I wouldn't say it's a great thing if it's the same guy(s) going on many dates; it shows lack of committment or return of interest from the girl lmao; it's not sommet to idolise.
I don't care. Like I said, I don't understand why people are so desperate to find a partner. There is absolutely nothing wrong with patiently waiting until you find a person that suits you. It doesn't take genius to figure out that rushing into a relationship doesn't always lead to a long-lasting one - something that I would much rather have instead of being with a partner for the sake of having a partner. And if that means I have to wait for a long time then so be it. It doesn't have anything to do with 'fate' or 'magic' and if you can't see that then perhaps you are the fool.
There is a lot more to life than having a partner and that goes to OP too.
I'm not desperate but it would just improve my life. And according to my therapist, would help to cure me of my OCD! My main focus currently is to get rid of that! But I'm gonna be on the look out for a female in that time. Rushing defo doesn't work. I've never rushed into anything like this before. I'm not a fool!
I know that but it would allow me to prove everyone wrong. Everyone at school said I'd never get a girlfriend because of my looks! Two girls even bet on it when they thought I couldn't hear them! Needless to say I cried a lot that night! But I don't want a gf just for the sake of it. I want s strong long lasting relationship that will lead to marriage one day! That's what I want and I'll do my very best to achieve this life goal. The proving others wrong bit is an added bonus
If you mean me, that's not what I said and that's not how I meant it. If that's how you took it I'm sorry.
I said you may be emotionally unstable for getting so angry that the girl didn't reciprocate your feelings and that may have put her off. That might be your issue. I was trying to say that's what you should work on. Not get so emotionally invested and don't see it as a slight on yourself if they aren't interested.
Again sorry if you thought I meant something else.
I wouldn't say it's a great thing if it's the same guy(s) going on many dates; it shows lack of committment or return of interest from the girl lmao; it's not sommet to idolise.
No I realize that but it hurts that they go on loads with different girls and yet I'm not able to go on one! Yeah that's very true!
I'm not desperate but it would just improve my life. And according to my therapist, would help to cure me of my OCD! My main focus currently is to get rid of that! But I'm gonna be on the look out for a female in that time. Rushing defo doesn't work. I've never rushed into anything like this before. I'm not a fool!
I know that but it would allow me to prove everyone wrong. Everyone at school said I'd never get a girlfriend because of my looks! Two girls even bet on it when they thought I couldn't hear them! Needless to say I cried a lot that night! But I don't want a gf just for the sake of it. I want s strong long lasting relationship that will lead to marriage one day! That's what I want and I'll do my very best to achieve this life goal. The proving others wrong bit is an added bonus
Sorry if my post seemed harsh. It was mainly aimed at the other user hence the tone.
I agree with everything you've written. Ignore what others say. I'm a strong believer in doing things at your own pace. Some people get married early and have a family before 30. Others don't. There isn't exactly a 'right' way of living life. Focus on bettering yourself and building your own confidence. You may find that things turn out better that way.
And worry less about what others do and say. That's their life and your life belongs to you. So who cares about whether or not they go on many meaningless dates?
There are some guys out there that manage to go on dates everyday! And then theres me whos never been on one! Its depressing thay all these guys are good looking too (no hate please or you will be reported)
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But seriously how the hell is it possible for people to go on so many dates! Ive tried to get to know girls but they just arent interested, none of them! One even lead me on but thats another story! So how do you guys get to go on so many dates and have 4000 girlfriends by the time your 20? I mean i only want to have 1 in my life, someone i can be with forever! Thanks!
well I have had several relationships and many dates and I'm not good looking, I'm chubby, short and unathletic but I am successful but even before the success I had people who just wanted to be around me almost but let's get down to business here the first part is to put yourself out there the second part is to move in similar circles to those who you desire the third part is to have some accessories with a back story to tell (i have 4)
If you mean me, that's not what I said and that's not how I meant it. If that's how you took it I'm sorry.
I said you may be emotionally unstable for getting so angry that the girl didn't reciprocate your feelings and that may have put her off. That might be your issue. I was trying to say that's what you should work on. Not get so emotionally invested and don't see it as a slight on yourself if they aren't interested.
Again sorry if you thought I meant something else.