I'm planning on ending things with him, but first I need to check

Hi people

So, I'm completely fed up with my relationship with this guy I've been seeing for a couple of years. I don't know how to label this relationship - it's s strange one. Anyway, I ended contact with him back in April, asking him to leave me alone because I was going through a rough time and was sick of all the neglect. All of my friends were there for me during that time and regularly checked up. Him? Not even once. I went for two months of no contact and was starting to finally feel good about the though of never speaking to him again. Then he finally broke NC and got in touch, and like an idiot I gave in.

For the first month after that he was much better behaved. We live in different cities now due to my moving but I planned on visiting him soon and he would always call, text and check up regularly. Then after I while it seemed like I was making most of the effort so I stopped texting first to see how long it would take him. This guy claims to have feelings for me and he has now gone 2 weeks without texting or calling.

For me this is the last straw. I was hurt cried about my own stupidity for letting him into my life again but now I'm calm. Tonight I will tell him that I want to end all contact, and for good this time. I will also block his number and block him on social media so that he can't contact me again. I want to make sure that he didn't have a valid reason not to contact me all this time though (but I'm fairly certain that he doesn't). So, what should I do before dropping the bomb to make sure that he hasn't been grieving for a dead family member or friend or something?

Your relationship died a long time ago.

Just cut him off completely and ell him you want to move on , so you have decided zero contyact is whats needed. Dont just block him delete him and all ability to contact him. The only thing I cna think of is the unlikely event eitehr of you owes money or has possessions of the other.

He really wont be that botheredand will move on , so you dont need to dwell on soemthing that wasnt great and you should move on as well.

Hi people

Anyway, I ended contact with him back in April, asking him to leave me alone because I was going through a rough time and was sick of all the neglect. All of my friends were there for me during that time and regularly checked up. Him? Not even once.

Thanks, there really is nothing left for me in whatever this relationship is and I was much better off during those two months when there was no contact. I wasn't getting sad and beating myself up about a stupid decision that I made. I want to go back to that

So you told him to leave you alone, then were annoyed that he didn't contact you for a period of time, and now you're annoyed because he has contacted you? What did you actually want from him?

For the record the guy sounds like an idiot and you should definitely break up, but you seem to want to play games instead of actually communicating what you want.

No, I told him to leave me alone back in April and he did for 2 months, I was happy with that. Then he contacted again me after those two months, and I should have ignored him but I didn't. So we stayed in regular contact after that for a month, until it got worse and worse, to the point that he hasn't called or texted for two weeks.

I certainly am not playing games, which is why I am ending things for good this time.

I don't know...

1) You told him never to contact him again. He didn't. Then you got mad at him for doing what you wanted

2) you're purposefully not contacting him for 2 weeks waiting for him to do it first, then get mad at him when he doesn't. Sounds like games to me

So while he's not very sensitive in the first place, you're clearly not a match for each other. Break up!

No

1) I told him not to contact me again, he didn't for two months after which he did, then we rekindled our "relationship". What's making me angry is that after we resumed this "relationship", he has started to neglect me again. This proves that I made a mistake by letting he into my life.

2) That's because I got tired of initiating contact, and suspected that it would take him a long time to contact me if I didn't. This only confirmed my suspicions, and that I need to end things now.

All the more reason to stop all contact and move on then?

No

1) I told him not to contact me again, he didn't for two months after which he did, then we rekindled our "relationship". What's making me angry is that after we resumed this "relationship", he has started to neglect me again. This proves that I made a mistake by letting he into my life.

2) That's because I got tired of initiating contact, and suspected that it would take him a long time to contact me if I didn't. This only confirmed my suspicions, and that I need to end things now.

Thanks, there really is nothing left for me in whatever this relationship is and I was much better off during those two months when there was no contact. I wasn't getting sad and beating myself up about a stupid decision that I made. I want to go back to that

There are impoertant lessons for you to learn.
How long to hang on and when to move on.
You seem your own worst enemy in some respects from having let it drag on. Flogging a dead horse.
How to interpret what a soon to be ex says and does.
Are you sleeping together since you got back? If you are then it could be simply that, he tells you what you wnat to hear and it all becomes easy and convenienet for him for a while. You need to recognise the sincere from the users.

You also need to start being realistic and recognise when someone is not as into you as you are them.

Yes, it's crucial that I never make the same mistake again with anyone else. I have to look out for the warning signs before getting too attached. My concern is that I might become rather paranoid in the next relationship, but that beats going through something like this again.

We haven't had sex since he made contact again in June but we have sexted and it was going to happen during my planned visit (which definitely isn't happening anymore). So I suppose that he believed he was going to get sex sometime in the near future.