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I haven't seen my crush in a month since school ended but I'm still crazy about her

Even after all this time of not seeing we I'm still obsessed with her and still think she's amazing and perfect. I really miss her. I don't expect her to want me or feel the same way in return but I was actually satisfied with just seeing her every day and having her smile at me sometimes because there was alway some glimmer of hope which is enough for me! I don't want to accept that we can never be together now, also I feel massive amounts of regret for not taking my chances and I always think what if I ha done this or that maybe it could have worked out different and we could be together an I could be really really happy right now. I also kind of hate myself for not being brave enough an blowing it in the Herod the moment I made all these plans for ways to ask her out and I messed them all up mainly because of my own shyness I guess circumstances definetley could have been more favorable but it's mostly my fault for being a wimp

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Original post by Feelings61
Even after all this time of not seeing we I'm still obsessed with her and still think she's amazing and perfect. I really miss her. I don't expect her to want me or feel the same way in return but I was actually satisfied with just seeing her every day and having her smile at me sometimes because there was alway some glimmer of hope which is enough for me! I don't want to accept that we can never be together now, also I feel massive amounts of regret for not taking my chances and I always think what if I ha done this or that maybe it could have worked out different and we could be together an I could be really really happy right now. I also kind of hate myself for not being brave enough an blowing it in the Herod the moment I made all these plans for ways to ask her out and I messed them all up mainly because of my own shyness I guess circumstances definetley could have been more favorable but it's mostly my fault for being a wimp



Don't be too hard on yourself man. Relax there are so many women out there. Enjoy the holidays. Are you going university? That's a great place to meet people
Don't worry , just do things you like , and socialise more get out and about and involved in things and it will help abs besides you still got a whole future ahead of you, you will find someone believe me and I know it's hard but it's like finding a diamond in a pool of rocks . Just takes time really :wink:
Original post by Feelings61
Even after all this time of not seeing we I'm still obsessed with her and still think she's amazing and perfect. I really miss her. I don't expect her to want me or feel the same way in return but I was actually satisfied with just seeing her every day and having her smile at me sometimes because there was alway some glimmer of hope which is enough for me! I don't want to accept that we can never be together now, also I feel massive amounts of regret for not taking my chances and I always think what if I ha done this or that maybe it could have worked out different and we could be together an I could be really really happy right now. I also kind of hate myself for not being brave enough an blowing it in the Herod the moment I made all these plans for ways to ask her out and I messed them all up mainly because of my own shyness I guess circumstances definetley could have been more favorable but it's mostly my fault for being a wimp


I'm in a similar situation to you. I like a girl but she doesn't feel the same way about me, but we have been friends for almost a year and I haven't made a move. It's too late to do that, but I can't hate myself for that. What I'm sad about is losing her because we did a lot of things together. I guess for you it's different because you regret not asking her out but take this as a life lesson, next time act on your feelings and ask the girl out
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But I don't care about a career or job or degree or anything like that the one thing I really desire is to be with her
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Original post by Feelings61
But I don't care about a career or job or degree or anything like that the one thing I really desire is to be with her


I think the obsession is unhealthy, follow your goals to have a successful career. Being so obsessed with this girl is going to pull you down. Probably best to cut contact until you can cope
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Original post by UWS
I think the obsession is unhealthy, follow your goals to have a successful career. Being so obsessed with this girl is going to pull you down. Probably best to cut contact until you can cope


I haven't seen her in ages like nearly 2 months and I still am obsessed with her I'm 100% convinced that I've missed my one chance wig the girl of my dreams and will regret this forever

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I think the obsession is unhealthy, follow your goals to have a successful career. Being so obsessed with this girl is going to pull you down. Probably best to cut contact until you can cope
Why are you so obsessed with me?
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Why are you so obsessed with me?


This scares me
Message her? JUST DO IT
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Original post by Marshall Taylor
Message her? JUST DO IT


I Don't have her number or social media
Original post by Feelings61
I Don't have her number or social media


Search her name on your friend's friends list
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Original post by Marshall Taylor
Search her name on your friend's friends list


I can't find her she's probably inactive or doesn't have it
Original post by Feelings61
I can't find her she's probably inactive or doesn't have it


You sound hopeless and like you have given up... Move on
Original post by Marshall Taylor
Message her? JUST DO IT


He cna't he has a crippling shyness and wont get help or do anything, so he intends to put her on a pedestal and be infatuated with her for the next 70 years.
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He cna't he has a crippling shyness and wont get help or do anything, so he intends to put her on a pedestal and be infatuated with her for the next 70 years.


Play Pokemon Go and meet new people
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Play Pokemon Go and meet new people


He could do, but he is shy. It would be nice form him if he could start to deal with his shyness as its already prevented him from speaking to this girl for months.

He's unlikely to do it on his own, he wont go and see the GP, so he nacks himself into a corner. People have suggested several ways iver months to tackle it, but he's not interested. Shame for him.
do sth about it or move the **** on
Give it another month and you'll be over your crush ; my crush stopped speaking to me a few weeks ago and I'm kinda over them now and this was after speaking to them for two years :/
Original post by Feelings61
Even after all this time of not seeing we I'm still obsessed with her and still think she's amazing and perfect. I really miss her. I don't expect her to want me or feel the same way in return but I was actually satisfied with just seeing her every day and having her smile at me sometimes because there was alway some glimmer of hope which is enough for me! I don't want to accept that we can never be together now, also I feel massive amounts of regret for not taking my chances and I always think what if I ha done this or that maybe it could have worked out different and we could be together an I could be really really happy right now. I also kind of hate myself for not being brave enough an blowing it in the Herod the moment I made all these plans for ways to ask her out and I messed them all up mainly because of my own shyness I guess circumstances definetley could have been more favorable but it's mostly my fault for being a wimp


Hi

Reiterating what others on this thread have said, I guess it's better to move on my friend because maybe she's not worth your time and energy. You should now be thinking about what you want to do in the future. Are you going to uni this summer? Have you ever talked to her, like in class? Smiling could be one of the signs that she likes you or on the other hand it might just be a normal smile that she gives to everyone. I totally understand your situation now. My crush also was shy to ask me out so he told his best friends and as they were in my form they told me about it. I didn't sleep that day as all I could do was think about him. Then after that he would stare into my eyes in lessons and just smile at me and I would then blush. Gosh, this feels like ages ago! This was back in yr 8, good ol' days. Oh and sadly we actually never got together but I still see him in school and after next year I will never see him. We all have feelings, especially during our teenage years and it's like a necessity nowadays to be in a relationship. Sometimes it might not be real feelings it could be infatuation. But what I think is that it will be much better if you focus on your studies and finish your education which is really important at the moment. Then when the time comes your girl of your dreams will come to you or you will be able to find her. Oh wait one more thing do you mind disclosing the name or first letter of your crush's name, I'm just curious! PM me or if you don't want to its fine.


Goodnight

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