Flatmates parents are staying over a week! Is this allowed?
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Original post by watchingyouwatch
1. Since you emailed he will know it is your flat
2. How can he check if he has been given the information if you didn't tell him who you were talking about ?
3. The problem with "grassing her up " is you have created tension in the flat before you have even moved in
4. You still haven't told us if thee are ensuite rooms or how long you gave her to explain her situation . Hours, days? weeks ?
Can you not see that it isn't going to be very nice to share a flat with someone who is going to feel that the rest of the flat have ganged up on her before sheen got there. Whether or not it is good idea for her parents to stay in the flat or not- (and I actually sympathise with you that it is not great) kicking off about it and causing her problems is going to cause tension and less than a great atmosphere in your flat.
2. How can he check if he has been given the information if you didn't tell him who you were talking about ?
3. The problem with "grassing her up " is you have created tension in the flat before you have even moved in
4. You still haven't told us if thee are ensuite rooms or how long you gave her to explain her situation . Hours, days? weeks ?
Can you not see that it isn't going to be very nice to share a flat with someone who is going to feel that the rest of the flat have ganged up on her before sheen got there. Whether or not it is good idea for her parents to stay in the flat or not- (and I actually sympathise with you that it is not great) kicking off about it and causing her problems is going to cause tension and less than a great atmosphere in your flat.
1. No **** I know that, he still doesn't know who though
2. Wasn't asking him to check, we asked to see if he knew if someones parents were staying, if she had told him (like shes supposed to) then he wwould know
3. She doesn't know we 'grassed her up' maybe if she considered asking us all first instead of just dropping it on us a week before we have to move in then we could have talked about it first.
4. I said a few posts ago it is shared facilities
Can you not see that she is being a bit inconsiderate and didn't even bother to ask us if we were okay with it. We have even offered to pick them up from the airport at midnight as they had no other way to get here.
Original post by daniellee0
We have even offered to pick them up from the airport at midnight as they had no other way to get here.
We have even offered to pick them up from the airport at midnight as they had no other way to get here.
Where are they from?
Original post by daniellee0
1. No **** I know that, he still doesn't know who though
2. Wasn't asking him to check, we asked to see if he knew if someones parents were staying, if she had told him (like shes supposed to) then he wwould know
3. She doesn't know we 'grassed her up' maybe if she considered asking us all first instead of just dropping it on us a week before we have to move in then we could have talked about it first.
4. I said a few posts ago it is shared facilities
Can you not see that she is being a bit inconsiderate and didn't even bother to ask us if we were okay with it. We have even offered to pick them up from the airport at midnight as they had no other way to get here.
2. Wasn't asking him to check, we asked to see if he knew if someones parents were staying, if she had told him (like shes supposed to) then he wwould know
3. She doesn't know we 'grassed her up' maybe if she considered asking us all first instead of just dropping it on us a week before we have to move in then we could have talked about it first.
4. I said a few posts ago it is shared facilities
Can you not see that she is being a bit inconsiderate and didn't even bother to ask us if we were okay with it. We have even offered to pick them up from the airport at midnight as they had no other way to get here.
I'm with you OP, good luck with the situation and hope it gets resolved. If her parents can afford to send her to university in another country and purchase an extra two flight tickets there and back, they can pay for a hotel or BNB room. This isn't acceptable.
Original post by Ishax
I'm with you OP, good luck with the situation and hope it gets resolved. If her parents can afford to send her to university in another country and purchase an extra two flight tickets there and back, they can pay for a hotel or BNB room. This isn't acceptable.
That is exactly right! And if they wish to spend quality time with their daughter it should be done outside of the flat, like at their hotel room. I'm surprised they don't think they are intruding upon others by proposing this. If the daughter doesn't have enough of a backbone to tell her parents to not stay there then the tenants should simply make a Rule saying that "Sorry, we have an agreement between us. We have a rule that parents cannot stay more than one night here." That way it is not personal and nobody will be upset.
Original post by Tamashii
That is exactly right! And if they wish to spend quality time with their daughter it should be done outside of the flat, like at their hotel room. I'm surprised they don't think they are intruding upon others by proposing this. If the daughter doesn't have enough of a backbone to tell her parents to not stay there then the tenants should simply make a Rule saying that "Sorry, we have an agreement between us. We have a rule that parents cannot stay more than one night here." That way it is not personal and nobody will be upset.
Hmm.
Joins the forum just to back the OP up and uses capital letters in the wrong places the same as the OP.
2/10. Try harder.
Original post by Vereor
It's a bad thing because living with other people requires some adulting, there will be compromise and you should get used to dealing with your problems like a grown up.
