Help me find a rich husband pls

Moaning about your job is fine, sponging of someone who according to your numbers probably hates what they have to do to earn money is not. Buy a weekly lottery ticket, don't be a parasite living an undeserved lifestyle that's not necessary in the slightest.

I think some people are misunderstanding this situation. i don't fully understand the OP's motives more than what she has written, but I think it may not be that bad.

For example, let us imagine a young beautiful woman who studies at Cambridge or Harvard and gets a job as a lawyer or a doctor. Her boyfriend, who then becomes her husband, is from a wealthy family.

He tells her not to work any more because, in reality, they don't have to work to life a VERY comfortable life. She decides to not work, in order to focus on raising her young family. Now will you classify this woman as a gold-digger? No, I don't think so.

What about a woman who is in the same situation and qualified, but just wanst to marry a rich man or into a rich family because she does not want to waste her life working? Is she a gold-digger.

Finally, what about if the OP never mentioned it to anyone, but got married and told her rich husband that she does not want to work? Will she be a gold-digger?

My point is that we need to be careful with labels because society (through the help of feminists) is shouting that women, who may just want an "easy", should go and work. There are claims that even self-selected housewives are a disgrace to womanhood, which is sad.

Not all rich people are there slugging away. some of them are just relaxed enjoying their lives doing other things other than working in dead-end jobs.

Why will someone want to work for the sake of working, if you don't enjoy what they are doing? Why will someone want to do 40 - 60 hour weeks in jobs that they will quit in a second, if they fell into money?

I think some people are misunderstanding this situation. i don't fully understand the OP's motives more than what she has written, but I think it may not be that bad.

For example, let us imagine a young beautiful woman who studies at Cambridge or Harvard and gets a job as a lawyer or a doctor. Her boyfriend, who then becomes her husband, is from a wealthy family.

He tells her not to work any more because, in reality, they don't have to work to life a VERY comfortable life. She decides to not work, in order to focus on raising her young family. Now will you classify this woman as a gold-digger? No, I don't think so.

What about a woman who is in the same situation and qualified, but just wanst to marry a rich man or into a rich family because she does not want to waste her life working? Is she a gold-digger.

Finally, what about if the OP never mentioned it to anyone, but got married and told her rich husband that she does not want to work? Will she be a gold-digger?

My point is that we need to be careful with labels because society (through the help of feminists) is shouting that women, who may just want an "easy", should go and work. There are claims that even self-selected housewives are a disgrace to womanhood, which is sad.

Not all rich people are there slugging away. some of them are just relaxed enjoying their lives doing other things other than working in dead-end jobs.

Why will someone want to work for the sake of working, if you don't enjoy what they are doing? Why will someone want to do 40 - 60 hour weeks in jobs that they will quit in a second, if they fell into money?

Yes, all very well and romantic that someone may not want to slog it out 18 hours a day and instead do more edifying, enjoyable things with their time. Point is.....DON'T WE ALL. Why should a man have to bank roll that for you? It's very very expensive and in most cases it's paid for by a ton of hard graft, risk, discomfort and other substitutes for the things you'd rather be doing. If you don't want to waste your life working, live a lifestyle that you can afford ie. very modest. Riches are excessive. All your examples describe a 'gold-digger'. And a very important point you have overlooked in asking why someone would 'work for the sake of working' is that to take a break from work, leaving a gap on your cv, will make it bloody hard to pick up work again if you need to or even want to in future. This is the problem that is often faced by many housewives that have to suddenly go back into the workforce. They now can only compete for the most menial of jobs. An outstanding education, as in your example, becomes redundant after a number of years. This woman is left with very limited options as a means of achieving anything that resembles her previous lifestyle and most of those options are men. The later down the line this happens the more likely her potential sources of income are to be divorced or generally unable to attract a wife. As for your warning us not to belittle the voluntary housewife, we are not and we are certainly not lumping her with the very questionable type of woman that OP aspires to. They are quite different.

