Hate being British Pakistani female

Brit Pakistani have to be one of the Uncoolest people to be in the UK today. No one likes us. Nothing cool about us. Sexist controlling men(from my own experience) Nothing positive about us in the media. No famous female British Pakistani role models-no famous pak Brit females full stop. So many negative news stories e.g, grooming, gangs etc

We're crap at sports apart from cricket. Our food is good but it will always be called "Indian food".

All my relatives are married to their cousins. Therefore family want me to marry my cousin from a village in pak FML. Brb living under parent rules when young. Brb living under husbands and in laws rules when married off. Brb no freedom. Brb no self expression allowed esp if you're female. Brb compulsory to cook and clean for a girl.

On top of that coming from a Muslim background people are suspicious of us.

um... correct me if i'm wrong but isn't all this culture rather than religion?
aren't women allowed to DEMAND their own accommodations when they get married?
Aren't wives allowed to have rights of their own?
you girls need to try standing your ground, ok against parents it may be hard but try to argue with religious logic.

First things first - learn about your religion and your rights as a wife. here are a few facts that may baffle you:

1. a woman cannot be forced into marrying any guy, the decision has to be her choice in the end because a forced marriage doesn't count as a marriage in Islam
2. before marriage the woman is allowed to set her own demands. if she wants to continue working or studying after marriage or wants her own house or doesn't want to wear a hijab after marriage she is allowed to demand this. most guys say yes because if he refuses her demands then of course she can refuse the marriage
3. believe it or not the only duty of a daughter-in-law to her parents-in-law is that she has to respect them because they are older than her. she does not have to listen to them, look after them and certainly does not have to put up with any abuse from them
4. In fact if you study it properly, the only duty of a wife is to give her husband sex
she doesn't even have to do any housework is she doesn't want to
5. why oh why do all women forget this. you can walk out of a marriage as easily as you walked into one. if you're not getting your rights exercised or are getting any sort of abuse you can leave your husband. the sad thing is most women don't because of the 'taboo/shame' of being a divorced woman or think its the lesser of two evils to be marriage and miserable/controlled rather than single and alone. and this is the reason why a lot of men are able to treat their wives like doormats, because they know that their wives will let them get away with it

if you've got nothing to threaten them with, they've got nothing to be intimidated by

you don't need your parents to have your back. if you've got intelligence, knowledge and God on your side you can handle anything in life.

What you said is absolutely right, sometimes i can't think properly due to my illness--all optimism is blocked out lmao

You should form a Pakistani female rebel group and protest for your rights!

I will help you promote the group (even though I'm 100% British and privileged)

I will make posters for you saying that you should have rights.

I want to help you!


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Lol

Brit Pakistani have to be one of the Uncoolest people to be in the UK today. No one likes us. Nothing cool about us. Sexist controlling men(from my own experience) Nothing positive about us in the media. No famous female British Pakistani role models-no famous pak Brit females full stop. So many negative news stories e.g, grooming, gangs etc

We're crap at sports apart from cricket. Our food is good but it will always be called "Indian food".

All my relatives are married to their cousins. Therefore family want me to marry my cousin from a village in pak FML. Brb living under parent rules when young. Brb living under husbands and in laws rules when married off. Brb no freedom. Brb no self expression allowed esp if you're female. Brb compulsory to cook and clean for a girl.

On top of that coming from a Muslim background people are suspicious of us.

Why lol?
I want to help this Pakistani girl


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Our food is good but it will always be called "Indian food".

Change the title to "Hate being Mirpuri"...you know it's true, don't deny it. Mirpuris don't represent all Pakistani people. Sucks for you what you've had to deal with growing up but you don't speak for everyone and your experiences aren't shared by everyone either.

I swear Malala Yousafzai is one big one


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Lol na. She's all popular with white people and stuff but a big number of pakistanis see her as a western stooge.

Marry an English man, I would love to marry you just to show you how you deserve to be treated like a princess not a slave to cook and clean for me I can do my own cleaning. Women are not put on this earth to serve men. You need a good life and hopefully you’ll get it.