Please give suggestions how i can improve my conversation skills
I am totally crap at small talk and talking in general to people I don't know and It really depresses me how I have never been able to get better at it no matter how hard i try.
Having to have any conversation besides with the very few who are very close with frightens me to death these days. I find myself quickly (very quickly) running out of things to say and ask and i'm forever worrying if my conversations are absolutely boring. Even with family it can be hard.
It just feels as though everyone else was born a natural extrovert with gift of the gab while I have always struggled, especially in dating where it seems like the guy is expected to hold the conversation.
Is there anything i can do to improve at conversation and interacting with people (particularly with women)? I find myself on Youtube watching and then trying to emulate these people who are great at conversation but my attempts always fail.
Is there any activity i can do? Any thing that will help me and stop my brain coming to a shutdown when it comes to conversation (especially small talk?)
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Having to have any conversation besides with the very few who are very close with frightens me to death these days. I find myself quickly (very quickly) running out of things to say and ask and i'm forever worrying if my conversations are absolutely boring. Even with family it can be hard.
It just feels as though everyone else was born a natural extrovert with gift of the gab while I have always struggled, especially in dating where it seems like the guy is expected to hold the conversation.
Is there anything i can do to improve at conversation and interacting with people (particularly with women)? I find myself on Youtube watching and then trying to emulate these people who are great at conversation but my attempts always fail.
Is there any activity i can do? Any thing that will help me and stop my brain coming to a shutdown when it comes to conversation (especially small talk?)
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Don't make small talk😉, most girls don't even like small talk. Start big straight away with a deep conversation
Original post by Foo.mp3
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Original post by jblackmoustache
I am totally crap at small talk and talking in general to people I don't know and It really depresses me how I have never been able to get better at it no matter how hard i try.
Having to have any conversation besides with the very few who are very close with frightens me to death these days. I find myself quickly (very quickly) running out of things to say and ask and i'm forever worrying if my conversations are absolutely boring. Even with family it can be hard.
It just feels as though everyone else was born a natural extrovert with gift of the gab while I have always struggled, especially in dating where it seems like the guy is expected to hold the conversation.
Is there anything i can do to improve at conversation and interacting with people (particularly with women)? I find myself on Youtube watching and then trying to emulate these people who are great at conversation but my attempts always fail.
Is there any activity i can do? Any thing that will help me and stop my brain coming to a shutdown when it comes to conversation (especially small talk?)
Posted from TSR Mobile
Having to have any conversation besides with the very few who are very close with frightens me to death these days. I find myself quickly (very quickly) running out of things to say and ask and i'm forever worrying if my conversations are absolutely boring. Even with family it can be hard.
It just feels as though everyone else was born a natural extrovert with gift of the gab while I have always struggled, especially in dating where it seems like the guy is expected to hold the conversation.
Is there anything i can do to improve at conversation and interacting with people (particularly with women)? I find myself on Youtube watching and then trying to emulate these people who are great at conversation but my attempts always fail.
Is there any activity i can do? Any thing that will help me and stop my brain coming to a shutdown when it comes to conversation (especially small talk?)
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The easiest way to keep a conversation going AND enjoy it is to ask the other person lots of questions, preferably questions that require more than just a yes/no answer. So if someone tells you that they're studying Geography at Bristol Uni, ask them questions like:
- why did you want to study geography?
- what parts of the course do you enjoy?
- do you like living in Bristol?
- what do you like about living in Bristol? (this will leads to lots of things to talk about depending on what they say)
- I'd love to go to Bristol! Do you have a favourite area in Bristol that you like to hang out in?
That'll keep them chatting for ages. You can comment on the things they say or you can wait for them to ask you questions.
If you feel like you haven't got anything to say, it may be that the other person isn't asking you good questions. Most people will enjoy a conversation with you if they think that you're interested in them.
Learning to leave conversations is the hardest part!
Original post by ComfyCardi
The easiest way to keep a conversation going AND enjoy it is to ask the other person lots of questions, preferably questions that require more than just a yes/no answer. So if someone tells you that they're studying Geography at Bristol Uni, ask them questions like:
- why did you want to study geography?
- what parts of the course do you enjoy?
- do you like living in Bristol?
- what do you like about living in Bristol? (this will leads to lots of things to talk about depending on what they say)
- I'd love to go to Bristol! Do you have a favourite area in Bristol that you like to hang out in?
That'll keep them chatting for ages. You can comment on the things they say or you can wait for them to ask you questions.
If you feel like you haven't got anything to say, it may be that the other person isn't asking you good questions. Most people will enjoy a conversation with you if they think that you're interested in them.
Learning to leave conversations is the hardest part!
- why did you want to study geography?
- what parts of the course do you enjoy?
- do you like living in Bristol?
- what do you like about living in Bristol? (this will leads to lots of things to talk about depending on what they say)
- I'd love to go to Bristol! Do you have a favourite area in Bristol that you like to hang out in?
That'll keep them chatting for ages. You can comment on the things they say or you can wait for them to ask you questions.
If you feel like you haven't got anything to say, it may be that the other person isn't asking you good questions. Most people will enjoy a conversation with you if they think that you're interested in them.
Learning to leave conversations is the hardest part!
I'd agree with you on the point that OP should learn to be a good listener, as this would take the pressure off them. However, considering that OP probably doesn't have particularly good social skills, there's a risk that the questions won't flow naturally, and it would become more like an interview. From my own experiences, if you go into a social situation with pre-planned questions you'll be too busy focusing on keeping the conversation going to notice potential responses/ questions that naturally arise in the conversation.
If I were OP, I'd try to stop worrying about the conversation being boring, as this will inhibit natural responses. I appreciate that this is easier said than done though.
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