Yet to kiss a girl, let alone lose my virginity at 20. Am I the only one?

So I recently turned 20 and it kinda crept up on me that I'm the only one out of my friends that is still a virgin and I don't know what to do.I'm 6'1 tall, average height for an Indian is 5'4 lol and I'm 70 kg, basically a scrawny Indian guy.

I've been complemented by girls for my height and have been called attractive and cute by numerous girls, but based on my personality I guess they mean in a child like way. I'm a really nice person,but I guess to girls that comes across as innocent and sweet not BF material since I'm a bit passive and shy on first impression.

I would go to a club to meet a girl, but I've had a past history of epilepsy and flashing lights and alcohol are no nos as they can be triggers.

I was addicted to porn for 2 years, I finally gave it up and replaced it with dating sites. I've tried meeting girls on sites such as Tinder,POF, OkCupid but I'm lucky enough to even get a response.

I really don't want touse an escort. Not the way I want to do things.

What do I do?

Reply 1

RooshV

1

Bro, you need me. I can and will help you.

Private message me

In fact, I will message you.

I am in a tender mood.

(edited 7 years ago)

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Similar situation.

I'm 17 (female) and I've never even kissed someone, let alone been called attractive or even pretty. Anyone I've liked seems has turned out to be gay.
I just really don't know what to do now.

Reply 3

Prince_fancybum

13

Stop respecting them and they'll want your dick. Also, more importantly than money or your car or body type is a puppy; puppies are the direct root to booty.

Reply 4

Anna.Karenina

20

Relax, it's not a race! You'll get there when you get there :smile:

I doubt you are

Don't worry your not Alone, im in the same situarion as you accept im 16, and my problem is im kinda shy aha.

Reply 7

Pinkberry_y

19

Gain some weight to bulk up, but the main thing I'm sensing here is lack of confidence. If you like a girl, act swiftly, get to know her, message her then ask her out. Preferably in real life as opposed to dating sites

Reply 8

Davalla

20

Original post by anonymousindian

So I recently turned 20 and it ouse an escort

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 17 (female)
I just really don't know what to do now.

Original post by Pedrex

im in the same situarion as you accept im 16

So we've gone from a 20 year old ashamed of being a virgin, to a 17 year old, to a 16 year old.

Any 12 year olds here ashamed of not losing their virginity too?

Reply 9

yunglife

11

Original post by anonymousindian

So I recently turned 20 and it kinda crept up on me that I'm the only one out of my friends that is still a virgin and I don't know what to do.I'm 6'1 tall, average height for an Indian is 5'4 lol and I'm 70 kg, basically a scrawny Indian guy.

I've been complemented by girls for my height and have been called attractive and cute by numerous girls, but based on my personality I guess they mean in a child like way. I'm a really nice person,but I guess to girls that comes across as innocent and sweet not BF material since I'm a bit passive and shy on first impression.

I would go to a club to meet a girl, but I've had a past history of epilepsy and flashing lights and alcohol are no nos as they can be triggers.

I was addicted to porn for 2 years, I finally gave it up and replaced it with dating sites. I've tried meeting girls on sites such as Tinder,POF, OkCupid but I'm lucky enough to even get a response.

I really don't want touse an escort. Not the way I want to do things.

What do I do?

Don't worry bro. I'm 23 and I have NEVER had a girlfriend yet alone kissed a girl!

I don't think there is anything wrong with this and to be fair, my substitute to this is going to a strip club and getting a lap dance for pleasure.

It is never too late I guess, but my only advise is this. If you still at uni, look for a girl there! Seriously, I made that mistake of not looking for a girl like a dumbass and now I really regret it

Reply 10

Pedrex

16

Original post by Davalla

So we've gone from a 20 year old ashamed of being a virgin, to a 17 year old, to a 16 year old.

Any 12 year olds here ashamed of not losing their virginity too?

