Why do girls pretend that looks don't *really* matter?

You make the assumption that a girl who thinks looks don't matter would want to **** everything that moves.

No I did not though I can see why you'd think that.

I meant this: Guys are mostly open about looks being very important. There are some guys who don't think looks are important and, with them, you can actually observe that because they'll **** anything that moves.

Now, girls don't obviously do that, I didn't say they have to do that. But they clearly prefer hot guys no matter how boring or even mean they might be. Find me a hot guy regardless of his personality that hasn't had a tons of girls. Douchebag, stupid, dumb even criminal.

Yeah I'm a girl.

And looks do matter.

I like a boy with a sexy body and a handsome face.

I'm pretty open about this.

My female friends also say looks matter.

Only some girls pretend they don't matter.

Don't generalize all girls. Everyone is different.

First of all, teenage girls and young adult women who want sex are going to get it from somewhere, and if the hot guy is the one putting out (which in my experience he usually is, because of confidence or whatever) then of course he's going to get the girls. Also, seems like you're talking about one night stands here? Which yeah, are mostly between two hot people of whatever gender.

Most of the time when girls say looks don't matter they're saying it because a) if we say that looks do matter then we get crucified for being selfish shallow *****es so :shrug: and b) they're/we're talking about relationships, not one night stands or hookups. Of course physical attraction is important in a relationship, but personality and compatibility is just as important. Besides, different people find different things attractive. One of my friends thinks her boyfriend is the hottest guy ever, but I don't find him attractive at all.

Surely the extent to which someone's looks matter depends on what exactly you're planning to do with them?

What are we talking about here exactly? Is it just hooking up in a club and having no-strings-attached sex? Is it going on a few dates and having a good time? Is it being in a long term relationship? Is it getting married and growing old together? I would guess that, for both boys and girls, looks probably matter in decreasing order for the items on this list.

The impression I get from your post is that you're probably talking about just sex - in which case, of course looks matter; you're not really going to care what someone's innermost personalities are like if you're just with them for one night.*But consider that, when someone says that looks don't really matter or places less relative importance on looks, they might not be talking about just having sex.

This is not necessarily true. Most guys I know who're only interested in casual sex/ONS don't really care about looks.

Tbh, the opposite is true for obvious reasons. Guys who want long-term relationships do care about looks 'cos you'll have to be with her for a longer time.