Hi guys,
I've recently started dating someone new and we've been spending time together. It's been going okay to be honest. It started off well but getting to know him well as been a bit poor. To put it simpler I try super hard to really strike up conversation and get to know him, although I don't feel like I'm getting the same in return.
It's always the same situation. We see each other after work, we kiss, make out , eat and then talk about work... because it's the only thing he really talks about. We do briefly talk about other things but it's not stimulating conversation. My point is, is that we are both physically attracted to each other but mentally...there is no connection.
I think of dating as doing fun things together (bike rides, museums, dinners, walking through the woods, adventure) but he's super laid back to the point where even though I know he doesn't mean it but it's almost way too laidback to the point of no effort.
Also, he just moved to England and I feel like there's a huge cultural/language barrier. He is also 5 years older than me and that's a bit too much for me. When I'm 25, he'll be 30... scary.
He's a nice guy and very charming and there is absolutely nothing wrong with him as a person but he HIMSELF has said that if I did want to see someone else that it would be okay! That's kind of sparked a red flag already for me.
He is into me as much I am into him but I'm tired of the effort being one-sided. I like excitement and thrill and I understand that cant always be the case 24/7 but even a good conversation at the café seems impossible with him.
I don't want to be that jerk who didn't give someone a chance but I have given him the chance and I don't feel the "spark"..... I never miss him when he's gone and I'm never excited to see him. My head says give him a chance but my heart says just leave it be.
WHAT SHOULD I DO??????????