I have difficulty saying no

For most part, I have difficulty saying no if someone asks me for favour. This leads to lots of pressure and I am left with tedious works of others. If I say no I feel like I am being rude. How to refuse doing work for someone else politely? How can I help myself in this situation?

Reply 1

L's Successor

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Will you go out with me :colondollar:

Reply 2

SayoniRoy

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Original post by L's Successor

Will you go out with me :colondollar:

Depends

Reply 3

SayoniRoy

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Once I told my friend that I don't have time to help her with her work and she got so mad at me that she stopped talking to me. I am afraid from that time. I feel like I will lose friends.

Reply 4

PrincessBO$$

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Original post by L's Successor

Will you go out with me :colondollar:

Original post by SayoniRoy

Depends

Girl this guy asked like every girl on TSR out

A classic fucboi :u:

Original post by SayoniRoy

For most part, I have difficulty saying no if someone asks me for favour. This leads to lots of pressure and I am left with tedious works of others. If I say no I feel like I am being rude. How to refuse doing work for someone else politely? How can I help myself in this situation?

Well you're not inclined to do something for a person and they shouldn't expect a 'yes' 100% of the time. Remember, the more times you agree, the more dependent those same people can become on you for help. If you don't want to do something for them, just say that you can't. Depending how important this help is to the person and how well you know them, you can decide whether you really want to help them or not.

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SayoniRoy

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Original post by PrincessBO$$

Girl this guy asked like every girl on TSR out

A classic fucboi :u:

I knew someone would comment "lets date" or "f--- me" to mock my post

Reply 7

shawn_o1

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Maybe some people just demand really long explanations for your actions that don't come across as excuses. Like your future boss at work. You know you're always one bad performance away from the sack (while the boss treats himself to several holidays a year :wink:

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L's Successor

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Original post by PrincessBO$$

Girl this guy asked like every girl on TSR out

A classic fucboi :u:

Lol I didn't ask you out m8 :tongue:

Also I'm just trying to abuse her situation :tongue:

Original post by PrincessBO$$

Girl this guy asked like every girl on TSR out

A classic fucboi :u:

Wanna go out with me?

Reply 10

SayoniRoy

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Original post by RDKGames

Well you're not inclined to do something for a person and they shouldn't expect a 'yes' 100% of the time. Remember, the more times you agree, the more dependent those same people can become on you for help. If you don't want to do something for them, just say that you can't. Depending how important this help is to the person and how well you know them, you can decide whether you really want to help them or not.

I have been like this for years and people generally expect me to do favour for them. I know the problem is deep rooted in me.

Reply 11

PrincessBO$$

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Original post by L's Successor

Lol I didn't ask you out m8 :tongue:

Also I'm just trying to abuse her situation :tongue:

Thank God m8

Original post by RDKGames

Wanna go out with me?

No.

Reply 12

CheeseIsVeg

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Original post by SayoniRoy

For most part, I have difficulty saying no if someone asks me for favour. This leads to lots of pressure and I am left with tedious works of others. If I say no I feel like I am being rude. How to refuse doing work for someone else politely? How can I help myself in this situation?

say you're not an expert in the job
are ill
not feeling up to it
have more important matters to attend to
or play the "there's a pikachu over there" pokemon go card

Spoiler

Reply 13

PrincessBO$$

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Original post by SayoniRoy

I knew someone would comment "lets date" or "f--- me" to mock my post

Im sorry you had to go thro sh*t

Reply 14

SayoniRoy

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Original post by CheeseIsVeg

say you're not an expert in the job
are ill
not feeling up to it
have more important matters to attend to
or play the "there's a pikachu over there" pokemon go card

Spoiler

Haha thanks for the advice.