18 and 32 weeks pregnant. AMA..

Bollox. It hurts like hell. And then you suddenly realise that you have a baby, and it's all ok again.

Anyone told you yet that you'll probably poo during delivery? Just keeping it real.

I've heard this, but it's probably a bad idea to watch all those pregnancy shows like one born every minute. Those women's screams are bloodcurdling

Well, in my experience, it didn't hurt that much. I had a five and a half hour labour, no pain relief other than gas and air, no tearing and was home the same day -- my pregnancy was worse than my birth!

Every birth is completely different. I was told the sweep wouldn't work because my son was my first - it did. I was told I'd be in labour for days because he was my first - it was over in less than six hours. I was told I'd go over my due date - he was born on his due date. I was told I was too small to have a natural birth - I did. I was told I'd definitely have an epidural - I didn't. I was told I'd probably have third degree tears from being so small - I didn't at all. And I was told I'd be in hospital for a while - I was home the same day with my perfect little bundle.

If your parents were not supportive do you think you'd still be able to keep it? (Since you mentioned you had a termination appointment)

Was lazy and naive with contraception. Used it sometimes, didn't use it a lot of times and didn't get pregnant at first so we thought that him pulling out was working.

I don't believe I've wasted my life, I have a great support system

Stupid comment. Not everyone has the same plans for their life as you do. Even if this was an accident it's not necessarily a bad thing. I'm sure the baby will have a loving family and grow up just fine, especially since she's expressed she has a good support system.

My family comes from a working class background. My mother was 21 when I was born, my father 19. On top of that my mother and father got divorced when I was about 7. My mother also suffers from clinical depression.

Both my parents remarried, with my father giving remarkably little to me, although my relationship with him is fine. I was given everything I wanted throughout my childhood and was never disadvantaged because my parents worked hard to make it so. I'm going to Sheffield to study BSc Psychology in a week.

This kind of thinking is backward and only exists because the media and common consensus tells you should think like this. The mother will be fine. Stop trying to scare her The child will grow up just fine as long as it has parents who care about them.

But you don't feel a burden on others in your life?

You are generalizing your own experience to everyone in this situation.

How do you feel knowing that, without a degree to get a high-paying job, you may struggle to fully support your child?

(I'm not trying to attack your choice, because it is your choice at the end of the day, but I just can't help but feel that the child is going to suffer because you had it so young. I mean, you're barely old enough to support yourself, and now a child? How are you going to buy them things? How are you going to bring in money for food and rent, and care for it at the same time? I just think your decision is a bit naive, that's all).

On a slightly lighter note, what do you plan to name him/her?

That's fantastic, I hope my birth goes as smoothly as yours did.
I wanna do a natural birth too but my mum says I will probably end up getting an epi. They said I'm measuring small (although I feel huge) so I might have to be induced early

Lol. I've done it four times. You got lucky.

Delayed for 20 years? Because that is your role now, anything beyond the traditional professional father/stay at home mother is incredibly societally destabilising.

My intention wasn't to generalise. It was to give my experience as an example.

Stupid comment. It's attitudes like these that lead to unequal opportunities for kids. Even if this was intentional, a 18 year old kid that still relies on others to take care of herself, will not be able to take the same care of a baby. As I said above, at best she will be a burden on others, at worst the child will suffer.

Stupid comment. It's attitudes like these that lead to unequal opportunities for kids. Even if this was intentional, a 18 year old kid that still relies on others to take care of herself, will not be able to take the same care of a baby. As I said above, at best she will be a burden on others, at worst the child will suffer.

Everybody needs help sometimes, even mothers in their 30s and 40s. I will be able to take care of my baby, thank you very much and my child will not suffer.

Everybody needs help sometimes, even mothers in their 30s and 40s. I will be able to take care of my baby, thank you very much and my child will not suffer.