Did you ever think you'd never get a BF/GF?

Yeah, I'm an 18 year old girl and I find the idea of kissing a boy terrifying...let alone losing my virginity etc.

Do you think it's the fear that is holding you back too?

I was forever alone until around 19, at which point I turned my whole personality around, grew a pair and it was never an issue again. Its all mind set. To be honest, you realise that finding a relationship or someone to shag is the easy part. Most people are actually pretty nice, most people are a bit lonely inside and want to have sex and cuddle on a sunday watching netflix. Most people are pretty insecure, even if they're outwardly confident, its why you see people flock towards confident seeming people, they're all just craving that stability, that assurance that everything will be ok.

It's finding someone who loves you the way you love them that is the difficult thing, someone who empowers and inspires you.

Yes, I think so. I just feel like I will never successfully find a boyfriend because I find it all so terrifying.

I'm 19 now and I haven't done anything with a girl. I know that there are girls who like me and I'm not concerned my physical appearance will ever be an issue (I only mentioned this so you knew).

But, because I find the thought of kissing/having a relationship so awkward/nerve racking, I feel I will never even get a girlfriend/kiss a girl.

Did you ever think this way?

Yeah I felt this way for years. I was always the girl that people chose last at the school dance lessons, I never got asked out, never got flirted with so never had much experience with the opposite sex and then the fact I suffered from bad anxiety problems made me even less confident about finding someone I would feel comfortable to be with both in a romantic and sexual setting. So I was pretty sure I would be single forever or at least to a pretty mature age because I find it hard to settle with people and get wound up and anxious over the slightest thing and relationships can be stressful, even good relationships can be and I didn't know if I'd be able to handle it.

But eventually I did meet someone and it's been going from strength to strength over the years so don't give up hope. I'm one of those soppy gits that believes there's someone out there for everyone

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I'm 19 now and I haven't done anything with a girl. I know that there are girls who like me and I'm not concerned my physical appearance will ever be an issue (I only mentioned this so you knew).

But, because I find the thought of kissing/having a relationship so awkward/nerve racking, I feel I will never even get a girlfriend/kiss a girl.

Did you ever think this way?

Yepp I feel like that and I know I will never.

I'm happy with my cats.

I 100% agree with what you have said, I'm sure confidence is the difference between my currently situation and me having girls surrounding me.

Thing is, I have anxiety issues so It's hard to just 'grow one'. Especially as my anxiety is subconscious meaning that I can't just tell myself to grow some. I'm actually a very confident guy consciously, but as soon as I approach a scenario my subconscious doesn't like, my body panics.

One New Years Eve for example I noticed two girls at a dinner, I spoke to them afterwards and offered to buy them a drink. I didn't consciously feel scared at all, but then out of nowhere I just remember myself running to the toilet before throwing up everywhere hahaha