Without an actual conversation with her you have just decided that you (and your other flatmates if they did it with you) are more important than this other tenant. Your points so far make you sound incredibly spoilt, there's not actually any substance to your argument. If you lived in a house share, had an arrangement to split bills equally, a cleaning rota and all chipped in for food then maybe you would have a point about the financial impact as extra adults = extra consumption. As it happens you don't so it's of no consequence to you.
As for 'breaching the tenancy agreement' you will probably find that it also says things like 'don't play music after 10pm' or 'don't pin posters to the walls as it causes damage'. When you fall back to the contract you've normally lost the argument.The point is that you have CHOSEN to take issue with this trivial thing and have a serious case of princess syndrome; what's a week in the scheme of things?
There's another 51 in the year you can get blind drunk and sleep naked in the hallway if you want.
For 7 days you'll just have to get drunk and wear a dressing gown if you don't want to wear clothes.
Boo hoo, I mean seriously wtf.
Without an actual conversation with her you have just decided that you (and your other flatmates if they did it with you) are more important than this other tenant. Your points so far make you sound incredibly spoilt, there's not actually any substance to your argument. If you lived in a house share, had an arrangement to split bills equally, a cleaning rota and all chipped in for food then maybe you would have a point about the financial impact as extra adults = extra consumption. As it happens you don't so it's of no consequence to you.
As for 'breaching the tenancy agreement' you will probably find that it also says things like 'don't play music after 10pm' or 'don't pin posters to the walls as it causes damage'. When you fall back to the contract you've normally lost the argument.The point is that you have CHOSEN to take issue with this trivial thing and have a serious case of princess syndrome; what's a week in the scheme of things?
There's another 51 in the year you can get blind drunk and sleep naked in the hallway if you want.
For 7 days you'll just have to get drunk and wear a dressing gown if you don't want to wear clothes.
Boo hoo, I mean seriously wtf.
There is a bigger picture here that you do not see. If the parents get to stay there for a week without any agreement from the other people then the same will apply to the others. In other words, the flat will be open to anyone who is invited, without notification to the others, to anyone who receives an invite from one of the tenants. This opens up issues of privacy, safety, and security for the future. People have valuables in their rooms, there are concerns of cleaning the public areas, concerns of the cost of supplies, etc.
Original post by Vereor
It's a bad thing because living with other people requires some adulting, there will be compromise and you should get used to dealing with your problems like a grown up.
Without an actual conversation with her you have just decided that you (and your other flatmates if they did it with you) are more important than this other tenant. Your points so far make you sound incredibly spoilt, there's not actually any substance to your argument. If you lived in a house share, had an arrangement to split bills equally, a cleaning rota and all chipped in for food then maybe you would have a point about the financial impact as extra adults = extra consumption. As it happens you don't so it's of no consequence to you.
As for 'breaching the tenancy agreement' you will probably find that it also says things like 'don't play music after 10pm' or 'don't pin posters to the walls as it causes damage'. When you fall back to the contract you've normally lost the argument.The point is that you have CHOSEN to take issue with this trivial thing and have a serious case of princess syndrome; what's a week in the scheme of things?
There's another 51 in the year you can get blind drunk and sleep naked in the hallway if you want.
For 7 days you'll just have to get drunk and wear a dressing gown if you don't want to wear clothes.
Boo hoo, I mean seriously wtf.
Without an actual conversation with her you have just decided that you (and your other flatmates if they did it with you) are more important than this other tenant. Your points so far make you sound incredibly spoilt, there's not actually any substance to your argument. If you lived in a house share, had an arrangement to split bills equally, a cleaning rota and all chipped in for food then maybe you would have a point about the financial impact as extra adults = extra consumption. As it happens you don't so it's of no consequence to you.
As for 'breaching the tenancy agreement' you will probably find that it also says things like 'don't play music after 10pm' or 'don't pin posters to the walls as it causes damage'. When you fall back to the contract you've normally lost the argument.The point is that you have CHOSEN to take issue with this trivial thing and have a serious case of princess syndrome; what's a week in the scheme of things?
There's another 51 in the year you can get blind drunk and sleep naked in the hallway if you want.
For 7 days you'll just have to get drunk and wear a dressing gown if you don't want to wear clothes.
Boo hoo, I mean seriously wtf.
I think that you are the one being childish.
Original post by Tamashii
1 People have valuables in their rooms,
2 there are concerns of cleaning the public areas
3 concerns of the cost of supplies, etc.
1 People have valuables in their rooms,
2 there are concerns of cleaning the public areas
3 concerns of the cost of supplies, etc.
1 She is moving in with people she doesn't know. I would argue if someone is willing to introduce you to their parents, they are less likely to steal your stuff.
2 It's likely parents will be cleaner than a group of 18 year olds that are (as the OP suggested) on the piss for the week
3 Now you're reaching, what supplies are we talking about? An extra squirt of bleach, a bit of anti-bac spray?
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by watchingyouwatch
If you are paying £100 fro shared facilities in Middlesborough then I think you are getting a very bad deal .
