23 never had a girlfriend

I'm 23, I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin. Is this a turn off for girls? Also will I ever get a girlfriend this old? I'm so depressed about it that guys my age can easily get one.

For guys getting girls its mostly about social skills.

For girls getting guys its mostly about looks.

So personally I feel life is a lot easier on girls than guys. Looks can be improved through make up & fashion for most girls to a point and most off them will know this. They get a few sexy outfits bit of hair and makeup job. Some it will only take them so far as an ugly girl it can do only so much for. Same for fat girls, make up & fashion will only do so much for them - often not a lot since they destroy any affect fashionable clothes would have on them by it all bulging out.

So considering roughly 50 percent of girls in this country are now obese, would you go for an obese girl? Most guys won't, so competition is now fiercer than it has ever been for even marginally attractive girls, which attractive girls know. Attractive girls will line up a load of guys and take their pick off just one of them, its that competitive. So don't beat yourself up over it, us guys are all in the same unfortunate boat on this one.

Social skills are to be honest extremely hard to improve, if its even at all possible, otherwise you would have done so, right? You will just have to look for any aid and assistance in doing this. Look for a wingman if you can someone who is better at social skills & try that. Other options are available but to be honest you'll need to try & improve social skills & with that confidence as girls have a big beef over it. Its a pain, god knows why they make it such an issue but they do.

I'm 23, I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin. Is this a turn off for girls? Also will I ever get a girlfriend this old? I'm so depressed about it that guys my age can easily get one.

So considering roughly 50 percent of girls in this country are now obese

Citation needed.

I can vouch for this claim by assuming it's his visual and anecdotal estimation.

I would also like to point out the honourable gentleman used the word 'roughly' to - quite humbly - demonstrate a his lack of conclusive quantitative evidence.

I'm 23, I've never had a girlfriend and I'm still a virgin. Is this a turn off for girls? Also will I ever get a girlfriend this old? I'm so depressed about it that guys my age can easily get one.

Citation needed.

>OP hopefully the kind of girl you'd be interested in won't mind if you're a virgin. If a girl really minds then let her go. As a girl it wouldn't be an issue for me if I like the guy and had fun with him and there was a spark between us. Besides you'll just tell the girl you were waiting for that special girl.... you didn't want to be w/ just anyone! I agree confidence goes a long way, seriously. I also think getting actively involved in activities that you enjoy that can take your mind off wanting a girlfriend is helpful. Hopefully you'll find a girl interested in the same activity and you can strike up conversations about activity that can eventually lead to asking her out......etc.

But, in light of the other conversation about girls and obesity I would like to 'weigh in'. I hope you aren't that guy looking for a super model. If a girl is average or even a few pounds above doesn't make her obese! Believe me, I know guys who won't date anyone who isn't physically perfect! Ha! They may not always be dating but they are happy to sit around and judge what others should look like, in their opinion. I hope, as a 23 year virgin, you get that the relationship is with the person and not the size of her thigh!!! People are, rightfully, advising you to be yourself and I hope you allow your future girl to be herself and allowing her not to have to be physically perfect to still be perfect. As I said, I know (we all do) those guys who sit and judge the girl based on her looks and claim her worthy or unworthy. I also know the girls who throw up, starve, compulsively exercise and refuse to eat any food without thoroughly analyzing it. That is not a pretty picture and believe me you don't want to take that on in a relationship. There are many reasons that potentially cause a young woman to take those drastic measures and develop a poor relationship with food and self esteem but certainly one cause is the claim that normal sizes are obese!! Please don't listen to the above poster who is obviously a judgemental **** in saying 50% are obese. The quality of girl you want does not want to be evaluated solely on her size of her clothing...... just as you don't want to be judged on your virginal status. Both should be a non-issue in the dating world.

Yes, so your original statement was completely wrong. You said that 50% of women are obese, whereas even in the worst-affected age group, 50% are obese or overweight.

No it was not wrong, there is an age group, most probably around OP age group where 50 percent are obese. This was 2013 figures so odds are obesity in both age groups has probably risen still further since then. This isn't a scientific discussion here but an informal one, so its ridiculous to take it so seriously. In any case even 36 percent age group is not that far from 50 percent, its more than a third of women in that age group. Point being in any case that its a big issue men have facing them these days, a lack of reasonable sized women for those that want them, which is most of us.

Women that are fat are particularly off putting to guys, most guys find this a turn off. I did a poll on here a couple of years or so back and 85-90 of male respondents found it a turn off. The fat on a women itself looks horrible, its real weird looking like a thick layer of flab that makes a woman look so peculiar. A true fat woman tends to be a fat woman through & through, its a different mindset and way of life and changing them is nigh on impossible. They just want to stay that fat size through over excess. I'm not trying to be horrible here, its just the way it is, its how men feel about fat women.

OP, don't follow the advice of the women here that have gone against my advice. Lounging around in the status quo never helped anyone. How is doing the same you've been doing working out for you so far? Doing the same you have been doing will yield the same results right?

Instead ask yourself, what sort of guys are the popular/successful with girls? The answer is invariably the real social guys, the out going, extrovert types - above all the good talkers.

That most likely isn't you, you wouldn't be on here if it was, it isn't me either, I wouldn't be on here either. Its highly unlikely you or I could ever be like them, but we must recognise the truth as it is, as we see it before our very eyes rather than delude ourselves. Social Skills are a big magnet for girls, far more than looks if a guy has both he will get laid a plenty, but a good looking guy who is socially unskilled will miss out time & again.

That 36% figure also referred to the overweight and obese category and there are going to be more overweight than obese people so the proportion of obese women will be nowhere near 50%. And if you look at trends versus time, it has slowed recently so it's absolutely ridiculous to claim that it's realistic to claim that 50% of women in an age group are obese. With all due respect, do you actually know the definition for obese? It's pretty serious, I'm not entirely sure what community you interact with where you genuinely believe that half of women are obese.