Not everyone going to uni has a supportive family

Nobody says they're not. However, that does not mean that it isn't selfish for family not to help one another if they can, not unless they have a very bad relationship. I used to wonder how children could put their parents in retirement homes and leave them to grow old lonely, perhaps these are the sort of parents who end up there.

Things like this.. It's dramatic to say (but very true to me) that I feel betrayed everytime things like this come up. Like.. Why can't you help me with a small thing and I'm sure I can repay the favour in the future

I was under the impression that a lot of these "degrees" aren't worth the paper there written on. Whatever, keep funding those hedge funds with your poorly spent money and time at university. And say the actual word "university", it's not "uni".

It's "they're", not "there".

Thanks university genius! Put that on your wall and frame it!

You seem pretty salty, did you not get in to uni?

youll proove her wrong ena,DW

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😡😡😡😡 that's literally the most out of order thing a mum can wish for her child WTH. God doesn't accept prayers made with bad and malicious intentions that's for sure.😡😡😡😡

It feels strange reading these comments because generally in Asian-SouthAsian-Pakistani culture this is completely the opposite and that parents thoroughly house and take care of their children even when they're in their 20s-30s!

Some Asian Pakistani families aren't even wealthy, we're in deep financial struggles just like you are, but even so the respect between parents and children is taken VERY seriously in my culture (and religion) which I'm extremely grateful for.

You'll never see a Pakistani guy/girl getting booted from their house just because they're old enough to take care of themselves.


And of course the children modestly give back to their parents and treat them with respect for their entire lives.

Like they all say: what goes around comes around.

Parents really need to respect their children and understand that's it's their offspring that are going to bury them in their graves.

My parents are actually South Asian

I know, I was shocked when I read your comments especially when you're going to a top uni. Doesn't make sense but your dad is super supportive though. It'll benefit your mum after you graduate more since you could be looking after her with a banging salary.

If I do get into my firm and earn a nice salary, I'm not giving her a single penny. She has given me zilch support throughout the whole process.

My dad deserves everything I earn though

This sounds like Cinderella lol; substituting the step mother.
I don't think she understands tbh, have you tried explaining it to her? I think she's just mostly worried for you moving out. I'm sure she hasn't directly told you she's jealous that you're doing better than she did right? And pride? Doesn't she want the pride of her daughter going to Oxford ( correct me if I'm wrong 😭)

Oh I've tried explaining, talked to her about potential high salaries, shown the numerous famous alumni etc only for her to say 'women shouldn't aim that high. The women who try to be smart always come to a sticky end'

Eh I don't know. I just want to get away from her asap

Nah she's got no sense of pride in her children. No matter what I get, even if it's a Nobel Prize or something, the cousin who got married young, is a housewife, and has 4 kids will have brought more 'honour' to their family than me.