Does this make me insecure about myself?

Try talking with her. Just have a casual chat, it won't necessarily come off as too clingy, just say how you feel and open up a little. It's pointless to worry about it by not talking. It's okay to have doubts.

I have brought it up before and she's super understanding and says I can check anything anytime, but I just feel like a terrible person even bringing it up, let alone asking to check things.

(Loving your picture btw)

Yeah, that's rough. I've felt that kind of feeling before. Just try and focus on making her happy. If you see her smiling at you and things, you'll see that there's no one else she'd wanna date. If it gets worse, try communicating a bit more - nothing to be ashamed of with that. Maybe try and arrange more dates too, so you don't feel like she's spending way more time with other people and feeling left out. Though it is okay for her to hang out with other friends.

(Thanks :3 )

Your 'relationship' is doomed. Based upon everything you've said, it can only fail.

It won't be long until then

Honestly this shows just how immature some people can be in a relationship. You have shown exactly how you are unwilling to work through the most basic of problems.

I expect you have not fully had any happiness in a relationship and I wish you all the luck in the future - you clearly need it.

OP - Don't listen to the people like this, they are just out to feel better about themselves. I can see exactly how much you both care for each other and everyone has thoughts like this sometimes, don't worry about it, just continue being the loving, supportive gentleman you are.

Why dont you sit down and talk to her, let her know how you are feeling. Sometimes people can feel a little insecure and that is okay.

Heeeeeeeeeey,

*begin intro*
I'm in a happy relationship. Though randomly got the feeling one day that my SO was hanging out with someone else. I don't know why but I guess the seed had been planted and now it won't go. I genuinely don't think my SO would ever do anything like this, and she makes me the happiest I've ever been but I don't know where it's come from.

Does this just sound like I'm insecure?

How does one overlook these distracting and ugly thoughts?

Heeeeeeeeeey,

*begin intro*
I'm in a happy relationship. Though randomly got the feeling one day that my SO was hanging out with someone else. I don't know why but I guess the seed had been planted and now it won't go. I genuinely don't think my SO would ever do anything like this, and she makes me the happiest I've ever been but I don't know where it's come from.

Does this just sound like I'm insecure?


How does one overlook these distracting and ugly thoughts?

What a load of nonsense. The proof is in the pudding. OP's beta behaviour has lead him to turn to TSR for relationship advice. You seem incredibly TRIGGERED.
Haha, if you think his girl isn't up to any shenanigans. You're wrong.

- WHEN THERE IS DOUBT..THERE IS NO DOUBT -

It's not her merely 'hanging out' with another guy. It's the surrounding factors like her CONSTANTLY doing it, probably at odd hours in combination with a lack of attention/affection for her bf. She probably talks about this guy a lot too.

You are an evil person. You are encouraging his beta behaviour. He has a problem and you're encouraging him not to change. You lack experience and have been terribly selfish in what you have written.

You youself know what you have writen is dubious in content. Hence, you have decided to cover youself in a nice warm coat of anonomity.

Disgusting behaviour

WRONG WRONG WRONG.

Let her know how you're feeling and that's the beginning of the end. She will see you as a weak beta. You are meant to be her stoic rock. She is meant to turn to you for emotional support. You turn to her and you're screwed.

Imagine going to her and saying 'Baby i'm feeling a little paranoid and insecure' in any variation of that sentence. You will simultaneously make her want to be sick and more importantly break her heart because instantly she'll realise she has to go through the slow painful process of breaking up with you. And because she realises you're not the 'man' she naturally desires. Of course, these thoughts are most likely to be subconscious depending on how experienced she is . The girl I quote says 'sit down and talk'..thats what happens in love books, movies and buzzfeed articles. It's not realistic and only works if you wish to kill the relationship.
If you have a problem, you mention it once. If there is no change then you completely remove your attention. She will come back begging for it because you have raised your value. It will also allow your partner to independently evaluate their actions. Emotion will take over and she'll realise why she is with you in the first place.

She needs an alpha in her life.

The more you communicate with her the worse you will make this. Keep it to yourself or talk to your other friends..or us if you have any concerns. We ( people like me and not those above ) will guide you on your actions.

You can choose to listen to others above. But it will be a mistake.

'If you want to learn how to catch fish, you ask a fisherman not the fish. - Interpret that at your will.

Or you know, you could stop assuming that a woman is incapable of being strong on her own.

I'll think you'll find OP has used TSR in this situation as an outlet and as a device to support him and offer advice on how and why he feels this way.

And I'm actually incredibly aware that the girl isn't up to anything, I happen to be the girl.

You are assuming practically everything you have said and I really don’t understand how you feel like you are capable of commenting with this level of accuracy.

Do you really think that telling people to not discuss their problems with their SO is a good idea and solid advice? Oh I know what a good idea will be, let’s bottle everything up and not seek out a solution!

My “nice warm coat of anonymity” is purely to not link myself on TSR as OP’s partner to people who may wish to give genuine advice, which I would love them to do.

Also as a sub-note; OP and I did talk, we both shared concerns and in most cases, the answer is always to discuss.

Stop trying to pull the misogyny card so the mods can have a party at my expense

Not at all trying to do that, I just am in complete awe at how idiotic you can be thinking that relationships are a game of Alpha, Beta etc...

Firstly you obviously do not understand the majority of women who are not looking for someone to control their life.

Secondly, a relationship is not a game of finding the most alpha male, some of us are intelligent beings and whilst I agree that at a natural, instinctive level, we all search for the best mate to produce a family. It is almost impossible to believe that this is all someone thinks about.

I really to pity the girl who is subjected to your "alpha behaviour" and really hope that instead you have found or find someone that you can respect enough to be able to share your concerns with and build a healthy relationship.

I didn't read that, and I don't intend to.

I didn't read that, and I don't intend to. Skipped to the last bit about healthy relationship. Yours is so healthy that you're communicating to your 'bf' in 3rd person anonymously and giving him advice secretly about what to do with you