Did my ex dump me for hurting his ego???

My ex didn't think I liked him when we first started dating. I rejected his first few attempts at kissing, and made him wait for the sex despite his advances.

He said later on that this had really upset him.

When we started having sex regularly, I never went down on him or touched him down there. I wanted to make sure he was really in to me, as I really don't like doing down on guys.

He also never made me come, despite efforts.

One day he spoke to me about it , saying he didn't think I was enjoying the sex and that he found it upsetting. I said I was, and I actually was, I just get nervous during sex with someone I like and don't seem to come.

He dumped me after just 2 months and it really hurt me. before he dumped me he seemed very caring towards me and never wanted to hurt my feelings, but as soon as he had crossed the barrier and ended things it was as if he enjoyed hurting me.
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Reply 1

Nim_123

I wouldn't say you hurt his ego,
He just sounds sexually frustrated.
But it could just be he dumped you due to something else which you probably didn't realise,
Or he's a guy who doesn't commit.
TBH, there could be a lot of reasons more likely to be about him than you.

Hope you're feeling a bit better now, break ups can be difficult,
if you need someone to talk to, I'm here. 😊

Yes

Original post by Anonymous

That depends is your boyfriend Kanye West by any chance?

Reply 4

Pinkberry_y

I think you two are sexually incompatible and unfortunately that can be a killer for relationships. Nothing to do with egos

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Original post by Pinkberry_y

I think you two are sexually incompatible and unfortunately that can be a killer for relationships. Nothing to do with egos

Huh you mean he didn't find me sexually attractive?

Reply 6

Pinkberry_y

Original post by Anonymous

Huh you mean he didn't find me sexually attractive?

No no It has nothing to do with attraction it means things like mismatching sex drives and just generally not being well matched in bed or real chemistry in bed or you're incapable of fulfilling each others sexual needs

Reply 7

Angry Bird

he probably thought he was a high value person and you didn't make him feel like it so he left you

Reply 8

999tigger

Original post by Anonymous

Just sounds like poor sex. If you arent enjoying it then he wont.

Reply 9

RobML

Wait, you often had sex but never touched his peepee?

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Reply 10

felthrian

I will be brutally honest, I'm not trying to be mean, just honest - if I've read the situation wrong, please feel free to disregard what I've said.

You've never mentioned that you communicated anything to him, but mentioned frequently him opening up to you about his concerns.

I think, based on the limited information you've provided, he left you because of a lack of communication on your end. Wanting him to wait, having apprehension and anxiety about intimacy are all okay, but do you truly believe you let him understand that? It doesn't sound like it to me.

Another thing, you mention that he never made you come - immediately after mentioning that you never even touched his penis. This seems very selfish, it's a problem that he can't please you but you're not even willing to touch him? Intimacy is between two people, it's not just his responsibility to work hard for your pleasure. Sex is about working together for mutual pleasure. If you can't even touch his penis, how can you expect him to be able to make you orgasm?

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Reply 11

Sisuphos

Original post by RobML

Wait, you often had sex but never touched his peepee?

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I'd like to believe that by "touch" she meant touch with her mouth, i.e. oral. If she actually meant touch with hand then I consider that guy a hero for not dumping her earlier.