer77
I really wish you'd stop saying that tbh!
You're not ugly! Trust me!
You'll find someone soon!
An attractive amazing young lady will be with you soon! Guaranteed!


I am lol, but it's fine, more to life than looks right? And I am absolutely certain you will find the girl of your dreams soon! You deserve someone amazing who makes you happy :biggrin:
Everyone has that pretty much. You can't win them all, no one can. And that's okay.


And you've just done it again, exactly what I'm talking about. This defeatist attitude it is incredibly unattractive. And it's a shame because I know you're a great guy and I know you have a lot to offer. But you shoot yourself in the foot constantly by making yourself unattractive to women with this constant "forever alone" attitude.

There are people a heck of a lot less attractive than you and with a lot less to offer who do better, because they simply don't have this bad attitude scaring women/ men away.
Can I just say, I think you're very attractive :smile:
Original post by sameehaiqbal
Can I just say, I think you're very attractive :smile:


Agreed.
Original post by Blondie987
I am lol, but it's fine, more to life than looks right? And I am absolutely certain you will find the girl of your dreams soon! You deserve someone amazing who makes you happy :biggrin:


I disagree!! Yes exactly!
Aww Thankyou! So kind! I sure hope so!
Aww Blondie!! That's so cute!!!!
You also deserve the girl of your dreams too!!! :biggrin:
Original post by Cremated_Spatula
I saw a girl attempt to ask a guy out recently, the girl followed my colleague into a shop, wandered up behind him then nervously said something like 'um hi, can I have your number'...It didn't work out for her, she didn't peak his interest at all, and he was really creeped out. :^) But I commend her bravery.

There are loads of girls who've never had a date before too.
Have you tried volunteering at places? Going to community events? or things like comic con?

Try to socialise as much as possible, but avoid the intent of pursuing intimate relationships, it will appear as if you are desperate.


Aww that's cute!
But I also commend her bravery! It's not an easy thing to do!

Yeah I suppose there are! I've not found one yet though! Man I live in a **** area!
No not yet, my MH doesn't really allow for that currently. I'd like to but hope fully things will improve and I can go to something!

I'm extremely quiet though! That's another problem!
Yeah I don't do that, for that exact reason! I don't want to come across as desperate!
Original post by thecatwithnohat
I guess the girl has gotta want to get to know you when you talk, and if you're boring from the beginning then she certainly wouldn't want to endure a couple of hours having to deal with the awkward silences in real life. The honest truth, sadly. Looks do certainly play a part in this too, but if you're a smooth talker and you're not borderline creepy, then you have a shot at it with a girl too.

When speaking to a girl, ask her out for a drink. Or even ask her out to dinner and say you'll pay, so she'll definitely come because she'll know she doesn't have to take money out of her wallet for a date that could potentially go lopsided. Am I right @somemightsay888???


Yeah that's true!
Nope that's very true! But it would be nice to be able to have a convo with a girl without being shut down immediately!
I know, that's why I'm screwed! I'm not a smooth talker though. I hope I'm not creepy! But I'm defo not a smooth talker! I'm so introverted it's unreal!

I would but I never get the opportunity to! I've only ever had one opportunity to properly chat with a girl I liked and she was then going home so I couldn't ask her out to lunch or anything like that. So that sucked!
That's a bit shallow but I'd pay anyway for the first date. But I bet they'd still say no!
Thanks!
Going on so many dates sounds exhausting, I ciukdn't be arsed tbh. Then again, I'm not the most social of people.
Original post by grl9096
Going on so many dates sounds exhausting, I ciukdn't be arsed tbh. Then again, I'm not the most social of people.


True! But then again it'd be nice to go on one at least!
No me neither!
Original post by Foo.mp3
1) Don't believe the hype, few guys are drowning in clunge

2) Understand that few of us are born Casanovas, these things take time, experience, and some effort

3) Apply yourself to everything that you do, work on yourself, and open yourself up to all social opportunities that present themselves


1: I just want a strong relationship! Not sex!

2: True! Yeah I know, I'll never be good at it tbh! It sucks!

3: I am doing! I'm working on myself to improve my MH and to increase my confidence! That's tricky for me for various reasons tbh. I can barely leave the house without being affected by my ill Mental Health. But I do need to go to social events but I can't just yet!
I have 30 dates a year.... ;-)

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