Lol why are you going to bother posting if its not helpful. I said at the start spare me that bs about being golddigger. I'm not stupid, my grades aren't terrible and I aspire to attend a russell group uni (hardly anyone from my estate attends uni let alone a russell group)..BUT I want to break away from thos crappy social class. Now that doesn't mean I'm going to drop my knickers for the first rich guy I meet but I want to be in a vicinity where I can meet quite a few and hopefully we click. I can't do that on my own. I want a family and in order to reach millionaire status I anticipate it will take at least a decade. And also loads of women do this. The duchess of this country did it and no ones out there calling her a golddigging whore.

The thought of this has crossed my mind before (lol I have no shame), BUT it's definitely something I'd never do. A posh toff would never be able to 'get me', considering my background would be completely different. What do you do when he leaves you? Being with someone just for money is shallow, and it would honestly make me feel so hollow and horrible. Just work hard, get a decent job and you'll be fine. Most people won't be able to afford penthouses, private jets etc. but that's just something you have to get over.

Lol why are you going to bother posting if its not helpful. I said at the start spare me that bs about being golddigger. I'm not stupid, my grades aren't terrible and I aspire to attend a russell group uni (hardly anyone from my estate attends uni let alone a russell group)..BUT I want to break away from thos crappy social class. Now that doesn't mean I'm going to drop my knickers for the first rich guy I meet but I want to be in a vicinity where I can meet quite a few and hopefully we click. I can't do that on my own. I want a family and in order to reach millionaire status I anticipate it will take at least a decade. And also loads of women do this. The duchess of this country did it and no ones out there calling her a golddigging whore.

Mainly because the Duchess of Cambridge was already a rich kid by the time she was at uni. She went to private schools all her life and her family were rich enough to afford Marlborough (which you need to have an income of around £250k to afford)

Jesus Christ I'm worried about finding a husband at all let alone a rich one

Yes, all very well and romantic that someone may not want to slog it out 18 hours a day and instead do more edifying, enjoyable things with their time. Point is.....DON'T WE ALL. Why should a man have to bank roll that for you? It's very very expensive and in most cases it's paid for by a ton of hard graft, risk, discomfort and other substitutes for the things you'd rather be doing. If you don't want to waste your life working, live a lifestyle that you can afford ie. very modest. Riches are excessive. All your examples describe a 'gold-digger'. And a very important point you have overlooked in asking why someone would 'work for the sake of working' is that to take a break from work, leaving a gap on your cv, will make it bloody hard to pick up work again if you need to or even want to in future. This is the problem that is often faced by many housewives that have to suddenly go back into the workforce. They now can only compete for the most menial of jobs. An outstanding education, as in your example, becomes redundant after a number of years. This woman is left with very limited options as a means of achieving anything that resembles her previous lifestyle and most of those options are men. The later down the line this happens the more likely her potential sources of income are to be divorced or generally unable to attract a wife. As for your warning us not to belittle the voluntary housewife, we are not and we are certainly not lumping her with the very questionable type of woman that OP aspires to. They are quite different.

She still went from middle class to upper class by marrying Prince William. She also pursued william for the title so how does that make her any better?

You wanna become a millionaire just like this? Well in that case you may want to a man that's a bit older, you know? Young men coming from rich families aren't completely independent from their parents, and more often than not, they're wary of girls trying to make a name for themselves like this

And btw, Kate's background wasn't that bad to begin with.

My main point is that she was rich and so was he. I hate to say it to you (and this is coming from someone who has dated rich kids. Take my advice or leave it), but rich kids like sticking to their own kind of class. They prefer dating other rich kids and if they don't, then the person is normally someone that gets them completely.

He doesn't have to be a posh toff tho. I would prefer new money over old money. If he leaves me, well at least I would have experienced what its like to live in his world (even if it was for a brief amount of time)..And you're right I can't afford a penthouse or a private jet but the possibility of marrying a man who does still exists.