What would your reaction be if your son came out as a transgender?

What would you do if your son was a drug user?

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This is actually a toughy. I'm quite liberal when it comes to sexuality and what you identify as. I mean, I think it's ridiculous that some people identify as cats and wolves (damn furries ) but at the same time it's like 'if it makes you happy, you do you'.

That said, there is a shockingly high attempted suicide rate for transgenders (~41% according to some studies). However, whether this is due to societal discrimination, or regret/unhealthy psyche to begin with, I have no clue. I guess I'd be worried, I mean If my son goes through with this lifestyle, he's opening himself up to bullying, trolling, ridicule, persecution and in some cases physical violence just for him being himself(herself?).

I'd have quite a few long talks with my son, I'd listen, and understand where he is coming from, because nothing is worse as a child than your parents not understanding who you are, and forcing their views of who you should be on you. But (ready the pitchforks) I would try and dissuade him from the choice for a few years. Not actively forcing him into a 'manly' way of being, but encouraging him to find a middle ground where he is happy as his gender/in his own body, but also remains himself in personality and preferences.. if that makes any sense? Above all though, I'd be supportive of him and his decisions.

There's a quote I like alot that answers why I'd be so supportive, to paraphrase it "when we try and be someone we are not, either we succeed and feel as we have lost ourselves, or we fail. Either way, we despair. (So be yourself)" Really not doing the quote justice . Doesn't mean you can't try and improve, or try and fit into societal norms abit better. But above all you shouldn't change what fundamentally makes you, you, to achieve that, because you'll be more miserable if you do, than if you go against the grain of what society deems 'acceptable'.

Ofc it's hard to give a real reaction when so much of the scenario is left to the imagination, like whether he wants gender-reassignment surgery or not, but the above is just how I'd react to the general situation at first.

Surgery is much more difficult the later you leave it because puberty has happened. You should let doctors assess the situation.

okay I am not really up for a debate about the morality of religious teachings, but the foundation of religion is to love and accept people. You are going against this by rejecting your child. Also, do not thrust your views upon others. It is fine for you to be religious, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, but let others - including your child - make up their own mind about these things and don't indoctrinate and brainwash them.

Hmmm, I'm sorry I'm not gonna lie there is something bothering me about a young child going through surgery. Pre-pubescent kids just seem way too young to be sure about that kind of thing, no matter what the doctors say. But if I ever happened to be in that situation, that is the only time I'll ever know what I'd do, because maybe I'd be stressing over nothing

Loving someone doesn't mean that you should accept every decision they make. The most loving thing to do is to guide them towards the right path. The most hateful thing I could do is to let my son/daughter continue in their sin while knowing that they will be condemned to eternal damnation if they carry on like this.

You don't "come out" as a transgender. You 'come out' as transgendered.

"Oh, he's a transgender..."? Nope.

I would help my son. I would never need to know if he was a drug user unless things went wrong. I couldn't care less if my son chose to have an experience a few times, or smoke a joint with his pals. It's not happening in my house, because it's illegal and I don't want smoking in my house, period. If it got to a point where he became an addict, I would love and help my son. I would't shun him at all.

But at the same time, he'd have been a ****ing idiot for getting into it in the first place.

Loving someone doesn't mean that you should accept every decision they make. The most loving thing to do is to guide them towards the right path. The most hateful thing I could do is to let my son/daughter continue in their sin while knowing that they will be condemned to eternal damnation if they carry on like this.

But you'd still consider him to be a ****?



Would you feel the same if it was alcohol, what if they had mental health issues or a bigoted father and used it as an escape?

No, the most loving thing to do is accept that your child is their own rationally autonomous being and that your religious drivel is your own beliefs, not your child's. If they make legally acceptable, non-harmful, and informed choices, then you cannot as a parent, not accept them. You need to accept them and love the child, regardless of your own qualms with those choices.

Makes me so mad even listening to you validate your points with religious nonsense. IT IS A BOOK CONSTRUCTED BY PRIESTS HUNDREDS OF YEARS AGO TO MANIPULATE THE POPULATION INTO FOLLOWING WHAT THE CHURCH WANTED THEM TO FOLLOW, AND TO CONSOLIDATE POWER. STOP. YOU HAVE NO IDEA IF THIS FIGURE LIVES ON A CLOUD. IT IS YOUR BELIEF. IT IS NOT FACT. THERE'S BARELY ANY BACKING FOR ANY OF IT. LITERALLY JUST STOP.

If you don't have a son, pretend that you do...

Literally just listening to your bs makes me so angry. This world would be so much better off without religion. Toxic.

Literally just listening to your bs makes me so angry. This world would be so much better off without religion. Toxic.

Yes, I would. I think it's unnecessary and a disgusting waste.

If I was there father, I wouldn't be 'bigoted' but if they used it as an escape or had mental health issues, there'd be different things at work and I'd help and support them.

I would be the same if it was alcohol.

Maybe it's making you angry because you know it's the truth. That's my take, anyway.

Please don't think this person represents the entire world of faith