Flatmates parents are staying over a week! Is this allowed?
One of my flat mates is coming from abroad and she said her parents are going to stay in her room for a week. Is this even allowed? None of us feel comfortable about this and we don't understand why they need to stay a week and why they can't just get a hotel.
Is there anything we can do about this?
Is there anything we can do about this?
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Original post by daniellee0
One of my flat mates is coming from abroad and she said her parents are going to stay in her room for a week. Is this even allowed? None of us feel comfortable about this and we don't understand why they need to stay a week and why they can't just get a hotel.
Is there anything we can do about this?
Is there anything we can do about this?
Most unis only allow 2/3 days, you should really ask your uni though, posting in this forum won't help you because different unis have different rules.
They probably aren't allowed - I mean normally I'd say let it go cause I'd hate to live with someone who would grass if you have people over to stay... but yeah, parents, for a week, that seems a bit much. Where will they even sleep?! Maybe rather than go to the uni just talk to your flatmate and ask if there's no way they could stay somewhere else?
Original post by daniellee0
One of my flat mates is coming from abroad and she said her parents are going to stay in her room for a week. Is this even allowed? None of us feel comfortable about this and we don't understand why they need to stay a week and why they can't just get a hotel.
Is there anything we can do about this?
Is there anything we can do about this?
If none of you are comfortBle with it, you should tell her and say that you don't feel comfortable with it. She can't be selfish and just do as she wishes without thinking about how her flat mates Might feel.
Why does it make you uncomfortable? They probably just want to save money on hotels, it's only a week.
You're an adult now, no need to be so pissy about uncool parents being near you.
You're an adult now, no need to be so pissy about uncool parents being near you.
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by josh_v
What exactly do you feel uncomfortable about?
Well first of all they will be living there and using our facilities for a week FREE when we all are paying rent. Is during freshers week so I don't wanna come home drunk and have them sat there. But also the girl may not socialise / Interact with us if her parents are there. We don't feel comfortable them being there and especially when we are out I mean they could go through our stuff or anything
Original post by daniellee0
Well first of all they will be living there and using our facilities for a week FREE when we all are paying rent. Is during freshers week so I don't wanna come home drunk and have them sat there. But also the girl may not socialise / Interact with us if her parents are there. We don't feel comfortable them being there and especially when we are out I mean they could go through our stuff or anything
ffs why do some people complain about everything.
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Hotels cost a fair amount of money.
I think, for you, the thought of it is scarier than what it'll be like in reality, unless they genuinely never leave the house, sit in public areas, spend hours in the shower etc. How much of a difference that will make to bills, etc, I do not know but it's not something I would bring up unless they do anything stupid that consumes a massive amount of resources eg showering for 10 hours a day. With any luck they'll be out going to dinner, seeing the city etc.
I think, for you, the thought of it is scarier than what it'll be like in reality, unless they genuinely never leave the house, sit in public areas, spend hours in the shower etc. How much of a difference that will make to bills, etc, I do not know but it's not something I would bring up unless they do anything stupid that consumes a massive amount of resources eg showering for 10 hours a day. With any luck they'll be out going to dinner, seeing the city etc.
The whole point of moving away is to be away from parents, I could understand them staying over 1 or 2 nights as they have travelled but s week is just not necessary at all
wow stingy parents
why would they want to live in a flat full of students?
why would they want to live in a flat full of students?
Original post by SeanFM
Hotels cost a fair amount of money.
I think, for you, the thought of it is scarier than what it'll be like in reality, unless they genuinely never leave the house, sit in public areas, spend hours in the shower etc. How much of a difference that will make to bills, etc, I do not know but it's not something I would bring up unless they do anything stupid that consumes a massive amount of resources eg showering for 10 hours a day. With any luck they'll be out going to dinner, seeing the city etc.
I think, for you, the thought of it is scarier than what it'll be like in reality, unless they genuinely never leave the house, sit in public areas, spend hours in the shower etc. How much of a difference that will make to bills, etc, I do not know but it's not something I would bring up unless they do anything stupid that consumes a massive amount of resources eg showering for 10 hours a day. With any luck they'll be out going to dinner, seeing the city etc.
