Mum wants to stay in halls first night of freshers?!!

Where did I talk about freshers week here? Never mentioned that. I was simply implying id invite her over at some point of my uni life to see how I'm living. Not to stay the night or to come in the first week.

Never did I talk about anyone having to listen to anyone's opinion. Just because you don't have the best relationship with your mother doesn't mean that's the case for everyone, but yet you're the one saying what one should do and shouldn't.

I never spoke of the OP's mother either so yet again, you're talking about something that was not even said

It's not ideal, but it's your mother. She's probably sacrificed a lot for you and wants nothing more than to see her kid grow up into self sufficient adult who makes her proud. She's asking for a simple favour and I'm sure you can sacrifice one night? Besides worst comes to worst, crash at someone else's?

University students are not 5 year old children to be judging someone based on that. If they would judge over that then they are clearly not worth being friends with.

If you would put strangers you've never met before and most likely won't even have them be life long friends, above the person who gave birth to you and cared for you for 18+ years all over ONE night, then you need to rethink your mind set.

Also I'm pretty sure the OP mentioned she's a girl, not a guy.Either way, it's more than likely her mum wouldn't even be allowed to stay in the halls anyway.

Oh hon, people judge you and people will judge you. This isn't about "friendship" it's about life.

These strangers are who you will be living with for the next year. And from day one, is usually what determines your future for yourself. Bringing your mother on the first day/night is ridiculous beyond belief. No student wants to feel awkward around their flatmate's parent because they slept over! It's uncomfortable and inconsiderate to the other flatmates.

The person who gave birth to her should know better to not guilt trip her own daughter. Any decent parent would not subject their child to such humiliation! Times have changed where everyone judges everyone!

All I'm going to reply to this, is that your repose is irrelevant to me & my life since I will have my flat to my self. Not going to be sharing

Lol you have awful memory. Those were all points from things you yourself typed. Literally look at the previous pages in the thread. If you now disagree with it then it only shows how ridiculous you sounded.

someone else: "Why dont you invite your momma in yo halls around for a week then."

you: "Will do once I'm at uni"

As for your second line, stop being daft. It's nothing to do with personal relationships. And my relationship is fine. All I meant is just because you came out of someones vagina, it doesn't mean every opinion they give you is correct and you should follow it. Would you also do what your mother says if she told you to change who you're voting for? Using your logic it's respectful and therefore must be done. As much as I care about my parents, I'm of no obligation to listen to them if they want to stay with me for my first day at freshers. Neither is anyone else in this thread. Judging from what I've read, hardly anyone wants to anyway. If you're weird enough to want to, fine. But please get off your moral high ground. It's a choice made by you out of preference. It's not a choice made because you respect your parents more than everyone else.



Lastly, you said "One night isn't going to hurt your social life or disturb you settling in". Who else would you be talking about? That's obviously in the context of OP and her mum. And as I said before, it's a pointless thing to say. OP's mum most likely wouldn't even be allowed.

So basically all you dickheads would put strangers and acting 'cool' before your own mothers? It's only embarrasing if you're a insecure beta.

And you think course-mates won't judge either. Please.

Oh it was people like you I had no time for at uni. Once your bubble pops, you'll realise the "real world". You haven't even made it to uni. You have no idea.

literally my worst nightmare. Logistically, her staying overnight in the city makes sense as it's at least a four hour drive back, but i assumed she'd stay in a hotel overnight. Apparently she's going to stay with me in halls and when i refused, she got quite upset and offended. Am i in the wrong here? I tried to explain that i needed to settle in on my own and get to know my own flatmates and go out etc, but she said she'd just stay in my room and not interfere, but... Just the thought of it it horrific. I honestly do not know how to have this discussion with her.

Lol when you go uni you're one of dem people who brings there mom to their class. lol

Having thought about this a bit more, then i'd have thought a hotel was more sensible, but i'd be happy to forego an evening in halls to spend ith with my mother who had just driven 4 hours and spent the last 18 years helping me get to Uni. If Hall was the only option, then id like to think I was grown up enough not to freak out and take it in my stride. It's your mum and you only get one. Resistance is futile so make the best of it.

Carnations suggestion of getting there a day early was an ideal solution.