So I’ve been with my girlfriend since February and we’re quite serious. When we first started getting close she started to make it clear that she had quite different views to me; views that I personally wouldn’t think are very nice, let alone agree with. Now I think my first mistake came at that point because I shouldn’t have let it continue. I just would have felt guilty; almost like I lead her on, so I carried on and since then we have spent practically every day with each other, been on holiday together and we’ve just moved in the same flat. There are some times when the relationship is great and she’s clearly quite fond of me. There are times when I tell her that I love her, because at times I feel like I do, but always in the back of my mind there is the question of whether I actually like her, never mind love her.
She wants to meet my family but I think it don’t think they’ll like her. She can come across as really stuck up and unkind.
Anyway my actual question is do you think a couple can be compatible when their views are so different? Our morals, political views and even senses of humour are polar opposites and I just think it’s doomed. I can’t see myself with her in the future at all – not happily anyway. We’ve just moved into a shared flat together for the next year of uni but I don’t know if I can stand it for that long.
I just feel so guilty because I feel it’s my fault for not ending it sooner. Everything about our relationship is wrong, but should I just endure it until we canphysically move away?