No no im not ashamed of it, i was just making a statement that's all. Im 16 but i don't want to loose it yet, im too young in my opinion. Sorry if you read it a bit wrong, i didn't make myself clear :smile:

Reply 11

Trinculo

21

Original post by Anna.Karenina

Relax, it's not a race! You'll get there when you get there :smile:

This advice could only possibly have come from a woman.

Not being mean, but any other advice?

"Just be yourself"?

Reply 12

Anna.Karenina

20

Original post by Trinculo

This advice could only possibly have come from a woman.

Not being mean, but any other advice?

"Just be yourself"?

What's the rush though? Does he get a prize if he gets his first kiss by 21?

Reply 13

Trinculo

21

Original post by Anna.Karenina

What's the rush though? Does he get a prize if he gets his first kiss by 21?

There are a lot of male 40 year old virgins out there. There's a tipping point psychologically for a lot of dudes. There is a possibility it may never happen for him.

Reply 14

slade p

4

Firstly you're in your early years but you need to learn how to interact with girls so they become interested in you. There are some legit guys you can check out to improve your game, who have proven methods to attracting woman.

Reply 15

Withengar

18

From an objective point of view - it doesn't matter when it happens, it matters how it happens and with whom. Love and romance is essentially anything but a numbers game and it very much matters that both you and your partner are comfortable with everything and that the whole experience feels and is special. This will only happen when you find someone right for you - time is not of the essence here as much as you'd think.

From a subjective point of view - Buy some Whey protein powder and start drinking it daily, subscribe to a Gym membership or buy a set of cheap weights to use at home. Eat more protein as much as you can - eggs, rice, chicken, cottage cheese, to name a few. Add a few mass-gaining foods such as beef and oatmeal and you have a way towards a more muscular physique which will not only give you more confidence, but also more attention from others. If you're not doing it already, start dressing in a casual, but smart way - shirt with a sweater on top, some nice jeans as well as maybe a blazer from time to time if you're going out. Start making friends with girls no matter if you're interested or not - actually engage with them, treat them like actual people, nice and friendly, but not desperately so. When you meet someone you like, give them a compliment from time to time, take time to actually listen to what they have to say, casually engage in some physical contact and make it known you're there for there for them, but actually have other things to do and other people to meet. Act like yourself, like you otherwise would, just in a more calm, relaxed and engaged manner.

Good luck.

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

Original post by anonymousindian

So I recently turned 20 and it kinda crept up on me that I'm the only one out of my friends that is still a virgin and I don't know what to do.I'm 6'1 tall, average height for an Indian is 5'4 lol and I'm 70 kg, basically a scrawny Indian guy.

I've been complemented by girls for my height and have been called attractive and cute by numerous girls, but based on my personality I guess they mean in a child like way. I'm a really nice person,but I guess to girls that comes across as innocent and sweet not BF material since I'm a bit passive and shy on first impression.

I would go to a club to meet a girl, but I've had a past history of epilepsy and flashing lights and alcohol are no nos as they can be triggers.

I was addicted to porn for 2 years, I finally gave it up and replaced it with dating sites. I've tried meeting girls on sites such as Tinder,POF, OkCupid but I'm lucky enough to even get a response.

I really don't want touse an escort. Not the way I want to do things.

What do I do?

I'm 5ft 4, and sri lankan, I was 20 like you, and had never kissed a girl. I lost my virginity/got my first kiss in the same night, I wouldn't say it came out of nowhere, I just clicked really well with this one girl I met at freshers and a couple weeks later, bam.It just happens, don't worry about it you lil scamp. Just be you, be chill and jokey and friendly and have all yo lil' quirks and it'll just happen :smile:

I'm 24 in a month.

Original post by Anonymous

Similar situation.

I'm 17 (female) and I've never even kissed someone, let alone been called attractive or even pretty. Anyone I've liked seems has turned out to be gay.
I just really don't know what to do now.

lol are you an Indian? I am sure Indians are very attractive to a lot of guys?? Maybe you are looking in the wrong place blurghh ^_^