Girl I like agreed to go out for a drink with me

a few months ago i met a girl on a night out. shes 5 years older than me but we really hit it off i live in manchester and she lives in london so we added each other on fb so that we can keep in touch. a few months ago i mentioned us going out for a drink together and she said that would be nice. that was about 2 months ago and we have hardly spoken since due to us both going on holiday and being busy anyway i spoke to her last night and mentioned meeting up for a drink and she agreed but said it would have to be in a few weeks as shes busy for the next few weekends.

i dont want to keep messaging her asking when should we go out for a drink so im thinking that i dont mention it again to her until i get paid at the end of next week and then messaging her and saying something like "hey ive been paid so i was going to book a hotel for when youre free?"

how does that sound and does anyone have any other advice?

a few months ago i met a girl on a night out. shes 5 years older than me but we really hit it off i live in manchester and she lives in london so we added each other on fb so that we can keep in touch. a few months ago i mentioned us going out for a drink together and she said that would be nice. that was about 2 months ago and we have hardly spoken since due to us both going on holiday and being busy anyway i spoke to her last night and mentioned meeting up for a drink and she agreed but said it would have to be in a few weeks as shes busy for the next few weekends.

i dont want to keep messaging her asking when should we go out for a drink so im thinking that i dont mention it again to her until i get paid at the end of next week and then messaging her and saying something like "hey ive been paid so i was going to book a hotel for when youre free?"

how does that sound and does anyone have any other advice?

Please don't message her the hotel thing, it tells her you only want her for sex, even if that's not the case

I would just call her and arrange a mutually convenient weekend to meet for the drink in London. I agree with others not to specifically mention where you are staying at that stage. What's your instinct, do you think she's up for a romantic relationship? Its positive that she wants to see you but the 'not for a few weeks' line could suggest just friends.

The old 'I'm busy' excuse, chances are she's going to keep saying she is busy. Just put something like 'just let me know when you're free'. If she's that interested she will make an effort to arrange a date, little you say is going to influence her decision.

....she's recently separated from her husband (there is a bit of an age gap between us) and she looks after her kid most weekends so I understand why she can't meet up for a few weeks.

How did you jump from drink to hotel?

Well, that escalated quickly.

Piece of unsolicted advise from an old man Op, next time be firm when asking out a woman (time and place) believe me they like it that way than you letting them lead.

About your plight, (well this is not really a plight) ask her once again but final this time and if she says no or make excuses, then walk away, believe me you will survive it... tell her:

Anonymous: hi (insert lady name), I will be in London 1st week of next month , give me a shout if you still up for coffee somewhere, someplace you say where.

Keep it short and leave it this way. 1 week is 7 days this will put the ball in her court ..if she cannot give you a single day of it then im afraid its game over in my book. Best of luck.






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Well, that escalated quickly.

Piece of unsolicted advise from an old man Op, next time be firm when asking out a woman (time and place) believe me they like it that way than you letting them lead.

About your plight, (well this is not really a plight) ask her once again but final this time and if she says no or make excuses, then walk away, believe me you will survive it... tell her:

Anonymous: hi (insert lady name), I will be in London 1st week of next month , give me a shout if you still up for coffee somewhere, someplace you say where.

Keep it short and leave it this way. 1 week is 7 days this will put the ball in her court ..if she cannot give you a single day of it then im afraid its game over in my book. Best of luck.






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Well, that escalated quickly.

Piece of unsolicted advise from an old man Op, next time be firm when asking out a woman (time and place) believe me they like it that way than you letting them lead.

About your plight, (well this is not really a plight) ask her once again but final this time and if she says no or make excuses, then walk away, believe me you will survive it... tell her:

Anonymous: hi (insert lady name), I will be in London 1st week of next month , give me a shout if you still up for coffee somewhere, someplace you say where.

Keep it short and leave it this way. 1 week is 7 days this will put the ball in her court ..if she cannot give you a single day of it then im afraid its game over in my book. Best of luck.





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I'm a girl and tbh your message sounds ok to me. Maybe suggest some dates to make it more specific. Something like "Hey, I've just been paid and was thinking of booking a hotel now for when you're free. I was thinking of maybe (say, second weekend of september), would that be ok?"

Ok. I'm not going to message her until I get paid next week as I don't want to see desperate or clingy and then see what she says.

Also as you're a girl what would you think if a guy was willing to travel for 3 hours to meet you?