If you are paying £100 fro shared facilities in Middlesborough then I think you are getting a very bad deal .
None of the halls are £100 per week without ensuite.
So it's either £58-85 per week with a shared bathroom... and was rounded up to make a dramatic point about how unfair this travesty is.. *rollseyes*
Or if it is £100 per week then it's got an ensuite and this is a mountain out of a molehill.
It could be a private flat, but who does that in first year?
(edited 7 years ago)
Original post by Vereor
None of the halls are £100 per week without ensuite.
So it's either £58-85 per week with a shared bathroom... and was rounded up to make a dramatic point about how unfair this travesty is.. *rollseyes*
Or if it is £100 per week then it's got an ensuite and this is a mountain out of a molehill.
It could be a private flat, but who does that in first year?
So it's either £58-85 per week with a shared bathroom... and was rounded up to make a dramatic point about how unfair this travesty is.. *rollseyes*
Or if it is £100 per week then it's got an ensuite and this is a mountain out of a molehill.
It could be a private flat, but who does that in first year?
Ok I was bored
A quick look at the OP's posting history and they say they are staying in accommodation which a quick google tells me is all ensuite !
The reason i asked in the first place is the bathroom would be the least acceptable part of them staying . But if the rooms are ensuite it is going to be far less of a problem....
Also they say the girl has not responded to their concerns and then say they are picking her up from the airport.......
Original post by Vereor
I had one once that shaved his pubes in the bathroom... and just left them on the bathroom floor because he couldn't be bothered clearing them up.
Ugh.
Ugh.
Never heard of guys doing that.
Original post by Juichiro
Never heard of guys doing that.
He was a complete weirdo. He also no nails'd (as in the impossible to remove glue) about a hundred little mirror tiles to his bedroom ceiling so that his girlfriend could watch or something. We had some issues with the landlord and getting our deposit back after he moved out.
Original post by watchingyouwatch
A quick look at the OP's posting history and they say they are staying in accommodation which a quick google tells me is all ensuite !
A quick look at the OP's posting history and they say they are staying in accommodation which a quick google tells me is all ensuite !
That doesn't surprise me. Like I said earlier, the OP has displayed some real princess syndrome symptoms.
So that facts are actually as follows...
OP is moving into an ensuite room, has no reason to use a shared bathroom at all and has reported her flatmate (directly or indirectly) to the landlord thus ****ing her flatmates parents over for no real reason.
All the problems she had with the parents staying have been melodramatically explained to try and sway the internet in her favour.
In reality it's just because she's a bit narcissistic and her parents probably didn't say no enough.
Original post by Vereor
He was a complete weirdo. He also no nails'd (as in the impossible to remove glue) about a hundred little mirror tiles to his bedroom ceiling so that his girlfriend could watch or something. We had some issues with the landlord and getting our deposit back after he moved out.
OddOriginal post by Tamashii
That is exactly right! And if they wish to spend quality time with their daughter it should be done outside of the flat, like at their hotel room. I'm surprised they don't think they are intruding upon others by proposing this. If the daughter doesn't have enough of a backbone to tell her parents to not stay there then the tenants should simply make a Rule saying that "Sorry, we have an agreement between us. We have a rule that parents cannot stay more than one night here." That way it is not personal and nobody will be upset.
I agree, the least they could have done is asked before making plans. It's just plain rude. If hotel is too expensive, there's always a BNB.
Almost 100% sure those who are telling OP to get over it are currently at uni/have finished uni, so have experience of house sharing, whilst those who are disgusted haven't as anyone who has shared with others will know that you just have to get over this kind of **** or things will get worse.
OP has well and truly thrown her toys out of her pram, along with the rest of her flatmates, and I sincerely hope the girl who has been snitched on doesn't decide to act in retaliation or it'll be a miserable year.
OP has well and truly thrown her toys out of her pram, along with the rest of her flatmates, and I sincerely hope the girl who has been snitched on doesn't decide to act in retaliation or it'll be a miserable year.
Original post by daniellee0
Well first of all they will be living there and using our facilities for a week FREE when we all are paying rent. Is during freshers week so I don't wanna come home drunk and have them sat there. But also the girl may not socialise / Interact with us if her parents are there. We don't feel comfortable them being there and especially when we are out I mean they could go through our stuff or anything
I'm sorry but I would hate to be flatmates with you
Original post by Conzy210
Almost 100% sure those who are telling OP to get over it are currently at uni/have finished uni, so have experience of house sharing
Yup.
I lived in house/flat shares for 5 years, some successfully some not so much.
Sometimes because other people were dicks, sometimes because I was.
It all worked out in the end, I married one of the girls I used to share with and I'm best man at another former housemates wedding next month
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