But surely they should have thought about this before coming? I live in Middlesbrough hotel prices aren't exactly expensive haha. We jusy think it's gunna be awkward with them being there like what if we wanna have a flat party etc? Can't see her parents being happy about it
Original post by daniellee0
But surely they should have thought about this before coming? I live in Middlesbrough hotel prices aren't exactly expensive haha. We jusy think it's gunna be awkward with them being there like what if we wanna have a flat party etc? Can't see her parents being happy about it
Maybe they knew and just planned it anyway, but anyway, that part in particular doesn't matter.
Having reread your OP it looks like the flatmate themselves didn't actually consult you and that is actually a crappy move. I appreciate that it's a really difficult situation where you can't really win, but I'd say after the parents leave communicate that in the future it's not okay to bring people around for a. such a long period of time and b. without being consulted.
Not that I'm not siding with you, but again it's difficult to 'win' or not cause a rift between yourselves and the flatmate in question. If you want a party.. has to be at someone else's flat, I guess.
Original post by daniellee0
Well first of all they will be living there and using our facilities for a week FREE when we all are paying rent. Is during freshers week so I don't wanna come home drunk and have them sat there. But also the girl may not socialise / Interact with us if her parents are there. We don't feel comfortable them being there and especially when we are out I mean they could go through our stuff or anything
Lol, you will get a heart attack when one of your flatmates gets a boyfriend/girlfriend.
I agree that this is not a comfortable situation but maybe going back earlier is not an option. My flatmate from India also had her parents for over a week. You can go home anytime, your flatmate won't see their parents for a very very long time.
Also, they probably are aware of freshers week and won't be making you any trouble.
Original post by Tiger Rag
What does it say in your contract?
(4.14) Guests are deemed a privilege and are only permitted at the sole discretion of the Landlord's Agent and their representatives. Any guests deemed to be under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol will be refused entrance to the property.
Original post by daniellee0
(4.14) Guests are deemed a privilege and are only permitted at the sole discretion of the Landlord's Agent and their representatives. Any guests deemed to be under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol will be refused entrance to the property.
Best thing you could do would be to let the relevant authority know that 2 adult will be staying in the flat whilst paying nothing.
I really sympathise with you OP. I would privately message the person, and speak to them about your concerns.
Most uni halls wouldn't allow this.
The flats will have card access or similar and the guests will either have to stick like glue to their family member or expect others to give them entry.
You have a right to private enjoyment of your rented space, within reasonable limits, and this isn't fair
If they are from abroad, the flights will have cost far more than 5-7 nights b&b
Most freshers weeks are now "welcome week" and what will the parents be doing? The freshers will be expected to attend various departmental events and guests won't be expected or permitted
What uni?
The flats will have card access or similar and the guests will either have to stick like glue to their family member or expect others to give them entry.
You have a right to private enjoyment of your rented space, within reasonable limits, and this isn't fair
If they are from abroad, the flights will have cost far more than 5-7 nights b&b
Most freshers weeks are now "welcome week" and what will the parents be doing? The freshers will be expected to attend various departmental events and guests won't be expected or permitted
What uni?
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by Nottie
Lol, you will get a heart attack when one of your flatmates gets a boyfriend/girlfriend.
I agree that this is not a comfortable situation but maybe going back earlier is not an option. My flatmate from India also had her parents for over a week. You can go home anytime, your flatmate won't see their parents for a very very long time.
Also, they probably are aware of freshers week and won't be making you any trouble.
I agree that this is not a comfortable situation but maybe going back earlier is not an option. My flatmate from India also had her parents for over a week. You can go home anytime, your flatmate won't see their parents for a very very long time.
Also, they probably are aware of freshers week and won't be making you any trouble.
Also I asked for an all female flat which is what it is and her dad will be the only male there so it will be very awkward
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