should i go to a (kinda) friend's wedding?

OK, a guy I know is getting married in the near future and weve known each other for 18-20 years due to parents being family friends (asian connection). thing is though, we were sorta friends and we keep on good terms with each other (that and I used to mentor him when I was in high school / sixth form).

thing is however is that there are a few roblems:
1) we havent really been in much contact since 2013 (he moved elsewere and working fulltime whereas I am working odd hour shifts :|)
2) the invite wasnt so much for myself but for either of my parent's (neither of whom want to attend due to personal reasons)
3) I hate weddings (i get bored so easily and always do something clumsy, stupid or both)


4) I used to be best friends with his fav cousin about ~8 years ago...and im kinda terrified of speaking to her / going anywhere near her.

apologies for the long-winded 4th point but should I avoid my (sorta) friend's wedding or not? cheers guys

Seems like it would be quite an entertaining scenario, given the circumstances, haha. Were the letters specifically addressed to your parents?

actually, to all the guys in our semi-social group, it was only the parents who were invited (that even 1 parent not both) so a lot of us are peeved. its more worrying for those who are multiple children per household :|

in fairness, asian weddings usually have guest lists dictated by parents, so it can be expected the parents would be chosen in preference to us lot

For all the reasons you gave, there is no need to go .So don't go because it seems like you are not ready to face neither your friend nor his cousin.


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I see. Well, I wouldn't recommend going then.

If you don't wanna go then don't go. If you guys are solid you don't need to be there.

thing is however, a lot of weddings where its the parents invited, the kids go instead. tradition is that as long as someone from your household goes usually. annoying thing is that other members of my family are going (and as anyone from asian / Mediterranean / middle eastern extended families will tell you, aunts / uncles are crapheads)

Lol, in your situation, I wouldn't go. Up to you though...

thign is though, we're not supertight (friends, not best friends). I mean, we dont tell each others secrets and have memorable experiences but we have shared experiences growing up, used to play 5 aside with each other and some other stuff.

Hmm, the fact that you've given me reasons on why you could go, kinda implies you want to go. Plus, you haven't let go of this girl either; she's evidentially still on your mind. Is there a possibility you want to go this wedding because of her?

I would only go if there was free alcohol

yeah but as you said you USED TO. I used to be friends with a lot of people too but am not anymore. i mean if i saw them in the streets of course i'd still be friendly with them but if they were to ever invite me to a wedding i wouldn't go if i was no longer close with them.

only go to weddings you NEED to go to. as in you won't be forgiven if you don't go. so close friends and family members. i never go to random peoples weddings or old acquaintances weddings. only went to a strangers wedding once as someones date

tbh, id rather confront her in a private setting, I wouldnt really want to go to a public event with her attending. Ill admit she is on my mind to a degree but im at the stage where id like to know what she thinks of me honestly and irregardless of like or dislike, i be happy with it.

I do want to go for the friend though, but i kinda dont want to be embarrassing on the day / do something embarrassing.

it also doenst help 1 have a 12 hour shift the following day 8-8