I was happy when I knew I got a boyfriend, a person who will care and love me as I want to do the same for him.
My boyfriend is my sister's brother-in-law.
Once, during my sister's wedding my boyfriend and I expressed our love to each other and so things were going good.
After everyone had left the wedding, his family sat down to eat with him.
I saw them through a mirror on the pillars reflecting them behind me.
I could understand his mother asking him whether he loved someone.
At first he felt shy but then agreed that he did have a gf.
As days went when my family visited his family, his mother asked me my educational qualifications and work experience. At that moment I was 18 and changed two jobs since I hated auditing (traveling alone to distant places) and then the accounts manager job in the sales department. I did not feel secure but now I'm in a job i feel is fun and secure. I had told her that.
Once his mother and my bf visited our house after asking my sisters their educational qualifications and work experience she asked me. My sisters stayed in the same job for nearly 3 years whereas I had changed the job as a single individual due to insecure and uncomfortable feelings as a girl. His mom worried me by saying sarcastically, "What are you studying? Will you be changing this job also?" When she asked this my bf was sitting in front of us. That time I had done only the diploma in airline and management accounting, acca where my bf has completed a degree in medicine. I see the fact the mother is pointing and that is why I am studying my degree now and now stayed in the same place for 1 year and a month. I will continue to stay in the same job. I felt worried thinking that my bf will leave me with his mom once i was unable to say i just did a diploma where he has done a degree.
His mother never lets us to see and communicate with each other. He finds it difficult and tries his best to get through her to see me.
Once we visited their house. My sister went upstairs to call her husband down. At that time I heard my bf calling his mom. When i heard it's him i got up to go and see him as i was worried and didn't see him for a long time.(I actually wanted to jump or hug him tightly as i knew he felt the same) His mother said it's not him as i got up. i knew she was lying as i heard the voice of my worried question faced bf looking at his mother. She even didn't let him visit me for my nephew's birthday. He had asked her hard but she purposely said she damaged her toe (which is already damaged) and took her family to the hospital. Their house was very close by.
I'm doing a degree and staying in the same workplace. My mother tells me to marry my blood cousin and I said no to it. My eldest sister (not my sister at my bf family) also tells me to marry the cousin. I totally detest this and feel frustrated. I want to marry my bf and he does,too. Please support me to get through this.